Socialization and Psychological Maltreatment: Isolating Children and Teenagers

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of Them This post deals with parents isolating and controlling their children’s social interactions; of course my parents and many other homeschooling parents have engaged in many other forms of control, but this is one that people don't seem to realize is a problem. Below, I give some examples of social isolation and control in my own life, and then reference work from Roberta Hibbard, Jane Barlow, and Harriet MacMillan to show how social isolation can be a serious problem for children who are subjected to it. … [Read more...]

Why the Homeschool Movement Was So Frightening

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground The stories on Homeschoolers Anonymous have been more triggering for me lately. HA is hosting a series called “It hurts me more than you.” Then today Cynthia Jeub, a daughter of a well-known homeschool family with 16 children,shared her story of the abuse she and her siblings have received, and still are receiving. … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts: Part 5

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsFor a few years, I had the privilege of serving in my church in several ways. I took classes, my husband and I took care of a significant portion of the landscape (which had been sorely neglected) – creating sacred spaces for people to find quiet time with the Lord, and I assisted with preparing food for Sunday morning fellowship. I also had the opportunity to teach classes over our final year there. … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts Part 4

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsDuring all of these years, I would come to church, sit four or five rows from the pulpit, right on the center aisle, and listen to Elliot and others preach grace, forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration. Elliot preached and preached. I wept and wept openly. I could not sing. I could not so much as close my eyes in prayer. I could not stand for the blessing at the end of the service. I knew that no matter how much Elliot preached those words to everyone else in the congregation, they were not for me. And I would email him and tell him as much. Without response. … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts: Part 2

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsSpeaking out against wrongs being perpetrated in the church . . . that was my most egregious sin.  And because of it, I had lies told about me, people eavesdropped on my conversations, and I received hate mail from a group of people telling me that I was a terrible person.My only response was to continue talking occasionally to the lay leader of the church, Denise, and to send Elliot  my questions and thoughts in emails – often asking if we could meet to talk, but never getting a response. At one point (perhaps more than one but only one I know about), Elliot shared my emails with the consistory and they wrote a letter telling me th … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts: Part 1

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsPlease welcome Ellen to NLQ and the SASBN!I came to our most recent church as broken as I thought I could possibly be. I even remember thinking, “What more could they possibly do to me that would hurt me? It’s all been done.”How wrong I was. … [Read more...]

Reunion

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by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsIn the early 1980s I was in college, living on fraternity/sorority row.  But it wasn't a sorority house.  It was the local branch of Maranatha Christian Churches/Campus Ministries founded by Bob and Rose Weiner.  As I have described here and here, Maranatha was a Christian group with strong authoritarian control.   We lived in the Maranatha House and went to church in the meeting room of that house, and we slept on the sleeping porches on the third floor and tried to get our homework done or hold down our jobs, despite endless outreach meetings, prayer meetings and other Maranatha obligations. … [Read more...]

Vyckie Garrison – How Playing Good Christian Wife Almost Killed Me

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Today on Alternet NLQ's own Vyckie Garrison's story was published. Taken largely from her talk at the American Atheist Convention in Salt Lake City it's a fascinating read.Alternet - How Playing Good Christian Housewife Almost Killed MeThanks M. Dolon Hickmon for the excellent graphics that accompany this piece. Vyckie Garrison was once a minor celebrity in the Quiverfull Movement, made famous by TV’s Duggar family. As a devout, Bible-believing Christian and the mother of seven homeschooled children, Garrison spent 16 years, with her husband, publishing a newspaper for families on a similar path. Today, via a website called No Longer Quivering, she publishes resources for women leavi … [Read more...]

In 2014, We Still Consider Bloodshed as a Natural Consequence for Petty Sins

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by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous Circumspection My friends, bear with me. I spent until 2AM listening to this sermon, and then replied to the lovely person that sent it to me to critique. Here was my response:   So many thoughts. I'm very glad I left religion behind. Especially his horrible god. He listed aaaall these mercies that his god bestowed upon David and yet he kept overlooking a gaping hole in his logic: David's son still died. Where was God's mercy there? Why the hell do we sit back and nod our heads, agreeing with the theology that, when a sin is committed, death logically follows Christianity is based in blood. It's barbarism. We live in 2014 and we still w … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Remembering 9/11 – Love Endures

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For once I cannot dispute something posted at the usual hysterically histrionic site Ladies Against Feminism. They posted this piece remembering the national tragedy of 9/11 and how we forgot our divisions to come together and that love itself is the only thing that really matters.This was one of those rare moments in this country where religion, race, class or other divisions suddenly didn't matter. Many citizens of our nation managed to put aside their differences and objections to just be people helping other people.Love: A Manifesto of Optimism by George Grant … [Read more...]


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