Appreciation Rant

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by Kaleesh Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (And Found) Mind of Kaleesha WilliamsThe full quote is, "The woman who serves unnoticed and un-thanked is a woman who loves God more than she desires the praise of others. She is confident that all her unnoticed deeds on earth are noticed in Heaven. She is satisfied knowing she has pleased her Lord."A believing friend sent me this meme, expressing her frustration with this aspect of religion. It rather burns me, too. Just yesterday I was doing something benign for Denny and he thanked me, quite sincerely. Then he paused thoughtfully and, with much emotion, expressed how sad it made him to think of all the years I and the … [Read more...]

Journal Entry, April 1, 2010

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsIf you’ve ever wondered what goes on inside the head of a person who is mired in spiritual abuse, this is an example. It is an entry from the journal that I would take to church and write in during services. This entry is from Maundy Thursday, April 1, 2010. I sat in the very back pew and observed the service. I could not participate. As you will see, I was convinced that God had completely rejected me because of the way the leadership had been treating me for about a decade. This journal entry documents the level to which spiritual abuse had taken me. As the leaders and congregation moved through the service, this is what I wrote: … [Read more...]

Part 3 – Navigating the Justice System: As a Young Adult

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist In Spite Of ThemPlease see also Navigating the Justice System Part 1: Alone at Age 9 and Navigating the Justice System: When my Parents Went to CourtWhen I was about 17, I moved out. Once it was truly clear to me that what happened in my home was abusive and not normal I decided to try to end the abuse for everyone. I started making regular calls to Children's Aid on my father. … [Read more...]

Part 2 – Navigating the Justice System: When My Parents Went to Court

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemThis part of Navigating the Justice System deals with a time in my life when my parents went to court and I didn't, but I am including it in the middle of a three part series since it hinges them together. Here is what happened when my parents went to court: … [Read more...]

Part 1 – Navigating the Justice System: Alone at Nine Years Old

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemTrigger Warning: For child abuse/neglect/mistreatmentWhen I was about 9, my parents were investigated by Children's Aid. Social workers came out to talk to us. They met with us and found out that my parents spanked as punishment - which made sense since my parents had posted "The 21 Rules of This House" next to the dining room table. They came back a … [Read more...]

What Lens Do The Duggar Kids See Through?

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground Recently one of the girls I once babysat called me on phone. She wanted to talk about something that happened in the past between us. I miss her and her family, but mostly, when I look back, I feel pain. … [Read more...]

Magic Words Syndrome

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI recently re-read a couple of the emails (or nasty-grams, as I call them) I received from one of the board members of my old church. It was quite interesting to engage with them now, without the incredible pain of betrayal and judgement I felt at the time they were first sent. … [Read more...]

Revisiting Steadfast Daughters in a Quivering World: Part 6 – Soul Binding

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[Note: this series is dedicated to Quivering Daughtersby the former-Quiverfull moms at No Longer Quivering.] by Daisy My name is Daisy. I am a good person…but I was a bad parent. … [Read more...]

Revisiting Steadfast Daughters in a Quivering World Part 5 – Confessions of a Quiverfull Hero

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[Note: this series is dedicated to Quivering Daughters by the former-Quiverfull moms at No Longer Quivering.]by Daisy I was only 19 when I arrived at Christianity’s door, bruised and highly impressionable and, because of my family situation, determined to do a better job of sorting out my life than my parents had done. Victims of abuse in their own homes, my parents had learned very early to dissociate from their emotions. Our home was an emotionally sterile one and, although I know now that this is not true, as as child I believed my parents did not love me. I decided that when *I* had kids, if they grew up knowing nothing else, they would know for sure that I loved them more than bre … [Read more...]

Sex Ed

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by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (And Found) Mind of Kaleesha WilliamsAre you going to give your children sex education and how?Okay, how about some random, rambling thoughts and interesting links? … [Read more...]


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