When Church Hurts: Part 1

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsPlease welcome Ellen to NLQ and the SASBN!I came to our most recent church as broken as I thought I could possibly be. I even remember thinking, “What more could they possibly do to me that would hurt me? It’s all been done.”How wrong I was. … [Read more...]

Reunion

by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsIn the early 1980s I was in college, living on fraternity/sorority row.  But it wasn't a sorority house.  It was the local branch of Maranatha Christian Churches/Campus Ministries founded by Bob and Rose Weiner.  As I have described here and here, Maranatha was a Christian group with strong authoritarian control.   We lived in the Maranatha House and went to church in the meeting room of that house, and we slept on the sleeping porches on the third floor and tried to get our homework done or hold down our jobs, despite endless outreach meetings, prayer meetings and other Maranatha obligations. … [Read more...]

Vyckie Garrison – How Playing Good Christian Wife Almost Killed Me

Today on Alternet NLQ's own Vyckie Garrison's story was published. Taken largely from her talk at the American Atheist Convention in Salt Lake City it's a fascinating read.Alternet - How Playing Good Christian Housewife Almost Killed MeThanks M. Dolon Hickmon for the excellent graphics that accompany this piece. Vyckie Garrison was once a minor celebrity in the Quiverfull Movement, made famous by TV’s Duggar family. As a devout, Bible-believing Christian and the mother of seven homeschooled children, Garrison spent 16 years, with her husband, publishing a newspaper for families on a similar path. Today, via a website called No Longer Quivering, she publishes resources for women leavi … [Read more...]

In 2014, We Still Consider Bloodshed as a Natural Consequence for Petty Sins

by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous Circumspection My friends, bear with me. I spent until 2AM listening to this sermon, and then replied to the lovely person that sent it to me to critique. Here was my response:   So many thoughts. I'm very glad I left religion behind. Especially his horrible god. He listed aaaall these mercies that his god bestowed upon David and yet he kept overlooking a gaping hole in his logic: David's son still died. Where was God's mercy there? Why the hell do we sit back and nod our heads, agreeing with the theology that, when a sin is committed, death logically follows Christianity is based in blood. It's barbarism. We live in 2014 and we still w … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Remembering 9/11 – Love Endures

For once I cannot dispute something posted at the usual hysterically histrionic site Ladies Against Feminism. They posted this piece remembering the national tragedy of 9/11 and how we forgot our divisions to come together and that love itself is the only thing that really matters.This was one of those rare moments in this country where religion, race, class or other divisions suddenly didn't matter. Many citizens of our nation managed to put aside their differences and objections to just be people helping other people.Love: A Manifesto of Optimism by George Grant … [Read more...]

I Lost a Part of Me That I Will Never Get Back

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground “Silence in the face of evil is itself evil: God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act.” ~ Dietrich Bonhoeffer HT, Ryan Stollar ____ I am not a huge fan of the Dr. Quinn the Medicine Woman series (in fact, I have a whole post written about the literary problems with this series sitting in my drafts, that I have not published). But there is one episode that I have watched over and over and over again. I have watched it so many times I have the lines memorized, yet I still watch it again and again. … [Read more...]

The Place Where Light Enters

by AJ from her blog I Am Phoenix A friend shared with me the other day a bit of wisdom that hit a thirsty place in my soul. It has soaked into my skin, and I hear it beside me each time I turn my head. So I thought I would share it with you here today."The wound is the place where the Light enters." - RumiThat is all. … [Read more...]

When Love Isn’t Enough – The Musser Family Tragedy – Part 2

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideBefore Tommy arrived, Susanna was already exhausted: "Get up half an hour earlier because Daniel will be working with his dad and grandpa all day.  Katie and Verity are still dry; take them to their potties right away.  Have Peter fill the humidifiers.  Need to eat.  Make sure to fit in phonics flashcards with the little boys and catch up on our history reading.  Sit down and breathe in the sweet scent of clean heads. Ask John Michael to do his “cleaning the glass” chore before the therapist gets here.  Ask Laura to write baby bath on the grocery list before I forget again.  Have Joshua scrub up some sweet potatoes and put them i … [Read more...]

What is the Bravest Thing You’ve Ever Done?

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixThe bravest thing I have done so far in my life has been allowing myself to feel.I was able to make it as far as I did  in life appearing on the outside to be normal and functional because I buried the past. Completely. I didn't talk about it to anyone, and I didn't acknowledge it to myself.Being numb to it was the only way I could survive. I purposely hung around with people who didn't talk about feelings or emotional things. I buried who I was, even if it meant I also had to bury my intuition, my creativity, my feelings, my empathy, and any form of introspection. … [Read more...]

1971-1972 Good Baptist Boys Don’t Dance

by Bruce Gerenscer cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardNinth grade school picture, wearing the welfare glasses I got in 1971. It took me all of 4 weeks to earn enough money to get a pair wire rimmed glasses. I was so embarrassed to wear these glasses. Everyone knew our family was on welfare.It’s September of 1971 and I am fourteen and a ninth grade student at Central Junior High School in Findlay, Ohio. It’s time for gym class and today we are going to square dance. Except I won’t be square dancing because the church I attended, Trinity Baptist Church, considered dancing a sin. … [Read more...]