Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Is It Right For A Mother To Keep An Adult Daughter At Home?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Suffering Makes You More Holy?

by Anonymous from Sow With Vision - Sowing While Suffering | Bitter WatersEditor's note: This is another one of those toxic reoccurring themes in Quiverfull: that suffering is somehow redemptive. Right after they tell you that your illness is punishment from God from unconfessed sin or generational curse. Or perhaps you weren't using the right essential oils or you drank too much soda. While there's only a little blaming for the suffering in this piece the thought that suffering and serious affliction somehow makes one more holy and closer to God is just as toxic and wrong. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why is Government so Feared?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.While reading through Zsuzsanna Anderson's blog one thing jumps out again and again that I've noticed in most of the more conservative Evangelical and Quiverfull blogs - Fear of the federal government as some evil beast seeking to destroy Christian families. Like this bit from Anderson: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Happy Mother’s Day! Here’s Some Mother Fearing-Mongering!

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Grown Up BabiesEditor's note: One thing you can count on with Nancy is that she'll find a way to add to your must do list to keep your children from backsliding straight down to hell. This is that. Spiritual busy work. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: ‘Suck It Up’ and Smile?

by JES from Strangers and Pilgrims on Earth - Thoughts on Strong and Courageous Women ~ Not Prone to 'Fainting Fits'Editor's note: Continuing on from yesterday evening's theme of what is a 'strong woman' this momma seems to think it's the old 'suck it up and smile' thing that Nancy Campbell and others preach in Quiverfull. Deny your emotions and do what you need to do. While there are times when putting your own emotions on the shelf in order to deal with some in the moment situation it's not very mentally healthy to do that as a life style. Eventually those suppressed emotions will bubble to the surface like so much hot lava and scorch everything in their path. … [Read more...]

I’m From Iowa

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsEditor's note: Posting this in light of yesterday being Super Tuesday and the increasingly serious political season. Ellen's explanation of the Iowa caucus is interesting. Watching the Quiverfull Evangelicals try to figure out who to vote for is even more interesting. Nancy Campbell is heavily pushing Ted Cruz, while others are lining up behind Donald Trump, so it's anyone's race in the world of Christianity. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Make the Best of all Situations?

by Vyckie Garrison at Raw Story - Duggar Cult Survivor Wants You to Meet the Powerful Women Who Make Other Women's Lives a Living HellEditor's note: Interrupting the nauseating screed by the Pearls on why women should always be cheerful to their menfolks to bring you this -- a recounting of poor Serene Campbell Allison's winter with no plumbing or heating. This is the reality for many women in Quiverfull when the house is filled with more children that can be supported on a Quiverfull male's likely labor-related small income. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Do Quiverfull Families Do Awful Things To Their Families and Claim God Told Them To Do It?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.One thing is for certain, in our real life circles of acquaintances at the old Quiverfull churches and in Quiverfull families online people make risky, not good for their children, their families, their finances, their health, and their emotional well being all the time and justify it by claiming that it's something that God called them to do. I'm talking about when it looks to the outside world that they're doing exactly … [Read more...]

When Reality Collides With Earnest Expectations

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding FundamentalI’ve never been much good at New Year’s Resolutions.I tend to over-think everything including all the areas in which I need to improve... so much... that instead of getting motivated and energized by the practice, I end up defeated and discouraged. I just can not seem to make it work for me.I know what the problem is. My resolutions are entirely unrealistic and being that ‘resolutions‘ are supposed to be made for the long haul, it is necessary to evaluate them for their importance and edit out the trivial if one has any hope of keeping them. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 7 – Michael Pearl Defending His Strawman?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Spank and Save a ChildEditor's note: Finally this load of copswallop is at an end. More blaming and shaming while claiming quite falsely that the movement's children will be hiring our poor undisciplined loser children (in his mind). Tell me again who's children are living in abject poverty yet claiming they are successful? He's doubling down on a lie. … [Read more...]