Is This Modest?

January 11, 2013 By 12 Comments
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by Calulu Yesterday afternoon I was doing a ramble around the interwebs when I ran across this article by Jezebel.com. It was titled “Batshit Ridiculous Modesty Website Reminds You Women Just Can’t Win” and was about a modesty website. After I read it I started thinking I’d seen the

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Quoting Quiverfull: The “Suckling Mother”?

January 11, 2013 By 19 Comments
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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers

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Prospect.org: Purity Culture is Rape Culture

January 10, 2013 By 1 Comment
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by Sierra Trigger warning: The linked article contains a graphic description of gang rape. In fact, the warning applies to all of the links in this post. E.J. Graff at The American Prospect writes, in Purity Culture is Rape Culture: Too many people still conceive of rape as a man’s overwhelming urge to enjoy the body [...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Modern Society Oblivious?

January 10, 2013 By 49 Comments
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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers

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Unconditional Respect = Participation Trophies?

January 9, 2013 By 3 Comments
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by Love. Learning. Liberty. Growing up I always had a special attraction to World War II stories.  I was taught to lionize Corrie Ten Boom and others who stood up against the Nazis, risking their lives to protect others.  I fell in love with Dietrich Boenhoffer.  I read Alexander

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