Daughter of the Patriarchy: The Sickness ~ Pt 1

by SierraAs an adolescent girl, growing up under William Branham’s Message of the Hour, I stood poised before a great fall. Sometimes I felt a cold breeze rising from the pit in front of me. I knew that against my will I was edging closer, and would someday have no choice but to jump in. But I looked frantically for an outlet or a bridge, digging in my heels against the edges of the pit. The name of the abyss was womanhood.I was taught that the Bible recognized three classes of people: men, women, and children. In God’s plan for the family, authority descended directly in that order. Men obeyed God, women obeyed men, and children obeyed all three. For those living within this scheme, God … [Read more...]

People Magazine: Michelle Duggar says, "We're ready for more!"

What if God hates Quiverfull? How would Jim Bob & Michelle know?by VyckieIn the latest issue of People magazine, Jim Bob & Michelle Duggar say they are ready to consider a 20th child.The only thing that surprises me about this statement is the fact that Michelle is not already pregnant ~ I was predicting that she'd make an announcement when she received that "Mother of the Year" award at Vision Forum's Baby Conference last month.Since writing the latest NLQ FAQ: Which of Your Kids Would You Rather Had Never Been Born?, I have been thinking more about confirmation bias and Quiverfull.Specifically, I wonder, "What if God hates Quiverfull ~ what could He do to communicate Hi … [Read more...]

OneNewsNow ~ "Pro-Family" Christian newswire: "Birth-control pills are just as damaging as abortion."

"Two Christian family advocates are speaking out against birth-control pills, saying contraception goes against biblical teachings about having families." ~ OneNewsNowby Vyckie GarrisonHat tip to NLQ reader, Tim Williamson of The Blue Frog, for bringing this news item to my attention, saying: Saw this on OneNewsNow, the "news" arm of the AFA (Acting Fundamentally Absurd.)The Bible and Birth ControlThe article details "family advocates," Geoffrey Botkin's and Doug Phillips' Quiverfull ideal "that birth-control pills are just as damaging as abortion." "As the fertilized egg tries to implant, it's not able to do so. And so then, an abortion occurs," he explains. "The people who [were] b … [Read more...]

Above Rubies Magazine: When Bad Things Happen to Quiverfull Moms

by Ima WakenowWhen I received my latest issue of Above Rubies I was truly looking forward to it.  Everyone raved about this magazine that has been “Strengthening Families Across the World” for 32 years.  It is a much anticipated event due to the sporadic publishing of the magazine.  You see, AR only publishes when enough donations have come in to make a complete distribution of their full color 32 page periodical.  I never really had the opportunity to read AR consistently but I had picked up an issue here and there.  It was never an earth moving experience. Until now.The entire issue seems to have a common theme running through.  The pages are stuffed full of testimonials about various … [Read more...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy: The Atheist

by SierraWilla was an atheist. A self-styled “unschooler,” she attended homeschool conventions and activities with her two children, Alexis (9) and Steven (5), and it was there that she met my mother. Willa’s husband worked in a field that I knew only abstractly as something involving computers and sales. He was a passive, taciturn man with whom I never exchanged a single word. Their children were boisterous, especially Alexis. Willa attached herself to my mother very quickly. Since Alexis was my age, we were an automatic source of play dates, which often really amounted to tea parties for our mothers. Common interests seemed to abound at first: homeschooling, books, and bargains. Both ador … [Read more...]

When It's Time to Let Go of an Unhealthy Relationship

by VyckieIt seems crazy to me now ~ but the thought of divorcing Warren did not seriously enter my mind until three days before I went to my attorney and filed the paperwork.Even at the height of my exasperation, when I could clearly see that Warren's behavior with the children was abusive and was slowly, day by day, crushing their spirits and stunting/warping their emotional growth ~ divorce was NOT an option.Among evangelicals there's a popular quote from Ruth Bell Graham ~ wife of evangelist, Billy Graham: I've never thought of divorce in all these 35 years of marriage ~ but, I did think of murder a few times. That was me too.  At one point, I was desperately praying to the Lord fo … [Read more...]

"Miscarriage is for a moment; a soul is forever"

Doug Phillips' "Hopeful Theology of Miscarriage"Speaking this past weekend at "The Baby Conference," in San Antonio, Texas, Vision Forum speaker, Doug Phillips gave a talk entitled, "A Hopeful Theology of Miscarriage" ~ a summary of which, Phillips shared on his blog.After taking the position that not all children who die go to heaven ~ but only the "children called of God," Phillips discussed "the significant role that the unborn and young children play in God’s’ covenant of grace ..." and then added:Though acknowledging the sadness and loss of miscarriage — with he and his wife Beall having lost two unborn children — Doug offered two key points of hope that the loss of a child in the … [Read more...]

How To Keep Someone With You Forever

About a month ago, I came across this article:  How To Keep Someone With You Foreverfrom Issendai's Superhero Training Journal.  The message has been haunting me ever since because I believe it is so true of abusive, patriarchal relationships ~ and it was certainly the case in my own marriage.Quick summary:You create a sick system.A sick system has four basic rules:Rule 1: Keep them too busy to think.Rule 2: Keep them tired.Rule 3: Keep them emotionally involved.Rule 4: Reward intermittently.Wow, huh?I would love to post the entire article here as the author goes on to explain exactly how to set up such a system ~ and so much of it sounded all too familiar to me.For e … [Read more...]

Christian Culture Clash: Fundamentalist Patriarchy and My Father’s Church

Part 1 ~ Our Church: Golgothaby Ex-AdrielSundays were my favorite. Early in the morning, before the sun rose, Father knocked on my bedroom door. I dressed quickly in the pre-dawn dimness, and we drove to church together, just us two. A quick stop for the customary chocolate crème pie from a gas station, and then we would be at Golgotha*, pulling into the empty lot before anyone else arrived for church.Father ran the bus ministry. In that morning stillness, I snuggled into an extra coat of his to protect my church dress, and ‘helped’ him check the fluids and tire pressure on the old school bus. When I was a young child, I rode with him off to the shelters to pick up all of the homeless w … [Read more...]

Listen to Vyckie Garrison of No Longer Quivering on The God Discussion Radio Show

A Look Inside the Quiverfull MovementHave you heard of the Duggars, with their 19 children? They are part of a fundamentalist Christian movement known as "Quiverfull."On this segment of God Discussion, we'll get to meet Vyckie, a "mother of many" who is no longer quivering.For details, visit The God Discussion BlogTalkRadio channel.Discuss!Comments are open ;) … [Read more...]


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