It’s Been a Good Year

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons I started blogging in the early part of this year mostly because I was bored to tears. I was working on getting editing jobs, but they were few and far between, and my health just doesn’t allow for outside-the-house employment. I also started writing here because I wanted to finally say out loud a lot of the things that had been slowly germinating over the past four or five years but had never been in a place where I felt capable of expressing them. … [Read more...]

God Killed Our Baby: Isn’t God Awesome?

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardEvangelical Christians believe that their God is the giver and taker of life and that he controls the universe. As the old song goes, he’s got the whole world in his hands. Everything that happens in their life is according to the purpose and plan of their God. When tragedy comes their way, Evangelicals turn to prayer and the Bible to find hope and comfort. The Bible says in Romans 8:28: And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. … [Read more...]

Differentiation and Emotional Cut-Offs

by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemMurray Bowen's theories on differentiation of self, and emotional cut-offs provide an excellent lens for viewing the complex relationships that exist between family members who were raised in quiverfull and Christian patriarchal families, where the family roles are artificially skewed by religious influence and the necessity for sibling-parenting due to sheer numbers in the family. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Feminists Hate Women?

by Paul Washer as quoted by Ladies Against Feminism - Recovering Womanhood And we’re also a society that hates women. Now you say, “Yeah, those male chauvinists, they hate women,” No, women hate women.The people that hate women more than anyone else on this planet are feminists. … [Read more...]

An Average Homeschooler: Introduction

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons  [me, the first year I was homeschooled]   I’ve been avoiding writing about this. Even once I started planning out the series, I debated with myself for weeks over whether or not I wanted to write it out– and then post it. I’ve talked a lot about some of the other aspects of growing up in fundamentalism, but I’ve avoided talking about my experience with homeschooling for a few reasons. I’ve touched on it a few times, and I’ve even written posts for Homeschoolers Anonymous and for Leaving Fundamentalism. Even as I wrote those posts, I was hesitant about sharing them here, although I did eventually. … [Read more...]

True Love Doesn’t Wait

by Rosie Franklin cross posted from her blog Disrupting Dinner PartiesTrigger warning- Christian virginity/purity culture throughout (which is absolutely not sarcasm as a trigger warning). __________________Also, I told you not to read this, Mom._______________ I talked a bit Tuesday about how I lost my virginity, in my post on rape culture. I sort of mentioned but didn’t go into detail about the fact that the loss of my virginity was somewhat emotionally unmooring for me, in addition to the manner in which I “lost” it being awful. So today I’m going to talk about what I was taught about sex and virginity. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women All Want Strings Attached?

by Ross Douthat posted at Ladies Against Feminism and The National Review - Feminist Pioneers Out to Destroy Your Daughters [R]ecent generations of women have been ill served by feminism’s embrace of the sexual revolution. Feminists posited that women and men were identical in their sexuality, and that only an absurd double standard had required men to treat women respectfully. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: A Christmas Word?

by Doug Wilson of Blog and Mablog - A Huge White Snarl Flapping Behind YouTrigger-warning! Doug is being very judgmental and hateful in his Christmas cyber altar call. So here it comes — a Christmas word to the faithless. I am using the word faithless in both senses. I am speaking to those who do not believe, and I am speaking to those who are being disobedient to what they actually do know (Rom. 1:19-20). Ultimately the two categories are only one, but I am speaking to those who are without faith and those trying to throw it away, wanting to pretend they never had it. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Heartbreaking Quotes From “To Train Up A Child”

by Debi and Michael Pearl from "To Train Up A Child" as quoted at the site Why Not Train A ChildPage 9 At five months, she was too unknowing to be punished for disobedience. But for her own good (and our peace of mind), we attempted to train her not to climb the stairs by coordinating the voice command of “No” with little spats on her bare legs. The switch was a twelve-once long, one-eighth-inch diameter sprig from a … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Created to be Joyfully Submissive?

by Becky Stelzer from Ladies Against Feminism and Answers in Genesis - Inferior or Equal? Modern extreme feminism places women in authority over men, while traditional Darwinian evolution places women far below men. And since the Bible directs that a wife be in submission to her husband, even Christians may wonder, “Is the woman inferior or equal?” … [Read more...]