Damaged Goods

 by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeTrue Love Doesn't Wait author Von Ohlman has been taking on the writings of one Michael Pearl, author of "To Train Up A Child" and founder of No Greater Joy Ministry.You remember To "Train Up A Child" don't you? That child training book that has been blamed for the beating and starvation death of adoptive child Hana Grace Williams and the deaths of a few other children?  The trial of Hana's adoptive parents started last week. They'd been charged with murder, as they well should be. Michael Pearl and his cruel book also hold some culpability in my mind. But back to the subject. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The Groom’s View

by Joshua Ohlman at his father Vaughn Ohlman's site True Love Doesn't Wait - Betrothal Announcement Here is the announcement  that Joshua sent to his home church in Lubbock:Proverbs 18:22 “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”I would like to praise God for making me a recipient of the blessings found in the verse above. A week ago Friday I had the incredible blessing of flying to Michigan and meeting and betrothing to myself a wonderful woman who had been known as Laura Camp, and who we now call Laura Ohlman (betrothed). … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Queens Serve?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Do  You Want To Be A Queen?Do you complain that all you seem to do is serve everyone in your home? Oh forgive me. I have been guilty of making the same complaint! However, did you know that serving belongs to rulers? It belongs to kings and queens. … [Read more...]

Escaping the Emotional Damage of Our Fundamentalist Christian Past

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardMaybe.If a person is a relative newcomer to Christian Fundamentalism, and they decide to leave it for a non-Fundamentalist Christian religion, another religion, or atheism, I think it is likely quite easy to view their Fundamentalist past as nothing more than a blip in their life.  However, for those of us who were raised up in Christian Fundamentalism and spent years attending Fundamentalist churches, it is much harder for us to escape. … [Read more...]

Dousing a Fire

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixBack when things just rolled right off me.Why do I often feel so sensitive, defensive and maligned against? Some days, it's like my body is a magnet that draws to itself and magnifies each hurt, each bit of slander, each little judgement I sense may be directed towards me. What some people can easily shrug off is like a crushing weight to me.I used to be able to shrug off implied insults or hurts more easily when I was young. They seemed to roll off me like water off a duck's back. I just didn't get insulted. Direct insults didn't hurt me, even when they were directed right at me. It's like I knew I was a winner, and … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: What is Betrothal?

by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - What is Betrothal?(Trigger warning for those recovering from legalism and extreme control by others! You've been warned.) Hosea 2:19-20 And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in lovingkindness, and in mercies. I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness: and thou shalt know the LORD. … [Read more...]

Fascinating Womanhood Review: The Protector

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons This chapter is devoted to the second “masculine need”: “a man needs to function, feel needed, and excel women as a protector.” A man being a protector is probably one of the more foundational concepts about men in conservative religious environments– it is most especially true where patriarchy and complementarianism are fiercely held. It appears in a variety of ways, some more subtle than others. … [Read more...]

The Evangelical Closet

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardMost homes and apartments have closets. We use closets to store things, keep things out of sight, and to maintain order.  Metaphorically, a closet is a state or condition of secrecy, privacy, or obscurity.A few years back my family and I lived in Yuma, Arizona. We lived in a beautiful home, the largest home we have ever lived in. (twice the size our present house) The … [Read more...]

Sneaky Subconscious

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixI've  been experiencing some shifts lately, and my eyes keep opening up to new breakthroughs. Some with my subconscious. It's completely exciting for me. Somewhat painful. I feel like things are ripping on the inside of me. In a good way. I feel somewhat more balanced now than I used to be. I'm getting used to the constant changes in my perspectives. I feel like I accept things more. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Betrothal Contracts?

by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - The Betrothal of Joshua and LauraCongratulations to Joshua and Laura on their upcoming nuptialsIt is with great joy in the mighty blessing of the Lord that we, the undersigned, in obedience to God do Covenant or Witness thereto that: … [Read more...]


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