So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? Tips: Dealing With Face to Face Confrontations

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by Suzanne TitkemeyerOne of the biggest challenges I had during my recovery from spiritual abuse was what to say to the people from my old church circle when I'd run into them on the streets of my small town. They'd always want to rip into me on the subject of leaving that church, eager to issue 'Come to Jesus' talks or try and heap condemnation on me. I took to running the other way until I developed a coping strategy that allowed me to interact with them and put them on the spot. … [Read more...]

My Abusive Relationship Was Typical

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger warning for abuse and sexual violence Last week, I wrote an article for xoJane and I shared some things about my past that I haven’t shared on the internet before. I don’t enjoy talking about my abusive relationship at all, and I especially avoid thinking about my last semester at PCC, which was nightmarish with exceedingly few good memories. I was extremely vulnerable in that piece, knowing that there would be people around the internet that would shit on it. … [Read more...]

News: It’s A Crazy Evangelical World Out There!

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Lots of interesting stories out there this week following the celebrations of Easter and 4/20 on the same day:From World Magazine.Com: Looks like Teen Mania/Global Expeditions has lost its Garden Valley, Texas property to foreclosure - Management ManiaVice.com calls the Lourdes Torres lawsuit against Doug Phillips 'an indictment of the Biblical Patriarchy movement and fundamentalism writ large' and explains why this is very bad news for fundamentalism - A Masturbation Lawsuit is Rattling Christian Homeschoolers … [Read more...]

Lourdes Torres, Christian Homeschooling and Consent

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismI recently came upon an excellent example of what I was talking about when I wrote my “The Tale of Two Boxes” post several years ago. Homeschool leader Chris Jeub had this to say in a recent blog post titled “Patriarchy Has Got To Go“: In a nutshell, Phillips is being sued by his former nanny, someone he knew for over a decade and was very close to the Phillips family. Her lawyers have graphic details of Phillips forcing himself sexually, and Phillips’ lawyers are denying little of it, claiming “consensual” contact between adults.For those of us in the Christian homeschool community, this is just as bad as guilty. Phillips i … [Read more...]

Coming Out of the Cult Closet

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixThe last year has been full of shifts, most of them tumultuous, but most of them ending up being quite positive. In the actual moment, each change didn't feel positive. It felt like I was wearing skin that didn't fit me anymore, and I was trying to wrestle out of it. Much like a critter shedding it's old skin. Painful, itchy, uncomfortable, exhausting. But then each time I shed an old layer, it felt great afterwards to relax and sit in the sun, so to speak with spanking new skin that felt all new and glowing. … [Read more...]

News: Bill Gothard’s Mea Culpa

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A statement from Bill Gothard has gone up on his website in the last 24 hours in which he attempts to explain himself. I have withheld this statement in order to honor the request of the Board of Directors to wait until an initial review has taken place. As the review continues, I now want to make this statement.God has brought me to a place of greater brokenness than at any other time in my life. It is a grief to realize how my pride and insensitivity have affected so many people. I have asked the Lord to reveal the underlying causes and He is doing this. … [Read more...]

TTUAC: Dogs, Soldiers and Disturbing Analogies

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismTo Train Up A Child, pp. 2—3 OBEDIENCE TRAININGMost parents don’t think they can train their little children. Training does not necessarily require that the trainee be capable of reason; even mice and rats can be trained to respond to stimuli. Careful training can make a dog perfectly obedient. If a seeing-eye dog can be trained to reliably lead a blind man through the obstacles of a city street, shouldn’t a parent expect more out of an intelligent child? A dog can be trained not to touch a tasty morsel laid in front of him. Can’t a child be trained not to touch? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Shy Children Must Be Trained Out Of It?

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from No Greater Joy magazine by Shalom Pearl Brand - Three Types of Children, Part 3: Building Confidence (Steady/Servant Type) Don’t let your children be shy; help them overcome their fears and reach out to others. Observe your children and determine what is causing them to be shy. Is it only when someone talks to them, or is it all the time? Then, create an environment where you are in control and can train them to be confident. Do not push them to the point that they are afraid. … [Read more...]

News: Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar To Speak At ATI Conferences

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from Stargasm.com - Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar Slated to Speak at ATI Conferences Despite Sexual Abuse ScandalApparently ATI's attempt to paper over the allegations of sexual abuse by former leader Bill Gothard is to get the Bates and the Duggars to speak at their conferences. Nonetheless, it’s apparent that many IBLP and ATI followers — including the Duggars — are still committed to the programs. In fact, according to the newly released “2014 Family Conference Guide” for ATI and IBLP followers, Jim Bob Duggar and Michelle Duggar are slated to speak at three upcoming national conferences. … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused. What Next? – Dealing With Anxiety and Panic

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by Pastor Randy Orndorff of Culpeper United Methodist Church shared with permission from the church websiteEditor's Note: Pastor Randy is the pastor of the church I now attend after my years at the abusive Evangelical church in my past. He's a good guy, he possesses one of the most important important characteristics of a good pastor would wouldn't abuse you, he is not controlling. This new year he actually did something sort of revolutionary for a pastor, he preached an entire series on coping with the slings and arrows of real life. So as part of our series I'll be sharing some of his sermon notes here. The rest can be viewed at the CUMC website. … [Read more...]


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