Dear Happy Full-quiver-er …

by VyckieFrequently in the comments section here at NLQ, we hear from women who are living the quiverfull/patriarchy lifestyle and are loving it ~ these women often feel that No Longer Quivering is portraying *all* QF/P families as oppressive and abusive ~ and understandably, they feel defensive about the perceived attack on their freely-chosen lifestyle.Early on, when we first started this blog, there was an exchange along these lines which I really have been wanting to highlight ~ and I'm finally getting around to digging these posts out of the comment section and bringing them front and center because I believe that the response from "Journey" deserves some serious … [Read more...]

Hey, Hazelle … about "that book…"

by VyckieFor her 13th birthday, I got Hazelle a ticket to Seattle ~ she'll be leaving tomorrow to spend Spring Break with Laura. When Laura lived here with us, she and Hazelle became pretty good friends ;-)This morning, about 5 minutes before leaving for school, Hazelle (who is a 6th grader) asked me to write a response to the letter/book report she wrote for me as a class assignment. I scribbled out a letter and she's off to school ~ here's what I wrote:Dear Hazelle,Thank you for the letter telling me about the book, The Giver ~ which you are reading in school.Back when we were home schooling and attending home church, I heard about a really terrible book (worse than Harry … [Read more...]

I Have Too Many Kids!

   Kiss me right there, Mom! I'm up way too late working on my story ~ thought I'd take a break for a minute and go moderate comments. I found the following from "Cynthia" and started to post my own comment in reply ~ but after typing for a bit, decided I don't want this buried in the comments section ~ it needs to be a post of its own.Here's what Cynthia wrote:Wow, I am amazed how so many things seem to be falling into a straight line for me regarding this issue.I have nine children simply because I was emotionally and spiritually manipulated into a quiverfull mindset. Finally, with the birth of my last child, we realized that we needed to finish what we had started and raise these c … [Read more...]

To Heck With HELL … ‹(ô¿ô)›

Okay ~ I've got my thinking cap on again ;-) You all are sure to really wonder about the apparent randomness of my posts ~ seems like the topics I bring up are all over the place, huh?I should be writing more of my story (I actually am working on that) ~ but recently I've been thinking that a BIG part of the reason I was able to throw out the BABY and subsequently get out of the "bath water" ~ i.e., escape the QF/patriarchal worldview in which I had invested so much of my life, my very SELF ~ is simply this:Even as a Christian, I never believed in Hell. I avoided talking about it much because I couldn't quite fit my universalism into the rest of what I believed about the Bible and … [Read more...]

IT’S TRUE: We’ve thrown out the BABY … and the bath water

by VyckieThere have been several Christian readers of this blog recently who are leaving comments to the affect that Laura and I were "following" ~ a cultic movement ~ "interpretations of man" ~ a false understanding of God.Their message is this, "Don't throw out the baby with the bath water! If only you REALLY KNEW Jesus ~ you would understand that He loves you and seeks your good." One comment reads, "There's a big difference between following a cause and following the living Christ."I will admit that such comments are seriously aggravating to me because one point we'd really like to make in all of this is that Laura and I were genuine Christians.While Laura admittedly did "turn … [Read more...]

To Those Who May Be Shocked, Disappointed, and Hurt by the News of My Apostasy

by Vyckie Bennett (Garrison)This is a letter to those godly, dedicated Christians who know me (or know of me) from my articles and testimonies which have appeared in popular homeschool publications such as Above Rubies, An Encouraging Word, SALT, Unless the Lord, etc. ~ or who have followed news of our ever-growing family in my monthly column or in updates and prayer requests which I have posted on email groups such as MOMYS Digest, The Lord’s Heritage, FARBITM, and others. I have been an advocate of godly womanhood ~ I’ve encouraged fellow Christian moms in their Quiverfull convictions and have done my best to lead by example in my own family.This is a difficult letter for me to write ~ … [Read more...]


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