SASBN: Putting an End to the Survivor Wars

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by Vyckie GarrisonBreaking free from the absolute control of a cultic group is incredibly hard - it's a soul-wrenching experience and in all honesty, none of us walk away unscathed and completely healthy. Spiritual abuse survivors are hurt, traumatized, damaged and often broken. I wish I … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Love is a Choice?

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Voddie Baucham from his book "Family Driven Faith" Many of us have completely divorced the concept of love from the mind and will. We speak of the heart as though it were the opposite of the mind and the will when in fact the mind and will are precisely … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Return to Biblical Doctrine

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by R.J. Rushdooney at Ladies Against Feminism The tragedy of the women’s rights movement was that, although it had serious wrongs to correct, it added to the problem, and here the resistance of man was in as large a measure responsible. Instead of restoring … [Read more...]

When you haven’t been hurt

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by Mattie ChathamSometimes I wonder how I sound to the rest of the evangelical world, to those who weren’t subjected to fringe patriarchal teachings from grace-forgetting complementarians, those who never fought the fear that comes with legalism from your pulpit, those who don’t have to shake the guilt hangover from their … [Read more...]

Shutting Off My Brain ~ Part 4

by JourneyWhen I shut off my brain and became willing to do whatever Mark said, he was delighted. Absolutely delighted. And everything changed. Everything. The first thing he did was give me a list on how I was to clean the bathroom. I had daily chores and weekly chores from him, down to minute details.I remember the first day I followed his list. I was humiliated. It was as if I was a child again and he was the parent. I told him that, too (in a humbled and submissive way, of course) and he smiled and said, “Exactly. Your parents did a terrible job of raising you when it comes to cleaning, and now God has given you to me so that I can raise you and help you become the way you s … [Read more...]

A culture of fear built on a thousand little lies

by dogemperorMy story of how I walked away from Joel's Army--and joined the survivor community--started, quite ironically enough, with (of all things) Christian heavy metal...because, interestingly enough, it was my first major experience in how coercive groups operate by telling their members a thousand little lies to create a culture of fear.To make a long story short, when I was eleven both the Sunday school I attended (at an Assemblies of God megachurch which I would eventually discover some 24 years later was one of the fifteen most influential churches in the United States of what was then known as "Joel's Army" and which has since rebranded as "Elijah's Army" and the "New … [Read more...]

There has to be another way!

by VyckieThroughout my labor with Hazelle ~ yes, that long horrible, absolutely miserable 4th pregnancy and delivery ~ I kept thinking that, while I really did not want to have another c-section delivery, I wasn't exactly excited about going through labor and delivery either.I would often say to anyone who might be listening (usually my sister, Sandy), "There's got to be another way ..."When my water broke, I was so exhausted from all the complications of that pregnancy combined with eight days of flu ~ all I wanted was to sleep. I really could not get it in my head that, if I didn't want the baby to be delivered surgically (as her three older sisters had been), then I was going to … [Read more...]

Christian Dominionism ~ Part 4: Erik Prince and the Ties that Bind Extremist Politics to Christian Patriarchy

by kmPart 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4 Most everyone has heard by now about the Blackwater corporation (recently renamed Xe due to bad PR) and the staggering criminal enterprise that it has perpetuated in the name of the U.S. War on Terror.  Even such farcical news establishments as Fox have been unable to ignore the veritable shitstorm that has erupted in the wake of the Bush administration over Xe’s unholy alliance with the United States government.  One thing that has not been widely reported, however, is Xe’s Dominionist allegiance, up to and including the fact that its former CEO—and now chairman—Erik Prince, is the biological heir apparent to the U.S. Dominionist community.  The son … [Read more...]

When Jesus Weeps—The Parable of She

by hillary When Jesus Weeps—The Parable of She “Break her will,” they said and broken, She weeps silently. But sometimes She forgets how to weep at all . . . The Girl-Soul sighed deeply and rubbed her eyes. Such a long road, her way, filled with pebbles and holes and scary places. I need to stop soon, whispered heart. Shoulders burned with tension. The lumpy bag of rocks She carried banged against her legs; purple bruises crept up skin. But I can’t give up now; I’m almost there!Anticipating a grateful smile from the Giant and Grandfather, She pressed up the ancient path. Why they needed heavy rocks, She did not know, yet vowed to bring the best She could, and labored night and day, w … [Read more...]

Where are the Instructions?

by AriettyIn the last months of my marriage I was gradually coming out of the fear laden fog that had been my life in fundamentalism. Now that I had internet access I would find myself reading more and more things written from a non-Christian perspective. I had joined a few forums based around interests I had but spent more and more time reading the off-topic threads. I was often blown away by how much grace some of these people showed in flame wars or contentious discussions, how much humility they had towards their own beliefs. Wasn't grace "our" word? It was at first disturbing to learn so much from people who did not follow Christ but after a time I grew used to it and found myself … [Read more...]


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