Baptist Taliban: Part 5

July 6, 2012 By 7 Comments

by Cindy Foster THE SHUNNING This ‘discipline‘ as it turned out was not discipline at all, but punishment which had the appearance of one acting to satisfy his wrath against those who resisted or opposed him. He actually commanded the whole church to SHUN these young people for varying periods of time from 2 weeks [...]

Filed Under: Accountability, Alienation, Baptist Taliban and Beyond - Cindy Foster, Baptist Taliban by Cindy Foster, Biblical Chastisement, Big Happy Family Vision, Boundaries, Child Training, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Confession, Control, Elitism, Family Integrated Church, Fear tactics, Fundamentalism, Group Think, Instant, Joyous, Obedience, Isolation, Issues, J.O.Y (Self Denial), Judgementalism, Kobayashi Maru ~ The No-Win Scenario, Legalism, Like-Minded Fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Mental / Emotional Health, Motherhood, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Quiverfull Discernment, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, SASBN, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Righteousness, Separation - Individuation, Shame, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network, Toxic Relationships, Umbrella of Authority Tagged With: , , , 7 Comments

Who Was That Masked Man: Part 10

July 5, 2012 By 3 Comments

by Calulu It seemed like the conferences and teachings were helping Tom even if he was still having his moments of weirdness and dysfunction. And then my darling husband started skipping our church’s Sunday School to attend the early service at a big mainstream denomination before coming for to our church for our service. The [...]

Filed Under: Accountability, Alienation, Anxiety, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Boundaries, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Control, Divorce & Remarriage, Elitism, Fear of Hell, Fundamentalism, Group Think, Issues, Judgementalism, Legalism, Like-Minded Fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, Male Headship, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marriage Covenant, Mental / Emotional Health, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, SASBN, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Separation - Individuation, Shame, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network, Toxic Relationships, Umbrella of Authority, Who Was That Masked Man by Calulu Tagged With: , , , 3 Comments

Dispelled: Part 11 Raging Rapids on the Sea of Change

July 3, 2012 By 6 Comments

by Chandra June came in on the wings of a splendid spring for Darren and I. My world had never been sunnier. It was a hopeful season full of the amazing gift of love between a man and his woman. We both knew we were going to become engaged, the question was one of timing. [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Accountability, Big Happy Family Vision, Boundaries, Child Training, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Control, Courtship / Betrothal, Dispelled ~ One Girl's Journey in a Home School Cult, Drinking the Koolaid, Enmeshment, Fundamentalism, Honoring Parents, Instant, Joyous, Obedience, Issues, Judgementalism, Kobayashi Maru ~ The No-Win Scenario, Legalism, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marriage Covenant, Mental / Emotional Health, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Overbearing Mothers, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, SASBN, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network, Toxic Relationships Tagged With: , , , 6 Comments

Defrauding: The NLQ Buzzword Project

July 2, 2012 By 18 Comments
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by Calulu I have to admit. I too, just like Sierra, have a problem with Michelle Duggar and her recent comments on the beach and clothing that doesn’t fall into the realm of her idea of modesty. These are the only Duggar-approved swimwear available. You might as well be wearing a burkini, at least the [...]

Filed Under: Abstinence, Christian Modesty, Control, Defrauding, Fear of Hell, Hot Topics, Issues, JimBob & Michelle Duggar, Markers of a Cult, Marketing "Biblical Family Values", Mega-Families, Men are Visual, Mental / Emotional Health, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, Overbearing Mothers, Perfectionism, Proverbs 31 Woman, Purity, Quiverfull in the News, Quiverfull Leaders, Quiverfull Topics, SASBN, Sexuality, Shame, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network, Wholesome Wear Swimsuits Tagged With: , , , , , 18 Comments

The Duggar Family Doesn’t Go to the Beach, and Why That’s Bad for Their Kids

July 1, 2012 By 21 Comments

by Sierra This just in from the Department of Unintended Irony: Michelle Duggar makes a public statement about modesty, just to be sure you know how modest they are – too modest for the beach – in case you were straining your neck looking for their modest stairstep children in the crowd while you immodestly sunned [...]

Filed Under: 20 and Counting by JimBob & Michelle Duggar, A Love That Multiplies by JimBob & Michelle Duggar, Abstinence, Beautiful Girlhood, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Boundaries, Child Training, Christian Modesty, Control, Daughter of the Patriarchy by Sierra, Defrauding, Elitism, Fear tactics, Fundamentalism, Group Think, Hot Topics, Isolation, Issues, JimBob & Michelle Duggar, Judgementalism, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marketing "Biblical Family Values", Men are Visual, Mental / Emotional Health, Motherhood, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Overbearing Mothers, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Purity, Quiverfull Books, Quiverfull in the News, Quiverfull Leaders, Quiverfull Resources, Quiverfull Topics, SASBN, Self-Righteousness, Sexuality, Shame, Sibling Relationships, Socialization, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network Tagged With: , , , , 21 Comments