The next link in the chain towards Quiverfull

by KathrynI'm 27, and grew up in a military household as an only child. My mother was raised Church of Christ, and converted to Assemblies of God in her teens. My father was raised atheist, as near as I can tell, and converted to marry my mother. They married around 20, I guess, and I was born when Mother was 28. She said I was her miracle baby, that she had been diagnosed as infertile, unable to carry a baby to term. It had sent her into a near suicidal depression. I think the only reason she didn't try suicide was because suicide is a sin. According to her, that all went away when I was born.Because of the military moving us, I went to three different kindergartens. In first grade, I … [Read more...]

Everybody's dying to know!

by VyckieA friend and I were talking rather excitedly about my upcoming guest appearance on the Joy Behar Show.  We were chattering away when she suddenly asked me, "How are you going to respond if Joy asks you what you believe about religion now?"Well, to tell the truth, I was stumped.  I mean, I do have an answer to that question, but the minute my friend asked me about it, my brain froze up and I couldn't think of a thing to say. Oh no, I thought ~ what if I get totally stuck during the interview?  I'd better be prepared!  I'm sure I won't get a chance to to tell it all ~ but just for practice ~ and since I've been told that, "Everybody's dying to know!" ~ here's the summary that I … [Read more...]

Guardians of the Home

by Alyzza MartinShe is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. – Proverbs 31:14-16Women around the world have historically been called upon to take care of domestic duties such as hauling water, preparing food, and disposing of waste. In areas where women are denied access to political power, “female concerns” like water security and waste management barely register on the political radar.Countries with poor track records in recognizing and maintaining women’s rights are a … [Read more...]

You're only cool if you're wearing the right headcovering….

by ErikaWhen my family moved to Pennsylvania in 1993, it wasn't long before my father decided that the women in his house had to wear headcoverings. We had started attending Charity Christian Fellowship (where their sign says, "Everyone Welcome," but which I often wanted to graffiti underneath, "But not everyone accepted") and it was very clear that if you didn't have the "right" headcovering, you were "different."I was never quite accepted with my bold and bright bandanas and my bright purple snood. I was looked at with a sneer by most people, the girls kept their distance and there was no chance in hell I would ever be looked at romantically by one of the young men. My headcoverings … [Read more...]

Women leaving lifestyles such as these are truly strong, amazing women

by redheadedskepticIf you haven’t read Vyckie’s story, you should definitely check it out! She and her family participated in the Quiverfull lifestyle for many years before getting out. If you like my story, you’ll definitely like hers. Every time I read a post, I shiver with how so very close I came to falling into this trap. I’ve said before, if the right boy had caught my eye any time from 13-21 (if I hadn’t met and married Bob at 20), I would have succumbed. Even though we weren’t strictly quiverfull, many of the same things she thought and said to her children were the same things said to me. At one point, my mother bought into the quiverfull idea, but not enough to get a reverse tub … [Read more...]

The Joy Behar Show

by VyckieWhat a day this has been!  It's 1 a.m. here in New York City ~ and I really ought to be sleeping since they're sending a driver for me at 5:45 in the morning to take me to the airport ~ but I'm still so wound up about the interview!The taping was a blast ~ and although there was plenty about the actual program that could have gone better ~ overall, I thought it was an okay show.Well ~ let me go back to the "beginning" and I'll just write about how everything went ~ since it's late ~ this'll be mostly "just the facts" ~ after I get home, I'll go into more detail, okay? ;)I arrived at the Time Warner building around 3:30 in the afternoon and was taken to the "green room" ~ w … [Read more...]

Psalm 127 ~ blessed is the MAN

by VyckieThroughout my Quiverfull years, I built my life around the basic premise of Psalm 127 ~ Lo, Children are a blessing ...Recently, I've been thinking that the message "children are a blessing" is maybe not actually the basic premise, but rather, Psalm 127 is really about "blessed is the MAN."In the ancient patriarchal society of Old Testament times, any man with 6, 8 ... 12 children was practically guaranteed to be prosperous and influential. But Psalm 127 really tells us nothing about the condition of the woman who was working her ass off to make it happen for him.I still believe that children are a blessing ~ but not because Psalm 127 says so.  That psalm is one of the mo … [Read more...]

Vegetarian for God

by Tapati  A typical Indian-inspired meal at our houseI am often asked why I’m still a vegetarian if I left the Hare Krishna Movement. The only way some people can make sense of being a vegetarian for thirty five years is if religious conviction is involved. It is rare to find a vegetarian for health reasons abstaining as strictly. Don’t we all lapse from our commitment to do certain things for our health? Who avoids sugar all the time, even when they’ve made a promise or a New Year’s Resolution?My own vegetarianism came more from my upbringing on my grandparents’ farm than just from a rule given to me by ISKCON. While that helped me make the final commitment, I was thinking about b … [Read more...]

No Turning Back

by TapatiTapati's altar I was asked recently if I felt there was any hope that I might someday renew my desire to serve and unite with Krishna and engage in kirtan with others of a like mind in a non-denominational, low pressure environment. Following that, I was asked what I missed about the Hare Krishna Movement. Others wondered why I kept my initiated name, Tapati and made it my legal name.I can imagine that my spiritual path seems confusing. From outside it might look like I have worshiped more than one God in my life: The Trinity of Catholicism, Krishna, myriad Goddesses, and Kuan Yin.What I have been doing from my perspective is sorting through different cultural viewpoints … [Read more...]

Things I Loved and Why I Really Loved Them

by AriettyThere were a lot of things in my QF days I professed to love.. no I actually loved. Things that were very important to me. Things I built friendships on. Things I was suddenly so completely over that it's like another person had those interests. I got a bit of a shock when I realized what some of those interests were really about. Two of them stand out because it's impossible to be in the home or in the church without being reminded of these past loves.1. Conferences. OH how I LOVED conferences. Homeschooling conferences, Creation Science conferences, regular old Evangelical bible study conferences. I went to all of them and if something stopped me from attending (with six … [Read more...]