Purging Satan's music….

by ErikaShortly after my family entered the cult of patriarchy, my father felt convicted that he needed to rid his house of Satan's music. This meant getting rid of all his classic rock albums and cassettes. With a family of 6 struggling through the recession of the early 90s in northern NH, those albums would definitely have netted a bit of money that could have been put to good use. As most fundamentalists are taught, if it's not good for you, then it's not good for anyone. Instead of selling those albums, they had to be destroyed.When I found out about this, I was upset. There were albums in that pile that I had been brought up on. Songs that my father brought us up on and that we … [Read more...]

All Saints

by caluluToday was All Saints Day, November 1. It’s the one day where I miss my late father the most. He and I were the two in our large New Orleans clan that would observe the rituals of All Saints. We’d pack a picnic lunch of poboys and potato salad along with cleaning supplies and head out to the cemetery with my ancient Great Aunts.  In South Louisiana entire families turn out at the graveyard to spend time remembering and honoring dead relatives by cleaning the tombstones. A special time of family remembrances and togetherness. It was our ritual that I still carry out when I’m in South Louisiana.It’s a ritual that my years in fundamentalist Quiverful country robbed from me. In my y … [Read more...]

"… the voices of exited women can not be ignored again"

In the few short months since its launch, No Longer Quivering has become a hub for discussion and critique of the Quiverfull lifestyle and other forms of patriarchal forms of Christianity for both the original authors and the smartly-engaged commenters and contributors.The personal stories of site founders Vyckie and Laura drew in masses of readers curious or concerned about the role of women within this fundamentalist movement and soon sparked broader discussion of how women fare under the more common forms of gender inequality in conservative Christianity, such as the mainstream promotion of wifely submission and male headship.While I was researching and reporting Quiverfull, stories … [Read more...]

My Secret Desires

Lust Behind the Modest Denim Curtain by Arietty During my most deepest, holiest, quivering before God years I would sometimes find my Christian Womanhood alarmingly infiltrated by admirations that were NOT the admirations of a woman whose price was "above rubies". These admirations stood in stark contrast to my floral blouses and the verses in cross stitch I had displayed on the walls of my home and to the Christian women whose example I wished to emulate. I knew they were wrong, dubious at best and not something I would ever admit to. They were like chocolates hidden in the underwear drawer of a dieter. I knew they were there and I had no intention of throwing them away and every now … [Read more...]

Happy Halloween

by VyckieAngel's boyfriend, Aaron, is in the evil jester costume.  Next to him is Hazelle ~ looking rather witchy.  Angel ... I'm not sure what that costume is, but I think it's pretty awesome.  Chassé was a cowgirl ~ no gun, but she still looks like she could hurt you, huh? LOL  In the front are Lydia Jean ~ a.k.a. "Sharpay" ~ and Wesley the Vampire. (Not pictured are: Andrew who was with his friends ~ and Berea ~ I think she was working.)"Oooh, creepy" ~ we actually did Halloween this year for the first time in 20+ years.Well, I should say that the kids "did Halloween" while I was busy working on preparations for the upcoming NLQ Carnival Days ~ I'm desperately scrambling to have eve … [Read more...]

Vyckie's Tour de Crap: "The children do not get it at all …"

This letter which I wrote to Jonathan Lindvall via his "Bold Christian Living" email discussion list fits into the time period of the latest installment of my story.  This one is total crap ~ I was trying so desperately to figure a way to get Angel to accept and embrace the godly, quiverfull lifestyle which we'd chosen for our family ~ I think that my desperation is quite apparent in this rather pathetic letter: Dear Mr. Lindvall,Thank you so much for your ministry -- you have been a great encouragement to my husband & me.  I have a concern that I thought you might be able to address as you come from a godly Christian background.  You may have already dealt with this subject and if so, … [Read more...]

Vyckie's Tour de Crap: Please do not refer to homosexuals as "gay"

Warning: If you are a sensitive individual ~ possibly prone to PTSD reactions ~ please be aware that this particular edition of my "Tour de Crap" will likely trip your trigger.  It's a choice piece to be sure ~ and timely too, in light of all the ruckus over the Conservative Bible Project's determination to eliminate liberal/progressive bias from the bible.  That's right, not even the bible itself is conservative enough for True Believers ™.I understand the mentality ~ BTDT, wrote the following column for our "pro-life, pro-family" newspaper back when my head was totally "there" ~ that is, in a place of absolutist, black & white, no-room-for-compromise thinking.Okay ~ and I have to sa … [Read more...]

A Most Twisted Love

by VyckieMom & Dad are in love ... but is a patriarchal relationship of entitlement-meets-martyrdom a healthy and mutually beneficial expression of love?Following a recent interview with the religion editor of our local newspaper, I've been thinking more about what I've learned from St. Bernard of Clairvaux concerning the four "degrees" of love which the ancient monk postulated in considering man's relationship to God (note that this applies to all other relationships as well) ~ although I've already written briefly on this topic here, I'd like to now give a more thorough explanation:Level 1) I love me for my benefit ~ here's an infantile, self-involved person with a severe … [Read more...]

Vyckie's Tour de Crap ~ On Our Anniversary …

  By Vyckie    "Just smile, okay?" ~ this picture of me with Warren was taken two years ago today ~ on our 18th wedding anniversary, just before church. During the service that Sunday morning, I surprised everyone by going to the front of the church and reading aloud the following letter:On August 5, 1989, Warren and I pledged our love and our lives solely to one another in a small church in Dennison, Iowa. Just before the wedding, a tornado went through town and we couldn't help but wonder if that upheaval in the natural world might be suggestive of the commotion going on in another place. It's not that I think the devil was worried that our joining together as husband and wife was a se … [Read more...]

Lo, children ARE a blessing …

by Vyckie  It is true ~ I am abundantly blessed ...  No Longer Quivering has been up and running for less than 4 months ~ and in that short time, I think the blog and forums have already developed quite a community to provide a fair amount of stories and info. which illustrate some of the very real problems with the quiverfull worldview and lifestyle. Just this morning, however ~ as I was looking at the posts here and trying to get a feel of the overall tone of NLQ ~ I noticed that a very important message has definitely been under-represented. As much as I hope to expose the potential pitfalls of the QF/P lifestyle, it is not at all my intention to deny or minimize the central message o … [Read more...]


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