Bumpin' up against The Patriarchy

by VyckieI am running out of superlatives to describe my experience here in NYC ~ Wow!! just doesn't really say it, you know?  LOLThis is the view from my hotel room window ~ it's the New Year's Eve Millennium Ball at One Times Square.I slept quite comfortably in the soft, cozy bed ~ all white sheets and a fluffy white duvet.  I always avoid purchasing anything white as there's no way it would stay clean at my house ~ so the bed felt extra luxurious to me just because of all the white.The pampering continues too ~ this morning a waiter (? see, this is so foreign to me that I don't even have the vocabulary to tell you all about it) dressed in black and white, including a bow tie, d … [Read more...]

So Much Less

by aussiemama    Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3I was so frustrated, I had no idea where I had gone wrong with “Created to Be His Help Meet” but I decided that the problem was definitely with me. The book said so! Any marriage problem could be traced back to the woman. I needed to accept that I as a woman was pure evil and my husband was like a god. So why did the mere thought of that make me feel so uneasy and miserable?So I shifted from “Created to Be His Help Meet” when I found Vision Forum’s materials. I felt that I had now hit the jackpot with the epitome of all that is Christian Womanhood. I read Christian Womanhood blogs. I even started “encouraging” bloggers like Kelly at Generation … [Read more...]

Christian Dominionism ~ Part 2: R.J. Rushdoony and The Ties that Bind Extremist Politics to Christian Patriarchy

by kmPart 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4Born in 1916 to Armenian immigrants in the United States, Rousas John Rushdoony was a Calvinist theologian whose fundamentalist teachings would provide the intellectual foundations for Christian Dominionism—or Christian Reconstructionism—in North America.  In his writings, Rushdoony laid the groundwork for the establishment of a Christian theocracy not unlike Calvin’s Geneva in the contemporary United States. Rushdoony’s multi-volume opus, The Institutes of Biblical Law, has provided much of the movement’s political framework.Within these works, Rushdoony famously called for the executions of “homosexuals and unchaste women” as punishment for their … [Read more...]

We don't want to bring attention to ourselves…..

by ErikaMuch of the wardrobe from my family's days in ultra-conservatism makes me shudder to think back on them. Not the funky patterns and bright colors. Those I loved. Those are the clothes that enabled me to keep my personality and inside light alive.I'm talking about the oversized jumpers, the big collared button-down blouses, the vests that we wore over dresses and jumpers to further hide any curves, the suspenders and long sleeved, button-down men's shirts, the plaid, the calico, the florals, the patterns that looked like draperies....I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.I know that my mother and sister sewed those clothes with nothing but good intentions and love, but when … [Read more...]

I ♥ N Y

by VyckieWow ~ is this totally awesome, or what?!!  I am sitting at a desk in a super fancy hotel on Broadway ~ right across the street from Times Square and I can see the New Year's Millennium Ball from the window of my 19th floor suite.  Yes ~ a suite.  Sweet, huh?  LOLThe flight to New York went smoothly ~ beautiful weather, no delays ~ I feel charmed, really. ;)There was a driver waiting at the baggage area to take me to the hotel ~ nice guy, but I have to ask if it is a common occurence for these drivers of V.I.P.-type passengers to not have cash to pay for the parking lot attendant?  This guy's credit card was declined too.  He claimed to be really embarrassed as I dug in my pur … [Read more...]

Shutting Off My Brain ~ Part 2

by JourneyWhen we got back from our honeymoon, it was so exciting to set up our new apartment on our Bible College campus. The "married dorms" seemed so big and grown-up, and I put those thoughts about our honeymoon behind me...until Mark told me the news that “God” had told him I needed to give away my car.He said were going to be a one-car couple, and that one car was going to be his old van. This was brand new news to me. I was shocked. What? I tried to bargain with him, but he would hear none of it. Again, he was the male, therefore the one who was supposed to be the “leader,” so though I pleaded, I had no choice but to do what he wanted.The books and the teachings all sai … [Read more...]

12 Good Things I Learned From Being In (and Leaving) a Christian Cult: A Christian Perspective

by krwordgazerI am one of those who left a fundamentalist Christian coercive religious organization while remaining a Christian. I realized not long ago that there are many constructive things I believe and act on today, learned (often the hard way!) from my experiences there. But I think I'm a wiser person, and probably a better Christian, than I used to be, and though it doesn't take away the painful memories, it does help me to feel that the perspective I've gained is valuable, to me and to my loved ones.Here are my 12 bits of wisdom:1. I can't let someone else tell me what to believe. I must read and learn what the Bible says for myself, with a mind to context, the original … [Read more...]

Mr. Diety says, "Let's not go back to those dark ages"

No Longer Quivering is a tremendous resource in the fight against misogyny and Christian Fundamentalist misogyny in particular. When we see what happened in Taliban-run Afghanistan, we think that such a thing could never happen in a Christian country. But we forget that it has gone on in Christian countries throughout history. We forget that the Bible encourages such inequality, and that such sentiment is still alive and well in the Christian Fundamentalism that lives on here in America. Few things are more important than reminding people of what we have escaped, or the eternal vigilance that is required to keep us from returning to those dark ages.  Brian Keith Dalton,  Creator of Mr. De … [Read more...]

I was too wiped out and overwhelmed to enjoy the fruits of my labor

by VyckieShortly after Angel's first suicide attempt, I remember thinking to myself that all of my children were growing up without me ~ because I was much too worn down physically ~ plus what little energy I did have was all being zapped from me daily as I tried to make life with their overbearing, micro-managing, hyper-critical, narcissistic father as painless as possible for the children. Despite my efforts, they were all obviously beaten-down and discouraged to the point that we had become of family of zombies ~ excepting, of course, for Warren ~ who rather than feeling half-dead like the rest of us, seemed to have all the energy in the world ~ in fact, I believe he thrived on the … [Read more...]

Patriarchy Across Cultures: A Lifetime Commitment: Initiation

by TapatiTemple DeitiesIn January of 1977 Mike and I were preparing to ask for initiation. We were carefully composing letters to Srila Prabhupada to indicate that we understood the commitment we were making and hoped that he would accept us as disciples. Mike shaved his head, something he’d avoided up until that point. He knew he would not get a recommendation for initiation from the temple authorities if he kept his hair shoulder length. Embarrassed, he wore a cap over his head until it grew out again. We were more strictly abstaining from sex as well, trying to genuinely follow the instructions we had received from Srila Prabhupada.My initiation letter is dated February 2nd, 1977. W … [Read more...]


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