So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? – Recovery From Economic or Financial Abuse

Healing

by Laura Shin from Forbes magazine - 'I'll Take Care of the Bills': The Slippery Slope Into Financial AbuseThe entire article is worth a read but we are quoting the bit on how to recover from Economic or Financial Abuse: … [Read more...]

Self Esteem, Self Efficacy and the Locus of Control

Image from Under Much Grace - Cindy Kunsman

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceEditor's note: This was written in response to some of the discussion over Cynthia Jeub's blog posts. That is not why I am sharing it here. This is something that everyone in recovery from spiritual abuse or religious trauma syndrome could benefit from watching and thinking about the issues brought forth.Religious lifestyles that demand a great deal of conformity can create a lot of relationship tension as children venture into adulthood as those adult children begin to make their own choices about life and belief.  If there is too much reliance on the identity of the family of origin or if the family demands the adult to … [Read more...]

Exploring Trust in Forgiveness (What can we learn from the tragic death of Braxton Caner)

braxton

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace A Reposting from the blog series on forgiveness, repentance and reconciliation from 2012.  What can we learn from tragedy - the loss of Braxton Caner?  What hidden lessons can we find? ~~~  The Importance of Trust-building in Forgiveness … [Read more...]

The Place Where Light Enters

morningmeadow

by AJ from her blog I Am Phoenix A friend shared with me the other day a bit of wisdom that hit a thirsty place in my soul. It has soaked into my skin, and I hear it beside me each time I turn my head. So I thought I would share it with you here today."The wound is the place where the Light enters." - RumiThat is all. … [Read more...]

Cyberstalking by clergy

Cyberstalking-300x300

 from Orthodox-Christian.com reposted with permission (Editor's note: While this article is about stalking laws in the state of Illinois most states do have in  place very similar anti-stalking laws. Check with your specific jurisdiction for what laws apply in your state.)Cyberstalking is a nightmare, no matter who is doing it to you. It’s always bad, but I think it’s really “sick and twisted” when it’s done by people who are supposed to be religious leaders. You probably already know that some churches and groups are cults in disguise. Sometimes cult escapees find that the leaders don’t want to let go of them. … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? – How to Recognize and Respond to “Mean” Christians

Looks like he's getting ready to dish out that five fold ministry

From Charisma Magazine by Richard M. Salazar Jr. - 5 Signs of a Mean-Spirited Leader I was astounded when a close friend of mine recently forwarded a tweet to me sent out by Dr. Chuck Swindoll a few months back that read, "The problem with mean Christians is that not enough people have confronted them and told them to get lost!" … [Read more...]

Keeping the “Unity of the Body” Without Being a Martyr: You Have the Right to Protect Yourself

Bambam

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightHow emotionally triggering has the last week or so been? So triggering that last night I had to post this on my Facebook wall: "Dear Former Fellow Church Members From Raccoon Ford Christian Fellowship - If you are not currently on my friends list and someone I actually still have a positive relationship with please do not send me a friends request. If you behaved hatefully towards me when I left the church I really have no desire to be 'friends' now. I've moved on." … [Read more...]

So I Was Spiritually Abused, What Next?: Bible Verses Atheists Love

burningbible

by NLQ Founder Vyckie GarrisonValerie Tarico recently asked me to pick a bible verse that I actually like for this article, "Bible Verses That Atheists Love" which she wrote for AlterNet. I'm honored to be included with a bunch of awesome fellow skeptics; many of whom also chose Ecclesiastes (✿◠‿◠)My response was too long and had to be edited for the article. For my friends, here's the unedited version:And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour, it is the gift of God. --Ecclesiastes 3:13 … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next?: The Narcissistic Pastor – How to Recognize a Spiritual Abuser

Chances are any pastor that is a Narcissist is actually whoring out parts of his personality/life

from the website An Irenicon - The Narcissistic PastorSo what does the narcissistic pastor look like?  I’m a humble person, so I’ll merely recount the characteristics of narcissism as identified by Sam Vaknin (himself diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder). His thoughts are in bold. Like I said I’m too humble to know any of this firsthand. Having worked, lived, confided for, and studied with many pastors, however, I know that it touches our profession intimately. Comments following the boldface reflect my actual experiences working in the church. … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? – Dysfunctional Personalities

Children of Alcoholics

by Suzanne TitkemeyerI found this list of what the likely personality flaws children of alcoholics develop and it struck me that the list isn't just about alcoholism. It could apply to many different types of dysfunction, people raised in extreme religion, with toxic parents, workaholics, drug addicts, whatever. It works for a laundry list of dysfunction. … [Read more...]


CLOSE | X

HIDE | X