“Thus Male Headship” – Christianity and Gender Essentialism

by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsMy last two posts have involved the use of sociological studies by Christians, in support of the doctrine of male headship, known in its harsher and gentler forms, respectively, as "Christian patriarchy" or "complementarianism."  Using science as a support for our premises is very characteristic of the culture of Western thought in which most of us have been steeped since birth. And of course, rebutting or debunking the science or scientific methodology behind premises we disagree with, comes from the same basic mindset.The problem, as I mentioned in my last post, is when we pounce on evidence that seems to support our own pos … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” Review: 19-41 “Friends With Benefits”

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons When I was in graduate school, one of the books I had to read was The Power of Words and the Wonder of God, and one of the chapters was written by Mark Driscoll– unsurprisingly, it was on swearing. I didn’t know anything about Mark Driscoll at the time, but I figured out quick that he was a pretty big fan of Martin Luther. As I’ve come to know more about Mark, that he sees himself as a “Martin Luther 2.0″ should surprise absolutely no one, and that comes across pretty clearly in this chapter. The first five pages are dedicated to Martin Luther’s marriage to Katherine von Bora, and Mark cannot even begin to contain his enthusi … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Lydia’s Courtship

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideChapter Two begins with this title page: Discovering God's Will Moral to the Story: God often leads us down his path through the counsel of those who are wiser.I agree with wholeheartedly with the moral.  I have been so grateful for excellent advice given lovingly by my parents, siblings, my in-laws, my teachers, professors, people I've worked with and random strangers to name a few. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: God Needs Our Prayers – Part 3

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide Now, the moment we've all been waiting for: Debi ties her relationship to Michael into the larger context of a heavenly battle and angels who wait to swoop in and answer prayers."Remember my love story? I believe that sometime in his youth Michael asked God for someone to faithfully pray for him."Did he?  You could ask him since I believe you live in the same house.  I digress. … [Read more...]

Doubting God in the Valley of Death

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundThe last few days have been filled with little besides tears and anger at God. A dear family reached out to me when I was a teenager, and accepted me through my doubts, encouraged me to leave home, and loved me and everyone in their path well. They had an automobile accident Saturday that claimed the life of the Dad and 5-year old son.This family is not just any family. They were a family who accepted everyone, and pointed fingers at no one. The father was the town chiropractor, but he did not even charge 50% of his patients full price. He offered free service to the judgmental, quiverfull homeschool … [Read more...]

Growing Up Duggar – Your Relationship With Yourself: Part 1

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapePage 1 to 9The chapter starts out with a lot of talk about how wonderful it is that all the girls share the same room before an awkward segue into being self critical over appearance.  "All of us have gone through times when we've felt we needed to lose weight. And we've all looked at the girl in the mirror and sometimes found things that just didn't seem to measure up." … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: God Needs Our Prayers – Part 1

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDebi starts each chapter with a title page containing a MORAL and a CAUTION.  With most authors, you'd expect the moral and caution to be tied in throughout the entire chapter in an over-arching theme.Don't expect that out of this book.  You will be disappointed.We're about half-way through Chapter One (of Eighteen....) and the moral and caution are finally addressed. … [Read more...]

What is the Bravest Thing You’ve Ever Done?

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixThe bravest thing I have done so far in my life has been allowing myself to feel.I was able to make it as far as I did  in life appearing on the outside to be normal and functional because I buried the past. Completely. I didn't talk about it to anyone, and I didn't acknowledge it to myself.Being numb to it was the only way I could survive. I purposely hung around with people who didn't talk about feelings or emotional things. I buried who I was, even if it meant I also had to bury my intuition, my creativity, my feelings, my empathy, and any form of introspection. … [Read more...]

1971-1972 Good Baptist Boys Don’t Dance

by Bruce Gerenscer cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardNinth grade school picture, wearing the welfare glasses I got in 1971. It took me all of 4 weeks to earn enough money to get a pair wire rimmed glasses. I was so embarrassed to wear these glasses. Everyone knew our family was on welfare.It’s September of 1971 and I am fourteen and a ninth grade student at Central Junior High School in Findlay, Ohio. It’s time for gym class and today we are going to square dance. Except I won’t be square dancing because the church I attended, Trinity Baptist Church, considered dancing a sin. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: How Can Accountability and Standards Be ‘Wrong’?

by Karen Campbell at her blog That Mom - Patriarchy on Trial, part four A new, organized, and clearly focused group of former homeschool students, motivated, in part, by the bad fruits of patriocentric homeschooling, have taken up the banner for homeschooling reform, putting the very good ideals at the heart of homeschooling at risk. Their legitimate concerns over some instances of sexual, physical, emotional, and spiritual abuse of children have resulted in their misguided call for state-operated control over all homeschooling and have even extended to their advancement of “homosexual rights” for homeschooled children. Though I have had similar concerns about treatment of all children, home … [Read more...]