Are you part of the pants, pants revolution?

January 13, 2013 By 3 Comments
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by Sierra 2012-13 is the Winter of the Pants. Will you join the party? On December 16, 2012, Mormon feminists declared Wear Pants to Church Day, inviting participants to, well, wear pants to church, ‘in solidarity with those of us who seek gender equality everywhere, including the LDS church. And when

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Prospect.org: Purity Culture is Rape Culture

January 10, 2013 By 1 Comment
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by Sierra Trigger warning: The linked article contains a graphic description of gang rape. In fact, the warning applies to all of the links in this post. E.J. Graff at The American Prospect writes, in Purity Culture is Rape Culture: Too many people still conceive of rape as a man’s overwhelming urge to enjoy the body [...]

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We thought modesty made us timeless

January 4, 2013 By 21 Comments

by Sierra I grew up wearing “holiness.” I’ll wait for a moment so you can finish making jokes. You know you want to. Holiness hair in action. Usually associated with Pentecostals, “holiness” dress has several elements:

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Modesty, Body Policing and Empowerment: The Hijab (Part One)

January 1, 2013 By 5 Comments
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by Sierra The Guardian recently published an article by Nadiya Takolia titled “The hijab has liberated me from society’s expectations of women.” It’s far from the first of its kind; indeed, the Muslim feminist blogosphere is really

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Christianity and Christian Patriarchy are not the same thing

December 26, 2012 By 1 Comment
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by Sierra A moment of clarification: If you read my previous post and thought I was issuing a call to arms against the Christian religion, please be aware of this distinction. The Christian Patriarchy movement is a

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