Covering Up the Body Before Puberty

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundI recent post by Aletha really stood out to me. This is where she talks about where the pain of modesty began. I started developing breasts when I was 8.  The first time I ever thought about them was in kid’s Sunday School.  I had been wearing a dress that I loved. It had flowers, and a petticoat, and lace.  It was also a year old, so it was a bit tight, and a bit short.  But it was my favourite.  It was, apparently, also a bit low cut.  I don’t know how much cleavage I was showing, but a Primary teacher took me aside and told me that my dress was immodest, and I should cover myself better next time. I didn’t want to cause problems … [Read more...]

Duggars are Not Crazy

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundAfter I heard that Jessa Duggar is now courting, I’ve struggled to find words. In a way, I’m happy for her. In a way, I’m always sad to see my peers trapped in patriarchy. But in the midst of those emotions, I don’t have anything to say to Jessa. This is her life, not a cartoon on TV.  I do, however, have something to say to all her harsh critics – all the critics who mock her family, … [Read more...]

When Other Daughters and Sons of Patriarchy Are Trapped

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundWith all the ex-conservative homeschooler blogs out there nowdays, people may be under the impression that homeschool fundamentalism has viritually disappeared among homeschool alumni. To be sure, this Christian movement among homeschool graduates is dying a very slow and painful death. But it is so far from over, and I have so many friends still trapped in the ideology that I constantly feel the tension with old friends and old hangouts.  Here’s just a few  very recent encounters I had with a few graduates … [Read more...]

The Upside of the Downside of My Homeschooling

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground I. Growing up, I had very little concept of “school” in the traditional sense.While we were not unschoolers or a family who did child-directed learning, we did not even try to bring school home. We were our own breed. In my elementary years we just did the ATI wisdom booklets, checked out tons of random books at the library, and did unit studies that centered on the scripture of the month. For example, if our verse that month was “blessed are the meek,” we studied stories of meekness in history, science, missions, and life. We did not even open up textbooks, other than in math and grammar, until I got older. … [Read more...]

When I Rejected Dominionism

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground and Homeschoolers AnonymousBy now most people have probably heard of the dominionism in homeschooling and conservative evangelical circles — the idea that homeschoolers will change the world by their involvement in absolutely everything, from science to the high arts to politics. Oddly even after I rejected patriarchalism (and courtship and purity), I still saw myself as a huge warrior and heroine. I’ll tell you what changed that for me. But first thought I’ll give you a couple quotes of this in homeschool circles. … [Read more...]

Lana Hope’s Story

Please join me in welcoming Lana Hope to our Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network!by Lana Hope. She blogs at Wide Open Ground  I grew up in the Deep South. In our rural homeschool community homeschoolers were a scarcity, with miles between families, so homeschool came somewhat isolating, by default. Our first year of homeschooling was the best of my homeschool memories – at least in my foggy memory. Our math textbook included counting ducks. We went on loads of fieldtrips and had hands on learning. There was no legalism or spiritual abuse in our house. I even had a troll party for my 7th birthday. Trolls. … [Read more...]