Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Debi and Michael’s Love Story Part One

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideTo be clear, Debi and Michael's story is NOT a love story.  There is precious little love involved and a whole heap of red flags.I had just turned thirteen when I first saw him and knew, just simply knew, he was my man.  If he had glanced over and been able to read my mind he would have surely laughed.  (...)The whole community had been talking about the famous, young preacher who had been invited to speak at First Baptist Church's Teen Retreat.  (...) My young mind quickly assessed him.  He seemed bigger than life, a super, in charge type of man. I guessed he must have been at least 21 years old. (...) … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Background Information

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI've been learning about the Pearls for the last two years as I've learned more about the Christian Patriarchy movement.    I have found Michael and Debi's books to be laughably bad - at best- and horribly abusive at worst. … [Read more...]

Male Headship and the Problem of Power

by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsSeveral people have asked me privately to follow up on the radio conversation I participated in on Up For Debate last weekend on the topic "Does God Expect Men to be Spiritual Leaders?"  They asked me to focus specifically on what was said by the caller-in named "Linda."The comments on my blog post about the radio show also were focused on that portion of the broadcast-- so I will say now what I wish I had been prepared and had time to say then. … [Read more...]

Holy Sex – Part 1

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeHoly Sex The Way God Intended by Michael PearlI had no intention of reading and reviewing another book considering I'm way behind on reviewing both “A Love That Multiples” by Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar and the book by the Duggar daughters, “Growing Up Duggar”. Lately I've been approached about doing book reviews for various folks uninvolved with NLQ and my reviews of the Duggar products has slipped to the back burner.After looking at the Pearls author page on on Memorial Day afternoon I saw that Michael (Woman do it MY way!) Pearl had written a book on sex. As much as the idea of Michael Pearl havin … [Read more...]

The Six Inch Rule: Thou Shalt Not Touch

by Bruce Genercser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardImagine for a moment, that you are sitting in the pew of an Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church. You are 16 years old and sitting next to you is your 17-year-old girlfriend. Like normal teenagers, you are sitting as close as possible to your girlfriend and you are discreetly, cleverly holding handsThe pastor is getting ready to preach and he asks everyone to turn to 1 Corinthians 7:1,2. With a thunderous voice, the pastor says, THE BIBLE SAYS: … [Read more...]

How I Was Almost Rescued from Abuse

by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemA few months I wrote a post called Navigating the Justice System Part 1: Alone at 9 Years Old. This post is the story of what it was like for me to experience a Children's Aid investigation and a court case, from my perspective as a child. It skips pretty quickly over what the social workers were like and what they did, and I didn't talk very much about the involvement of other agencies and groups. … [Read more...]

I’m a Feminist Because of Men

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsDuring my sophomore year, my male piano instructor announced he was leaving Pensacola Christian College, and I asked him why. One of the reasons he gave stuck with me, especially over the next few years as he was proven right many times. He claimed that PCC’s administration did not treat women with dignity– which at first I completely dismissed. But my junior year, a job opening became … [Read more...]

Why Eric Jackson Confessed to Raping His Sister

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardPlease read We Believe Their Repentance is Genuine, Pastor Says of Brothers Who Raped Sister, for context.Scott Brown, one of the elders at Hope Baptist Church in Wake Forest, North Carolina, church home to 2 of the 6 brothers accused of repeatedly raping their sister over an 8 year period, recently shared the reason the Eric Jackson confessed. In a blog post titled Eric Jackson and the Power of the Gospel Brown wrote: … [Read more...]

Kristen Rosser on Moody Radio

Tomorrow morning at 9 am est/ 8 am ct one of NLQ's writers, Kristen Rosser, will be on the Moody Radio discussion show "Up For Debate" The topic this Saturday morning will be "Does God Expect Men to Be Spiritual Leaders?"For more information on the show please visit Moody Radio's Up For Debate homepage. Moody Radio is part of Moody Ministries and Moody Bible College. … [Read more...]

Book Review – 13:24: A Story of Faith and Obsession by M. Dolon Hickmon

by Suzanne Titkemeyer  cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightBook Review: 13:24: A Story of Faith and Obsession by M. Dolon HickmonA good lesson for me is to never judge a book by its cover, literally.Before I start my review I have to confess that when '13:24' first came to my attention I had no interest in reading it, not even with Vyckie Garrison of NLQ's recommendation. I took one look at the cover, saw the shaggy-haired heavy metal lead singer and the animal skull above and decided this book wasn't something I'd be interested in. I knew there would be descriptions of physical and spiritual abuse and figured I was not going there again because this book would trigger me … [Read more...]