This is What Child Abusers Look Like in Homeschooling Communities

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by R. L. Stollar cross posted from Homeschoolers AnonymousWe like to think that we know what child abusers look like. That we can pick them out of the crowd based on their creepy mustaches, darkly-tinted cargo vans, or their giant, thick-rimmed glasses.But those stereotypes are just that: stereotypes.And like all stereotypes, they fall tragically short. The fact is, child abusers are not Others. They do not walk around with signs that say, “Monster.” They are able to violate our trust — and children’s lives and bodies and minds — because we trust them. Which means they have our trust, because they are a part of our community. They are friends and family and teachers and loved ones … [Read more...]

Christian Patriarchy Just Made World Magazine $11,200 Richer

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by R. L. Stollar cross posted from Homeschoolers Anonymous(Editor's note: Swanson is now calling "Christian Patriarchy" by the buzz words "Father-Centric Family" and other different things because he's still distancing himself from Doug Phillips and Doug's sexual abuse of young women under the title of "Christian Patriarchy" No matter how you slice it or what you call this movement it is the same thing)WORLD Magazine, a biweekly conservative Christian news magazine, was and continues to be immensely popular among homeschooling families. As a kid, I remember eagerly anticipating each new edition of WORLD. I particularly loved the music reviews, since I used them to convince my parents … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Lydia’s Courtship

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideChapter Two begins with this title page: Discovering God's Will Moral to the Story: God often leads us down his path through the counsel of those who are wiser.I agree with wholeheartedly with the moral.  I have been so grateful for excellent advice given lovingly by my parents, siblings, my in-laws, my teachers, professors, people I've worked with and random strangers to name a few. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: God Needs Our Prayers – Part 3

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide Now, the moment we've all been waiting for: Debi ties her relationship to Michael into the larger context of a heavenly battle and angels who wait to swoop in and answer prayers."Remember my love story? I believe that sometime in his youth Michael asked God for someone to faithfully pray for him."Did he?  You could ask him since I believe you live in the same house.  I digress. … [Read more...]

Doubting God in the Valley of Death

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundThe last few days have been filled with little besides tears and anger at God. A dear family reached out to me when I was a teenager, and accepted me through my doubts, encouraged me to leave home, and loved me and everyone in their path well. They had an automobile accident Saturday that claimed the life of the Dad and 5-year old son.This family is not just any family. They were a family who accepted everyone, and pointed fingers at no one. The father was the town chiropractor, but he did not even charge 50% of his patients full price. He offered free service to the judgmental, quiverfull homeschool … [Read more...]

Brave New Life: Part 2 Coming Out When You Expect The Worst

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission to LiveThis post is part of a series, click here to start with the introduction.We were in our new home, we were starting to un-pack. We even went to the library and got library cards. But it wasn’t time to relax yet, there was still one thing left to do. We had to come out. We had taken the baby steps, we had come out to ourselves and each other, that was huge, and then we had confided in a select few who we knew to be compassionate and supportive, but the next step was a whole different game. … [Read more...]

Growing Up Duggar – Your Relationship With Yourself: Part 1

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by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapePage 1 to 9The chapter starts out with a lot of talk about how wonderful it is that all the girls share the same room before an awkward segue into being self critical over appearance.  "All of us have gone through times when we've felt we needed to lose weight. And we've all looked at the girl in the mirror and sometimes found things that just didn't seem to measure up." … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: God Needs Our Prayers – Part 1

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDebi starts each chapter with a title page containing a MORAL and a CAUTION.  With most authors, you'd expect the moral and caution to be tied in throughout the entire chapter in an over-arching theme.Don't expect that out of this book.  You will be disappointed.We're about half-way through Chapter One (of Eighteen....) and the moral and caution are finally addressed. … [Read more...]

Farris: Patriarchy Makes Kids Gay and Atheists

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismIf you read my blog, you’re probably aware of the Christian homeschooling subculture’s patriarchy problem. A variety of prominent Christian homeschool leaders have been promoting patriarchal family structures at homeschool conventions and in homeschool publications for well over a decade, and two of those leaders—Bill Gothard and Doug Phillips—have recently fallen, engulfed in scandal. Michael Farris, another prominent Christian homeschool leader, has since come out criticizing these leaders and the “patriarchy” they taught. Now Farris has openly criticized “patriarchy” as part of a keynote address while keynoting at a homeschool … [Read more...]

What is the Bravest Thing You’ve Ever Done?

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixThe bravest thing I have done so far in my life has been allowing myself to feel.I was able to make it as far as I did  in life appearing on the outside to be normal and functional because I buried the past. Completely. I didn't talk about it to anyone, and I didn't acknowledge it to myself.Being numb to it was the only way I could survive. I purposely hung around with people who didn't talk about feelings or emotional things. I buried who I was, even if it meant I also had to bury my intuition, my creativity, my feelings, my empathy, and any form of introspection. … [Read more...]


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