Learning The Words: Introduction and Request For Guest Posts

May 23, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Samantha During my first two years in college, I had to take courses in musical theory. I sat in a room full of people who had a hard time picking up on things like V-7 chords, borrowing, figured bass, the circle of fifths, chord progressions…

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The Supposed Myth of Teenaged Adolescence

May 16, 2013 By 2 Comments
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by Samantha I’ve talked a lot about the fundamentalist cult I was raised in, but something I don’t very frequently talk about here is my experience with the conservative religious homeschooling movement. For many people, the conservative religious homeschooling movement

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Open Thread Discussion on Christian Fundamentalism

April 12, 2013 By 2 Comments
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by Vyckie Garrison Over on the Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blog, Defeating the Dragons, Samantha is looking for input on readers’ personal experiences with Christian fundamentalism. One of the questions she asks is: I know that some of you

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roses – how the purity culture taught me to be abused

April 11, 2013 By 69 Comments
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by Samantha [warning: I am going to be talking about sensitive, sex-related issues today, including rape and sexual assault. ] First, let me share my rationale

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Congratulations Samantha! – SASBN

April 10, 2013 By 2 Comments
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Samantha from the blog Defeating The Dragons and NLQ’s SASBN was recently singled out as the subject of  Christianity Today’s article Finding Faith After Spiritual Indoctrination due to the excellence of her blogging about her past experiences! Congratulations and

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