Preying on Those Most Vulnerable

April 15, 2013 By 32 Comments
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by Calulu Last week someone sent a link for a sect that calls itself “Biblical Families”. At first glance they seem like the usual patriarchal fundamentalist flavor of Christianity, like a thousand other versions of Christianity. In fact, this is how they describe themselves -

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At What Point Is Faith Really Child Abuse?

April 7, 2013 By 15 Comments
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by Calulu Trigger Warning! Yesterday I saw a very disturbing video that was filmed last weekend, on Easter Day, in front of a United Methodist Church in North Carolina. The church is letting from it’s Easter services while a young boy stands with a sign that reads like something out of Westboro Baptist and yells [...]

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Beauty: In the Eye of the Beholder

April 4, 2013 By 81 Comments
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by Calulu Recently I came across a very disturbing blog posting and another and another and another. It was from a blog that I’d quoted recently on No Longer Quivering for our Quoting Quiverfull feature. The post I used from that blog was one where the blogger’s husband tried to say it was alright for [...]

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Sunday Challenge – How Has Your Self Body Image Changed?

March 24, 2013 By 3 Comments
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Introducing the NLQ Sunday Challenge! What it’s all about is you, you writing in and sharing your take on the topic picked for the week, sharing your hard earned wisdom with others. Just write up as little or as much as you feel like saying on that subject, email it to

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As Innocent As Babes

March 17, 2013 By 11 Comments
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by Calulu One of the big stumbling blocks for me during my time in the Fundamental/Evangelical church was the belief in original sin in babies. Sure, it’s possible to be conceived of sin and born of that same sin, but I could never believe that a newborn

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