Giving the Child the Rod

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismI don’t know exactly when it happened, but at some point early on my mom handed me the rod. She told me I was to spank my younger siblings if they misbehaved or broke any rules and she was not in the room. The rule was that I could spank any sibling at least five years younger than me. This meant that at ten I could spank my five-year-old sibling, and all those younger than him.Parents, don’t do this to your older kids. Please, please, just don’t. It breaks my heart because now, years and years later, my younger siblings don’t have any pleasant memories of my time with them. They tell me I was a bully, that they resented me, … [Read more...]

When Love Isn’t Enough: The Musser Family Tragedy Part 1

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideSixteen years ago, a baby was born in Bulgaria. At four months old, he was placed in an orphanage.   The orphanage young Tommy was placed at was hell on Earth.  The director "modified" the foods fed to the children to prevent them from growing normally.  By doing this, the director kept the children permanently in the youngest/weakest group of the orphanage where the orphanage received the most funds for the children.  Tommy was listed at age 15 as "Male child at 15 years of age, with the following diagnoses: Infantile Cerebral Palsy – Hypotonic form; Severe lagging behind in the physical and neuro-psychical development; Severe p … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Not Quiverfull?

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by Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar from "A Love That Multiples" pages 92-93 We find it amusing how many reporters copy and past information they find about us that someone else has copied and pasted without checking the facts. For instance, even though wiki and some Internet blogs report that we are part of the Quiver Full movement, we are not. We are simply Bible-believing Christians who desire to follow God's Word and apply it to our lives. God says children are a gift and a blessing and we believe it! QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Kid Collecting?

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by Michelle Swanson from her blog One Big Connected Family - Why Do Homeschooling Families Have So Many Kids??? The big question remains: why do homeschooling families have so many kids?Some families are part of the "quiver-full" movement. You know, the Duggars and the Bates kinds of families. The ones that believe you should always be seeking and never preventing the blessing of children from God. You can google that whole philosophy for the next few years and have some fun. Our family doesn't fall into that category. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Anger is Always Wrong?

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One of the ongoing themes throughout the Duggar girls book is that anger is dangerous and to be avoided at all costs.  Keep in control even when starting to experience anger (which they seem to think no one has the right to actually be angry) is paramount. They talk about Michelle whispering when getting angry and how you should make sure any guy you're in courtship with doesn't get angry easy.Makes me wonder what they thought of Jesus throwing the money changers out of the temple. Did they think Jesus was politely tiptoeing around saying, 'Sorry, old chap, but you can't do that here. sorry I'm knocking your stuff around. Have a nice day!' … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: God Will Provide Enough For A Baby If You Just ‘Trust’ Enough?

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by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - Why Are We Scared? Why are we so scared to trust God? Why are we so scared to trust Him with our lives when He is the God of the universe? Why do we think we can make better decisions than God when He is Omniscient (all-wise and all-knowing)? I'm not condemning you; I am guilty, too. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Creative Interpretation of the Book of Esther – Part 1

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideThe end of chapter 2 of  "Preparing to Be a Help Meet" disturbed me the first time I read it, but I couldn't exactly figure out why.  I mean, yeah, Debi twists the stories of Esther and Ruth, but she does that all the time.  I realized that I resented that Debi messed around with the stories to make both Esther and Ruth seem like passive women who did what men told them rather than active participants in their own lives. … [Read more...]

Talking to Kids About Social Services, Part 2

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismI wrote yesterday about the fear of social services I received from my parents and from the wider homeschooling community. Once I grew up I realized that this fear was both irrational and counterproductive. Social services was not the enemy, and social workers do important work protecting children from abuse and neglect. Sure, social services isn’t perfect, and they sometimes make mistakes. But what good does teaching children to be afraid of social services do? Absolutely none at all. When I had children of my own, then, I determined to do things differently. I wanted Sally and Bobby to see social services not as an enemy but a … [Read more...]

Talking to Kids about Social Services: Part 1

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismI grew up afraid of social services. Social workers were something of a bogeyman in the homeschooling community, and my parents bought into it completely. In fact, in a recent conversation on the topic with my mother, she insisted that social workers today do in fact take children away from their parents for nothing more than homeschooling. That she still says this today says a lot about just how high fear of social workers was in our home when I was a child. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Looking up to a Leader is Sexual Sin?

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by Jim Bob Howard of Highlands Ministries and reposted at Ladies Against Feminism - Flirting With Sexual SinLadies, don’t think you’re off the hook; I’d like to talk to you for a minute, too. Most readers here probably don’t spend much time falling for the men on the “daytime dramas” and the romance novels, who are no more real than Miss Picture Perfect. Rather, you spend time reading and listening to homeschool conference speakers, preachers, authors, magazine editors, etc. and wishing your husband would be more like ________ (fill in the name), not realizing that Mr. Blank is a sinner, just like your husband. Beware: you are a daughter of Eve; don’t let yourself be deceived. You are not … [Read more...]


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