Evangelical Christian Marriage: Hawking the Product

October 18, 2012 By 9 Comments

by Sierra In evangelical Christian culture, marriage is a commodity. Marriage books are sold like gardening manuals or cheat sheets for the SATs. The sales pitch for marriage in Christian culture is more intense than any you’ll ever experience on a used car lot. Christians are made to believe that they’re God’s designated curators of [...]

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Millipede Part 31 – How Did I Get Here Part 2

October 16, 2012 By 5 Comments
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by Millipede The path to Patriarchy is often a convoluted one. Embracing of Patriarchal beliefs is usually not the original intent, but is often the “byproduct” of one’s attempt to embrace a particular religion and/ or ideology. This is important to remember, few women are quick to jump on a bandwagon which promotes a society [...]

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Crime and Punishment

October 15, 2012 By 12 Comments
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by Mari I’ve been procrastinating about telling this part of the story. In the previous chapter of the story, I talked about having nightmares about death. That story was the whitewashed version. I’m not saying that what was written isn’t true. It is. But for me, the experience was a lot worse than it probably [...]

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The Duggars Campaigning For Todd Akin

October 14, 2012 By 7 Comments

Remember Todd Akin? The guy that said women have magical mystery vaginas that will not allow the sperm of a rapist to fertilize an egg? Him of the flawed biology beliefs? The Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar Family of TLC’s “19 Kids & Counting” will be going to a number of fundraisers for Akin in [...]

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Jack Schaap: Isolated Incident or the One That Got Caught?

October 13, 2012 By 41 Comments
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by Calulu I haven’t updated NLQ much with the latest on Jack Schaap and his ongoing legal confloption. Yesterday I was perusing the news on Jack Schaap, the former pastor of the First Baptist Church of Hammond, Indiana to see what had gone down on his plea arraignment on September 27, 2012. Schaap not only [...]

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