Who Was That Masked Man Part 12

July 17, 2012 By 5 Comments

by Calulu I think I cried off and on for a solid eighteen months after we switched churches. It was difficult. What made it even worse was the fact that Tom Smith had apparently told everyone in the Del/Mar/Va area that a) we weren’t believers any longer, b) we went to a church of homosexual [...]

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Millipede: Part 13

July 16, 2012 By 4 Comments
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by Millipede The new building had not materialized. The way that things were going, their might not be enough funds to acquire the building. Even so, our pastor continued on with his vision of a new church. I got the sense that even if it he had to go back to having church at home, [...]

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Daughter of the Patriarchy: Stuart of the Lovely Locks

July 12, 2012 By 5 Comments

  This is an installment of the Daughter of the Patriarchy series. Read the rest here. A couple of days after moving onto campus, Molly informed me that she was expecting a visitor. He was a friend from her Dungeons and Dragons group, coming by to pick up one of his books from their last game. [...]

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Who Was That Masked Man? Part 11

July 11, 2012 By 3 Comments

by Calulu I went home crying, shocked that my pastor had gone back on his word like that. It was a betrayal that left me reeling emotionally. Cried for days feeling a sense of deep betrayal. The pastor was quiet that week, no emails or phone calls. I told my husband that I thought the [...]

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Raised Quiverfull: A Gendered Childhood Part 1

July 10, 2012 By Leave a Comment

by Libby Anne Raised Quiverfull Introduction — A Gendered Childhood Question 1: How many siblings did you grow up with? Did responsibilities in your family differ by gender, with the girls having certain chores and the boys having others? Explain. Joe: My Mama was a very unique woman.  I’ll explain in a bit.  But first, I [...]

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