Millipede: Part 20

August 11, 2012 By 10 Comments
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by Millipede “Little Bit” “Little Bit” a voice cut through my phone conversation. I told my friend that I would call her back and hung up the phone. I had relished being absolutely lazy on Sunday mornings; sleeping in and than taking it easy. My friend had called just after I had gotten out of [...]

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Millipede: Part 18

August 6, 2012 By 5 Comments
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by Millipede I was willing to let bygones be bygones on the church issue. After all, my husband wasn’t going to force the issue on me. There were other problems appearing on the horizon After such a great start following the bariatric surgery old habits were coming back . At first my husband noticed it [...]

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Millipede Part 17

August 1, 2012 By 5 Comments
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by Millipede This time around it was different on the surface at least. My husband was trying a kinder and gentler approach to his faith. Rather than trying to make his wife follow behind him in the old Patriarchy Parade, my husband was content to go to church by himself. He did encourage me to [...]

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The Hangover – Adventures in Recovery

July 27, 2012 By 11 Comments
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by Calulu It seems in spite of our attempts to be completely free of what we’ve suffered at our old church there are some issues that linger, things we need to deal with. Some of those things involve the relationship between my husband and myself. Hangovers. First allow me to say this is not one [...]

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Millipede Part 15

July 24, 2012 By 7 Comments
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by Millipede I watched in the oncoming month as my husband’s church world came apart. Everything carried a taint of the break; sermons where a new point of view was explained, the fellowship afterwards that was a shadow of its former self. I watched as my husband hung back while our pastor conversed with the [...]

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