Fascinating Womanhood Review: Happiness

 by Samantha Fields cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons  So, it’s been a little while since we’ve delved into Helen Andelin’s world. We’re about halfway through the book, and we’ve reached the point where we’re going to start seeing a lot more ridiculous statements. On one hand, it makes it easier for me to demonstrate the absurdity of her beliefs– at times, all I’d have to do is quote what she says and even the most die-hard Vision Forum devotee would roll their eyes– but on the other hand, that makes it seem that what Helen’s promoting is so outdated that no one accepts it anymore.  That is, unfortunately, not true. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Talk to Your Husband About How You Feel? Ha!

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 147-148This chapter starts out fairly tame by Debi’s standards . . . and then turns into a train reck before you have a chance to so much as blink. As a reminder, Debi is now going through the various character traits that Titus 2 instructs the older women to teach to the younger women. This installment begins Debi’s chapter titled “To Be Sober.” … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Sheer Terror Is a Good Motivator

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 144—46Guess what? We’re halfway through the book! We’ve finished the entirety of Part 1! And guess what? I’ve only been at this for 11 months! Another 11 months to go! Woot!Part 1 was called “The Help Meet.” It included 14 chapters with titles ranging from “A Merry Heart” and “The Gift of Wisdom” to “The Nature of Man and Woman” and “King and Kingdoms.” I went through it page by page rather than chapter by chapter. Part 2 is called “Titus 2.” … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Pick a Girl with Low Self-Esteem (Yes Really)

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 140-141 In the coming pages, we will discuss how we need to cook, clean, take care of your children, etc. These are important and necessary, but the buck always stops right here at the action word reverence. A man will allow his woman many, many faults, as long as he knows that she thinks he is great. If she will just look into his face with adoration, if she is thankful to him for loving her, he will adore her. She can dress awful, be grossly overweight, have terrible hair, not cook so well, be a little lazy and dumb, and not be one bit pretty, but if she will just think and show that he is w … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: The Tale of the Purple Flowers PJ Girl

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 139—40Before getting to the purple flowers PJ girl, Debi throws in this bit: It doesn’t seem fair that the wife is expected to honor and obey her husband even though he has not earned the right; yet she must also earn the right to be loved. If she has to honor him regardless of how he acts, why shouldn’t he love her regardless of how she acts? … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: In Which a Woman Dares to Assert Agency

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 138-139In this section, Debi tells a story. A few years ago, I attended a meeting with my husband where a group of leading men were discussing grave matters, trying to come to a conclusion as to what course of action they should take. The men sat in a circle, with their wives sitting beside or right behind them. … [Read more...]

True Love Doesn’t Wait

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by Rosie Franklin cross posted from her blog Disrupting Dinner PartiesTrigger warning- Christian virginity/purity culture throughout (which is absolutely not sarcasm as a trigger warning). __________________Also, I told you not to read this, Mom._______________ I talked a bit Tuesday about how I lost my virginity, in my post on rape culture. I sort of mentioned but didn’t go into detail about the fact that the loss of my virginity was somewhat emotionally unmooring for me, in addition to the manner in which I “lost” it being awful. So today I’m going to talk about what I was taught about sex and virginity. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Heartbreaking Quotes From “To Train Up A Child”

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by Debi and Michael Pearl from "To Train Up A Child" as quoted at the site Why Not Train A ChildPage 9 At five months, she was too unknowing to be punished for disobedience. But for her own good (and our peace of mind), we attempted to train her not to climb the stairs by coordinating the voice command of “No” with little spats on her bare legs. The switch was a twelve-once long, one-eighth-inch diameter sprig from a … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Surrendering Your Autonomy to Another

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 136—37Sometimes Debi misinterprets Bible passages, and badly. More often, though, she simply adds things, brazenly, and without even offering any of her twisted scriptures to back them up. This wouldn’t be such a problem except that evangelicals and fundamentalists make a big deal of adhering to the Bible and the Bible alone, condemning mainline Christians for adding to the Bible. … [Read more...]

Sometimes Church is the Problem

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by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking LlamaIn May 2011 I requested a meeting with a church leader about the terrible time I had been having.I hadn’t eaten, really, in three weeks. I could barely sleep. Some nights I would just sit in my room and cry and cry as I thought about my life, about the kind of man I was, someone whose anger and hatred had left him alone and completely friendless. I cared about ideas more than I cared about people; and I realized I was heading towards the same miserable end as my hero, … [Read more...]


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