Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Background Information

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide I've been learning about the Pearls for the last two years as I've learned more about the Christian Patriarchy movement.    I have found Michael and Debi's books to be laughably bad - at best- and horribly abusive at worst. … [Read more...]

Brave New Life: Introduction

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live Once upon a time there were two girls. One was very sad most of the time, she kept her head down and did what she was told, because she could not imagine ever being strong enough to do anything different. She hardly knew what it meant to dream, to have goals and ambitions, because her life was already mapped out for her by others, she just had to follow the rules and be the person she was supposed to be. … [Read more...]

The Six Inch Rule: Thou Shalt Not Touch

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by Bruce Genercser cross posted from his blog The Way Forward Imagine for a moment, that you are sitting in the pew of an Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church. You are 16 years old and sitting next to you is your 17-year-old girlfriend. Like normal teenagers, you are sitting as close as possible to your girlfriend and you are discreetly, cleverly holding hands The pastor is getting ready to preach and he asks everyone to turn to 1 Corinthians 7:1,2. With a thunderous voice, the pastor says, THE BIBLE SAYS: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Can Men and Women Simply Be ‘Friends’?

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Did you know that Debi Pearl has another book out "Preparing To Be A Helpmeet"? At the No Greater Joy Ministries website there is a small site for the book where you can ask questions and get answers about all those things plaguing you about your role as a helpmeet. Someone named Pumpkindoodle asked a question about non-sexual/non-romantic friendships between men and women and someone named Daddysgirlleh replied. … [Read more...]

I’m a Feminist Because of Men

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons During my sophomore year, my male piano instructor announced he was leaving Pensacola Christian College, and I asked him why. One of the reasons he gave stuck with me, especially over the next few years as he was proven right many times. He claimed that PCC’s administration did not treat women with dignity– which at first I completely dismissed. But my junior year, a job opening became … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: God Wants Daughters In Waiting To Wait At Home?

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by Jenny McGinnis at Above Rubies - Daughters in Waiting: Finished School? What Now? Upon reaching the age of 18 and officially graduating from our family home school, I immediately met with very intense pressure from friends, teachers, and others to pursue a profession, attend college and even move out and get a "place of my own."  Many people assured me this would enable me to become a successful, independent career woman. … [Read more...]

Patriarchy in Homeschool Culture

This is what "The Patriarchy" looks like in my head

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons I grew up in a subculture of evangelical Christianity that’s known as “Christian Patriarchy,” which is what the people who preach and teach this “lifestyle” un-ironically call it. I was also peripherally a part of the Quiverful and Stay-at-Home-Daughters movements, which are all separate things. A family can be Quiverful without preaching Christian Patriarchy or requiring daughters to remain at home until marriage, for example. … [Read more...]

News: Parents Hide Sexual Abuse of Girl For Ten Years

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It's ironic that Great Homeschool Conventions will not allow Ryan Stollar of HARO and Homeschoolers Anonymous to speak at their convention but they are likely to defend people like the Jackson family of Perquimans County, North Carolina. Better to protect even abusers than allow someone advocating for the rights of homeschool children. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Purpose of Children?

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by Kelly Crawford from her blog Generation Cedar - The Purpose of Children (They Are Not For Us - And They Are) Children are not given to us so they can win beauty pageants, or because they’re cute. They’re not even to make us happy, though that is a fantastic by-product. Children are given to us as God’s very heritage, to propagate the gospel, to take a vital part in the Great Commission, to be part of the picture of the gospel, as representing the fruitfulness of the Bride and the Groom, to contend with the enemies of the cross. … [Read more...]

Purity. It’s For Girls

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, Feminism Growing up, my brothers got purity rings too. They, too, were expected to stay pure until marriage. I have often taken comfort in the seeming egalitarian application of purity teachings in my own upbringing. Or so I’ve told myself. But I’m getting frustrated. Because let’s face it, the emphasis is on the girls. … [Read more...]


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