Quoting Quiverfull: The Unmarried Are Always Under the Headship of Their Fathers?

by Suzannah Rowntree at Ladies Against Feminism - Unmarried Women and the Things of the Lord This verse does not command us how things are supposed to be. Rather it describes a tendency, a weakness, among married women to please their husbands above God. The same tendency does not apply as strongly to unmarried women, even in their own families, but if it does, the Lord still tells us we must “hate” our parents and siblings. … [Read more...]

Christian Women: Feminism IS Your Friend, Actually

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I usually do whatever I can to avoid reading anything Matt Walsh says, because reasons. He’s the blog version of Rush Limbaugh and an un-educated John Piper rolled into one Godzilla-sized disaster. Seeing someone in any of my social media feeds link to him has been enough to cause this reaction: … [Read more...]

Duggars and Courtship

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundA lot of people have pointed out how many Christian groups and churches are anti-gay. Even though these Christians love to say that they love the sinner and hate the sin, it does not remove the pain that a gay person has to face. If a gay teen comes out gay, the church will still pray for him and believe he needs to change. Sure the church claims to love the teen, but he’s still told he is sinning, and there is still that voice that something is wrong with him, and that he needs to change. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: “Yell & Tell” Best Way to Protect Children From Molestation?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Protecting Children From Sexual AbuseFathers and Mothers, you must be very diligent in protecting your children from sexual abuse in our society today. With sexual immorality and pornography rampant, you cannot just sit by doing nothing. Neighbors are sexually abusing little girls and boys in the bushes at the park. They do it when your children come to their home to play. It is happening. I hear about it way too often.You must talk to your children at a very young age so they will be well educated in what is proper behavior. Get Debi Pearl's books Samuel Learns To Yell And Tell and Sara Sue Learns To Yell And Tell and read them to your chi … [Read more...]

Cults, Christianity, Toxic Beliefs and Health

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI recently separated from a religious cult that I grew up in. During the time I was questioning the beliefs of this cult, I realized that many of these beliefs unfortunately are also foundational beliefs in modern day evangelical Christianity as well. So I ended up leaving not only the cult, but Christianity also. … [Read more...]

My Abusive Relationship Was Typical

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger warning for abuse and sexual violence Last week, I wrote an article for xoJane and I shared some things about my past that I haven’t shared on the internet before. I don’t enjoy talking about my abusive relationship at all, and I especially avoid thinking about my last semester at PCC, which was nightmarish with exceedingly few good memories. I was extremely vulnerable in that piece, knowing that there would be people around the internet that would shit on it. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Submission Keeps You From Being Victimized?

by Rebekah (Doug Wilson's daughter) at Femina - On Not Being A Victim 1. Christian women should be characterized by submission. No matter how much cool-shaming is thrown at the concept of headship and submission by the hipper-than-thou crowd, we can’t get around it that the Bible teaches this. Some people scream and run when they hear the word submission, and men like Doug Philips make that reaction understandable. Then over amongst the crowd that’s all gung-ho about submission there is frequently a scary lack of nuance. On the two sides of this question you find people waving their flags saying either, “submission is terrible,” or “submission is wonderful.” But submit is a a word like love. … [Read more...]

Coming Out of the Cult Closet

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixThe last year has been full of shifts, most of them tumultuous, but most of them ending up being quite positive. In the actual moment, each change didn't feel positive. It felt like I was wearing skin that didn't fit me anymore, and I was trying to wrestle out of it. Much like a critter shedding it's old skin. Painful, itchy, uncomfortable, exhausting. But then each time I shed an old layer, it felt great afterwards to relax and sit in the sun, so to speak with spanking new skin that felt all new and glowing. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Victim Blaming

by Doug Wilson from Blog and Mablog - Vice, Victims and Vision ForumRe: Doug Phillips and Lourdes Torres Given that, either his sexual attentions were entirely unwelcome, or they were not. If they were not unwelcome, then the affair appears to have been one of complicated and unconsummated adultery, with two participants. She was an adult, and so if his attentions were not entirely unwelcome, she was a player in the vice, not a victim. The victim in this would have been Beall, with two people victimizing her. … [Read more...]

News: Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar To Speak At ATI Conferences

from Stargasm.com - Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar Slated to Speak at ATI Conferences Despite Sexual Abuse ScandalApparently ATI's attempt to paper over the allegations of sexual abuse by former leader Bill Gothard is to get the Bates and the Duggars to speak at their conferences. Nonetheless, it’s apparent that many IBLP and ATI followers — including the Duggars — are still committed to the programs. In fact, according to the newly released “2014 Family Conference Guide” for ATI and IBLP followers, Jim Bob Duggar and Michelle Duggar are slated to speak at three upcoming national conferences. … [Read more...]