Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – What Are Your Thoughts On This?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Born Secondary

Ophelia Benson of The Free Thinker has written an awesome take down of the blog post we shared a small part of recently by Karl Heitman. You remember Karl? He's the pastor that said he would not allow his daughter to go to college if her motives were not right.  Here is what Ophelia had to say about Heitman's upset at the idea of women being educated like men are: What he means, of course, is that the idea that girls and women are human beings just as boys and men are, and should have access to education just as boys and men do, has infiltrated the Christian culture so thoroughly that even Christians are shocked that he plans to prevent his daughter from getting an education. There's a n … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No College Unless Daughter’s Motive is ‘Right’?

by Karl Heitman from Parking Space - 2 Reasons Why My Daughter Will Not Go To CollegeWarning: One big old pile of ranty word-salad brick. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: God Wants Daughters In Waiting To Wait At Home?

by Jenny McGinnis at Above Rubies - Daughters in Waiting: Finished School? What Now? Upon reaching the age of 18 and officially graduating from our family home school, I immediately met with very intense pressure from friends, teachers, and others to pursue a profession, attend college and even move out and get a "place of my own."  Many people assured me this would enable me to become a successful, independent career woman. … [Read more...]

My Abusive Relationship Was Typical

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger warning for abuse and sexual violence Last week, I wrote an article for xoJane and I shared some things about my past that I haven’t shared on the internet before. I don’t enjoy talking about my abusive relationship at all, and I especially avoid thinking about my last semester at PCC, which was nightmarish with exceedingly few good memories. I was extremely vulnerable in that piece, knowing that there would be people around the internet that would shit on it. … [Read more...]

Stand Up and Speak Your Truth

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI have always had a hard time standing up for myself. I chalk it up to the way I grew up. I grew up in a cult where women and children weren't allowed to speak up for themselves, especially when we were abused. We weren't allowed to ask "Why?" even in a quiet voice. We were to take abuse quietly, submissively, like Godly females would. Otherwise, all hell would break loose. So, my sisters and I grew up with blank, obedient minds. We were trained to obey male authority without question, and we had a healthy fear of the chain of command above us. We were Godly, submissive sheep who obeyed at the blink of an eye. We grew up with no defenses … [Read more...]

Pensacola Christian College & Me

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsIf you’ve never meandered around xoJane, well, now is your golden opportunity. I’ve been a loyal reader for almost a year now, and it’s a pretty cool place. So, when an xoJane editor reached out to me and asked if I’d be willing to tell a piece of my story for them, you can imagine that my reaction looked a bit like this: … [Read more...]

Then and Now

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI'm becoming more and more aware that I don't need to "aware" of my beliefs in order for them to affect my life.My beliefs shape the way my life is branching out right at this very moment, even if many of these beliefs were formed many years ago and I don't give them much thought today. … [Read more...]

By Its Cover: The Duggar Book Signing

 by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't Rapeor White Privilege, Judgmentalism and Duggars, Oh Boy!Warning: This is long and I talk a great deal about how my daughter was treated by “Good Christians”. These are my impressions, not necessarily the views of anyone else. I didn't say much about Michelle Duggar. Saving that for another post since I'm still sorting out my thoughts upon meeting her.Yesterday I took a little trip from my bungalow in Washington DC/Northern Virginia suburbia to another Northern Virginia section of suburbia to see TLC's “19 Kids & Counting” Duggars up close and in person. I took my college-aged daughter Laura from … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: College Just Extended Adolescense?

by Ladies Against Feminism - Family Economics: Why I Hated College Everyone seems to have a college degree, but no one seems to use it. We graduate from college ramping up scores of allegedly useful facts and critical thinking skills that ultimately teach us only how to do what we probably could have done already. … [Read more...]


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