Cloistered Fruit (Not) An Open Letter to the Pearls

May 30, 2013 By 10 Comments
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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons So, a friend of mine sent me this post by Michael and Debi Pearl the other day. I encourage you to go read it, just so that you have some context for the following rant and can follow along.

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New Duggar Book Delayed

May 27, 2013 By 5 Comments
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According to the unofficial Duggar Family blog the new book written by the Duggar daughters, “Growing Up Duggar”,  has had it’s release date pushed back until next year. Here’s what they said. 3rd Duggar Book…Coming in 2014

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Quoting Quiverfull: Winning Your Father’s Heart?

May 21, 2013 By 10 Comments
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by Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin from Visionary Daughters – “Visionary Daughters Interviewed” We see a particular need for girls to build better relationships with their fathers, as the effects of this relationship spill over into so many other areas of their lives — they way they view God, the way they relate to men, [...]

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The Supposed Myth of Teenaged Adolescence

May 16, 2013 By 3 Comments
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by Samantha I’ve talked a lot about the fundamentalist cult I was raised in, but something I don’t very frequently talk about here is my experience with the conservative religious homeschooling movement. For many people, the conservative religious homeschooling movement

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This is NOT Homeschooling: Is HSLDA Part of a “Bible-Based Cult”?

May 15, 2013 By 10 Comments
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by Heather Doney This may be the most important and most scary post on homeschooling that I have ever written. It feels like something out of a Margaret Atwood novel and I am numb as I write this, so please bear with me. The title of this post is not rhetorical. It is a question [...]

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