My Recovery Story: So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused. What Next?

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Come Weary MomsAn entry to the "So I've Been Spiritually Abused. What Next?" series.Four years ago, our family left a church organization which was and is facing major issues with legalism and abuse. It wasn’t easy to be there at the end.  It wasn’t easy to leave.  It still isn’t easy to navigate what I believe and how I relate to people.  Despite my deep disappointment and disillusionment, I have continued to rebuild my own spiritual life.  I have also looked back on several things that helped me transition out of more than one less-than-ideal-for-me situations.  I’d like to share these with you. … [Read more...]

Stand Up and Speak Your Truth

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI have always had a hard time standing up for myself. I chalk it up to the way I grew up. I grew up in a cult where women and children weren't allowed to speak up for themselves, especially when we were abused. We weren't allowed to ask "Why?" even in a quiet voice. We were to take abuse quietly, submissively, like Godly females would. Otherwise, all hell would break loose. So, my sisters and I grew up with blank, obedient minds. We were trained to obey male authority without question, and we had a healthy fear of the chain of command above us. We were Godly, submissive sheep who obeyed at the blink of an eye. We grew up with no defenses … [Read more...]

Then and Now

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI'm becoming more and more aware that I don't need to "aware" of my beliefs in order for them to affect my life.My beliefs shape the way my life is branching out right at this very moment, even if many of these beliefs were formed many years ago and I don't give them much thought today. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Attitude Controls Everything?

by Nancy Campbell cross posted from Above Rubies - No Time To Be Bored Do you realize that you create your own world right where you are? You have the power to make your marriage, mothering, and home pulsate with life. It all depends on your attitude. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Taking Feminist Positions When Convenient: Cognitive Dissonance Much?

by Kathleen Sloan (Board member National Organization for Women) and Jennifer Lahl (Founder and president of Center for Bioethics and Culture) posted at Ladies Against Feminism and Twin - Inconvenient Truths About Commercial Surrogacy It’s time for the shenanigans and propaganda to stop and for the inconvenient truths about commercial surrogacy to be told. … [Read more...]

Patriarcal Ideas in Modern Culture: Devaluing Fatherhood?

New feature for NLQ. When Patriarchy shows up in a news story as the accepted believe system in culture we'll be posting the details here. Bolded for emphasis.From The Huffington Post:  Someone isn't going to win Father of the Year.A prominent sports radio host told listeners that Mets player Daniel Murphy, who missed the first two games of the season, should have played ball instead of being with his wife and newborn son. … [Read more...]

News: Christian Right Mega-Church Minister Faces Mega-Mutiny For Abusive Behavior

from Alter Net Calvinist super-star Mark Driscoll is the iconic figure at the heart of a church empire that spans five states and fifteen locations. Founder of the Mars Hill franchise, Driscoll boasts a flock of 14,000 members plus hundreds of thousands of listeners and readers via web and print media, including, until last month, 466,000 followers on Twitter alone. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Pay For Your Own Birth Control?

by Matt Walsh from the Matt Walsh blog - A Brilliant and Innovative Solution For Women Who Want Birth Control Ready for it?I’ve poured through mounds of research, read pages and pages of court precedent; I’ve reflected on it, meditated, retreated into the mountains to ponder this mystery in peace; I’ve even Googled it, and all of these measures have brought me to one incredible solution for women who want birth control: … [Read more...]

Sexuality and Shame, Part 1: Sexpectations

by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (and Found) Mind of Kaleesha WilliamsPlease welcome our newest member of the SASBN Kaleesha Williams! She's written a great series on sexuality we'll be posting! Welcome aboard Kaleesh! “Shame, boatloads of shame Day after day, more of the same Blame, please lift it off Please take it off, please make it stop” -The Avett Brothers … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Every Sperm is Sacred?

by Colin Campbell from Meat For Men - Generational Fatherhood Our Savior, Jesus Christ, was 42 generations from Abraham. He was "the seed" in the loins of father Abraham 42 generations before He was born.Fathers, you do not know what powerful seed may be within your loins that could greatly influence the world for righteousness, even in FUTURE GENERATIONS. … [Read more...]