Submissive No More

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixI have had this huge epiphany in the last couple of weeks. My discovery:-It is OK to express anger in healthy ways, even if this means yelling.-Forced female to male submission is abusive. When a man yells at a woman and doesn't "allow" her to defend herself or yell back, that is abuse.I am realizing for the first time in my life that my lifelong habit of never raising my voice in anger, even when someone is screaming at me and being abusive...possibly isn't as healthy as I thought it was.It was my mother flipping out on me over the phone and email this past month that triggered this epiphany. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Cooking is Your JOB Woman!?

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Stephen L. Anderson quotes from Ramblings of Sheldon and The Friendly Atheist. The Friendly Atheist link has a live blogging of Anderson's sermon with lots of content.  For such a skinny guy Anderson seems particularly focused on food. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Only Place is in ‘The Home’?

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by Emily from her blog Raising Homemakers - So You Think You Should Go To Work? Maybe you know the Scriptures that clearly state that the woman’s job is to be a keeper at home, but you think to yourself…”Well…I can have a job and be a keeper at home!”  Well, if you are away from home, at a job, you cannot be keeping the home.  You simply will not be there to keep it if you are at a job. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Daycare is Adopting Your Kid Out

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 184—185We are still in Debi’s chapter on loving one’s children. Last week we got to the first part of the chapter that actually contained some actually good advice. This had to do with the importance of a mother working one on one with her children, and teaching them little things all through the day—what goes in soup, how to sound words out, and how to fold laundry. I really did like that Debi said a mother should work directly with an individual child even in a large family, though I felt she didn’t follow that up with helpful how-tos and risked leaving overwhelmed mothers of large families … [Read more...]

The Destiny of a Virtuous Daughter: Part 6

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by StarfuryMy depression grew over the months we were without contact. I had begun to build much of my life around Anthony, and my/our intent to marry. I assumed what I was doing was how it was supposed to  be--I didn’t have anything to compare it to, but, if I was supposed to marry my first beau? I dropped out of college and transferred to a state school in another state, where some friends lived. I made up half-hearted excuses to any who asked, and did my best to throw myself into my studies, despite the lack of challenge they presented. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Looking up to a Leader is Sexual Sin?

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by Jim Bob Howard of Highlands Ministries and reposted at Ladies Against Feminism - Flirting With Sexual SinLadies, don’t think you’re off the hook; I’d like to talk to you for a minute, too. Most readers here probably don’t spend much time falling for the men on the “daytime dramas” and the romance novels, who are no more real than Miss Picture Perfect. Rather, you spend time reading and listening to homeschool conference speakers, preachers, authors, magazine editors, etc. and wishing your husband would be more like ________ (fill in the name), not realizing that Mr. Blank is a sinner, just like your husband. Beware: you are a daughter of Eve; don’t let yourself be deceived. You are not … [Read more...]

Farris: Patriarchy Makes Kids Gay and Atheists

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismIf you read my blog, you’re probably aware of the Christian homeschooling subculture’s patriarchy problem. A variety of prominent Christian homeschool leaders have been promoting patriarchal family structures at homeschool conventions and in homeschool publications for well over a decade, and two of those leaders—Bill Gothard and Doug Phillips—have recently fallen, engulfed in scandal. Michael Farris, another prominent Christian homeschool leader, has since come out criticizing these leaders and the “patriarchy” they taught. Now Farris has openly criticized “patriarchy” as part of a keynote address while keynoting at a homeschool … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Fashion Leads to Lust?

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by Stephanus Blignaut from Go Tell My People - Modesty: Discouraging Lust and Encouraging Godliness Women are so easily caught up in “what everyone is doing” or what is available in the shops and what is promoted in magazines and TV. They don’t think about how their body is portrayed and what it causes in men – the stumbling block it becomes for men. Women condemn lust in a man when they see it but somehow they don’t make the connection between the condemnable lust and their own clothes that they are wearing. Not realizing this makes them stand guilty before God as a stumbling stone because of the lust they caused. … [Read more...]

Mary Pride denies founding the Quiverfull movement?

by Vyckie Garrison (Editor's Note: This was originally published on NLQ back around three or four years ago. Sharing again as it seems appropriate in light of our recent discussions about Mary Pride)A couple months back, I received an email from Mary Pride -- apparently, she's feeling the pressure since Frank Schaeffer mentioned her in his latest book, Sex, Mom & God, and has been talking in various interviews about her role in founding the Quiverfull and Christian Patriarchy movements with her book, The Way Home: Beyond Feminism and Back to Reality.If you Google "Mary Pride" -- NLQ comes up 4th on the results page -- I'm guessing that's how she ended up emailing me: … [Read more...]

What is the Bravest Thing You’ve Ever Done?

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixThe bravest thing I have done so far in my life has been allowing myself to feel.I was able to make it as far as I did  in life appearing on the outside to be normal and functional because I buried the past. Completely. I didn't talk about it to anyone, and I didn't acknowledge it to myself.Being numb to it was the only way I could survive. I purposely hung around with people who didn't talk about feelings or emotional things. I buried who I was, even if it meant I also had to bury my intuition, my creativity, my feelings, my empathy, and any form of introspection. … [Read more...]


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