Who Was That Masked Man? Part 11

July 11, 2012 By 3 Comments

by Calulu I went home crying, shocked that my pastor had gone back on his word like that. It was a betrayal that left me reeling emotionally. Cried for days feeling a sense of deep betrayal. The pastor was quiet that week, no emails or phone calls. I told my husband that I thought the [...]

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Raised Quiverfull: A Gendered Childhood Part 1

July 10, 2012 By Leave a Comment

by Libby Anne Raised Quiverfull Introduction — A Gendered Childhood Question 1: How many siblings did you grow up with? Did responsibilities in your family differ by gender, with the girls having certain chores and the boys having others? Explain. Joe: My Mama was a very unique woman.  I’ll explain in a bit.  But first, I [...]

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Millipede: Part 12

July 9, 2012 By 7 Comments
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by Millipede In truth, our Pastor was going through a period of soul searching. In the years that we first met him, certain issues had driven him into the Patriot movement which in turn had exposed him to different variants of Christianity. Now, not quite a decade later, his experiences had found him wanting. He [...]

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Daughter of the Patriarchy: Safe Now

July 8, 2012 By 3 Comments

by Sierra Princesses do NOT eat turkey legs. A month after my acceptance, I was moving onto campus for my first autumn semester at Rowling College.* Most of my community college credits had transferred, leaving me a semester ahead of that year’s incoming freshmen. The same summer, my mother and I had finally filled out [...]

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Raised Quiverfull: Living the Life Part 2

July 7, 2012 By 2 Comments

by Libby Anne Raised Quiverfull Introduction — Questioning Summary Question 3: How often did you, your siblings, and your parents read the Bible? Were you guided by your parents or pastors in how to interpret the Bible, especially certain passages, or were you generally free to form your own ideas about what the Bible said? Joe: [...]

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