Coming Out of the Cult Closet

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixThe last year has been full of shifts, most of them tumultuous, but most of them ending up being quite positive. In the actual moment, each change didn't feel positive. It felt like I was wearing skin that didn't fit me anymore, and I was trying to wrestle out of it. Much like a critter shedding it's old skin. Painful, itchy, uncomfortable, exhausting. But then each time I shed an old layer, it felt great afterwards to relax and sit in the sun, so to speak with spanking new skin that felt all new and glowing. … [Read more...]

My Recovery Story: So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused. What Next?

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by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Come Weary MomsAn entry to the "So I've Been Spiritually Abused. What Next?" series.Four years ago, our family left a church organization which was and is facing major issues with legalism and abuse. It wasn’t easy to be there at the end.  It wasn’t easy to leave.  It still isn’t easy to navigate what I believe and how I relate to people.  Despite my deep disappointment and disillusionment, I have continued to rebuild my own spiritual life.  I have also looked back on several things that helped me transition out of more than one less-than-ideal-for-me situations.  I’d like to share these with you. … [Read more...]

Stand Up and Speak Your Truth

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI have always had a hard time standing up for myself. I chalk it up to the way I grew up. I grew up in a cult where women and children weren't allowed to speak up for themselves, especially when we were abused. We weren't allowed to ask "Why?" even in a quiet voice. We were to take abuse quietly, submissively, like Godly females would. Otherwise, all hell would break loose. So, my sisters and I grew up with blank, obedient minds. We were trained to obey male authority without question, and we had a healthy fear of the chain of command above us. We were Godly, submissive sheep who obeyed at the blink of an eye. We grew up with no defenses … [Read more...]

Then and Now

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI'm becoming more and more aware that I don't need to "aware" of my beliefs in order for them to affect my life.My beliefs shape the way my life is branching out right at this very moment, even if many of these beliefs were formed many years ago and I don't give them much thought today. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Attitude Controls Everything?

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by Nancy Campbell cross posted from Above Rubies - No Time To Be Bored Do you realize that you create your own world right where you are? You have the power to make your marriage, mothering, and home pulsate with life. It all depends on your attitude. … [Read more...]

News: Christian Right Mega-Church Minister Faces Mega-Mutiny For Abusive Behavior

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from Alter Net Calvinist super-star Mark Driscoll is the iconic figure at the heart of a church empire that spans five states and fifteen locations. Founder of the Mars Hill franchise, Driscoll boasts a flock of 14,000 members plus hundreds of thousands of listeners and readers via web and print media, including, until last month, 466,000 followers on Twitter alone. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Smile or Be Tired and Fearful?

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by Nancy Campbell cross posted from Above Rubies - Fill Your Home With SmilesA downcast face will lock you into tiredness or anxiety. A happy face will ignite a spark of joy in your heart. A miserable face will sink you into self-pity.Put on a smile, even if it is the last thing you feel like doing, and you will feel your heavy burden lift.Proverbs 15:12 MLB says, "A happy heart makes the face look sunny." … [Read more...]

Behind The Mask: Why We Join Patriarchy & Mask Our True Selves

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by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeHave you ever asked yourself exactly how women get into fundamentalist-patriarchy Christianity and why they stay? What emotional payoff are they getting? What drives the desire to completely immerse oneself into a system that devalues you as a human? Giving up all autonomy for the sake of male rule? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No One Else Will Do?

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by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - No One Else Will Do Dear mother, do not be lured away by the humanistic voices all around you, in the church and in the world. Listen to God's voice. Listen to your heart. You are needed for your children. No one else will ever love and care for your children like you do. No one else will ever be sensitive to their physical needs, and especially their innermost needs as you are. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Reexamining Traditional Gender Roles Emasculates Men?

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from Ladies Against Feminism - "Free To Be... You and Me" Emasculated Men Nineteen seventy-four was a grim year in the history of the Republic. An embargo had quadrupled the price of oil and touched off an energy crisis so severe that the state of Oregon banned Christmas lights as wasting energy. The president of the United States seemed to have taken part in a criminal conspiracy that would soon lead to his resignation. … [Read more...]


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