The Marriage Benefits of Leaving Fundamentalism

July 26, 2012 By 7 Comments

by Latebloomer If I had stayed within the constraints of fundamentalism and Christian Patriarchy, my husband and I would absolutely not be happily married today. Our relationship from the very beginning consisted of many departures from the teachings I grew up with. Each of those departures furthered the development, health, and mutual happiness of our [...]

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Millipede Part 15

July 24, 2012 By 7 Comments
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by Millipede I watched in the oncoming month as my husband’s church world came apart. Everything carried a taint of the break; sermons where a new point of view was explained, the fellowship afterwards that was a shadow of its former self. I watched as my husband hung back while our pastor conversed with the [...]

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Revisiting NLQ FAQ: Should There Be a “You” in Quivering?

July 23, 2012 By 5 Comments

What “Deny Yourself” Means – and Doesn’t Mean by Kristen Rosser ~ aka: KR Wordgazer The founders of No Longer Qivering spelled “Quivering” without a “u“ because, as they say, “There is no ‘you’ in Quivering” – there’s no place for self - and they claim this is a bad thing. But Jesus said that a [...]

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Millipede: Part 14

July 21, 2012 By 6 Comments
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by Millipede There in some ways like that of the old church, but with a new twist all elders had to live within a certain distance of the town in which the new church was located. I think that it was 20 miles or something. It was along the lines of the members being close [...]

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Gloating and Slander: Michael Pearl, Nancy Ann Wilson and Christian Fundamentalist Responses to Criticism

July 20, 2012 By 7 Comments
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by Sierra (Editor’s note: Many of our NLQ writers have sounded off on this situation. To see more visit Libby Anne, and Incongruous Circumspection. There are others who’ve also written of what happened that are worth checking out – Rachel Held Evans, The Friendly Atheist, Sarah Over The Moon,  Dianna Anderson, and Are Women Human.) [...]

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