News & Links Saturday – November 3, 2012

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Instead of  putting it on random Thursdays the links and news items are moving to Saturday. We'll also be featuring  some of our Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network members blog postings as well each week. Interesting week with the election happening in mere days and the sad aftermath of Hurricane Sandy. May the East Coast … [Read more...]

The Parenting Project: Childhood Part 1

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Here's the next set of questions for the Parenting Project. They deal with the type of parenting you received from your own parents and while you were at school. I hope you're consider joining this project and sharing what you know about parenting. Again, only answer as much as you feel comfortable doing. I know some will have had childhood experiences of the type that might trigger just by thinking back to your childhood. To everyone participating thank you! Introduction Questions ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 1. What type of parenting style and/or discipline did your parents follow? 2. Was their parenting/discipline style something that their church taught or … [Read more...]

Crampin’ My Style

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by Mari A few days after my spiritual epiphany, my three brothers and I received brand new, leather-bound King James Version Bibles for Christmas. On New Years’ Day, we began our annual tradition of reading through the entire Bible in 365 days. We were 11, 9, 7 and 5 years of age. This ritual consisted of all of us sitting in a circle and taking turns reading 2 verses each until the assigned passages were finished. I don’t know how anybody else felt about this new development, but personally, I hated it. It wasn’t so much that I didn’t like reading the Bible as it was that I hated that it was so ritualistic and it kept us from doing “kid” stuff. My brothers and … [Read more...]

Proud to be a Tent Peg

Above Rubies Magazine Proud to be a Tent Peg

By Vyckie Garrison Holy sugar ... I should know better than to actually read the Above Rubies magazine from which I have been too lazy to cancel my subscription.  But this morning I couldn't resist skimming through the pages to catch up on Colin & Nancy Campbell's ever-growing stockpile of Holy War ammunition ... er, quiver full of arrows. Whereas, every AR article used to inspire and motivate me to fight the good fight, now it all reminds me of how my desire to love and serve the Lord wholeheartedly was twisted and exploited to scam me into embracing and supporting the Patriarchy. Take this brief article by Esther MacDonald for example: Proud to be a Tent Peg A tent peg is … [Read more...]

Millipede Part 33 How Did I Get Here? Part 4

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by Millipede I think that a lot of women traveled the gradual route. It is the sweetest way into the trap. In my case I can say that one of the bigger issues lies within the sociopolitical cosmos itself. For example, feminism exists in alliance with other causes such as affirmative action and gun control. A similar linkage of various views occurs on the right. In my case while I believed that women should have basic equal rights as men I held other views that were verboten in the Liberal/Progressive circle in which I was raised and schooled. This led me to search elsewhere. Even then, I could have stayed out of Patriarchy. However, it was the reawakening interest in the Bible and … [Read more...]

I just don’t like Above Rubies magazine

Above Rubies Magazine

By Vyckie Garrison My bulk subscription to Above Rubies recently arrived in the mail. Even though I left my Quiverfull beliefs and lifestyle over five years ago, I never bothered to remove myself from Nancy Campbell's mailing list - so periodically, I still receive five copies of the magazine which claims to be "Strengthening Families Across The World." The lastest issue features a cover photo of Nancy's daughters, Pearl and Serene making their FAT STRIPPING FRAPPA (even though it's sweet, frothy, and creamy, it will strip off the pounds!  ... find the recipe in their new book, Trim Healthy Mama) and headlines to make a submissive Quiverfull wife drool: We Stopped Our … [Read more...]

Fear-Based Parenting

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by Kristen Rosser aka KRWordgazer Latebloomer at Past Tense Present Progressive is blogging about Reb Bradley's book Child Training Tips.  Calulu at Roadkill on the Information Superhighway is blogging about Michael and Debbi Pearl's To Train Up a Child.  I'd like to chime in today with some thoughts about the method of child rearing which the two books share: they call it "Biblical parenting" or "Bible-based child training," but it bears no resemblance to the way Jesus spoke of or treated children.  Instead, it takes a few proof texts (mostly from Proverbs) and builds an entire harsh, repressive and unjust regime out of them. This is not something I can remain silent … [Read more...]

Millipede Part 32 How Did I Get Here? Part 3

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by Millipede In my case, the path started when I became involved in various "patriot" groups. Ironically, I was at first very careful to weed out the chauvinists and the misogynists. How women were viewed and treated was a make or break issue with me. My husband at the time was like most "average" guys meaning that he believed(or claimed to) gender equality to some degree. As in my previous experience, it was a mixed bag, some people were great, but sure enough we ran into a few rabid patriarchs. I remember one man, a preacher saying that women who were serving in the army ought to be ashamed of themselves and should instead, be at home changing diapers. Afterwords, my husband and I … [Read more...]

Duggar Family Singing on the Campaign Trail of Todd Akin

Matthew 12:35 "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks"  by Calulu  Today some of the more popular media outlets like Buzzfeed, finally picked up on the story that the holier than holy Jim Bob & Michelle Duggar family had started stumping for Todd Akin. They've been with Akin and others trying to drum up votes since early this week. I wonder how long it will take mainstream media to realize that the Duggars are part of the campaign rally for a man almost universally reviled for his repugnant remarks on rape? It's a question that bears asking considering by doing so the Duggars are stamping their approval on the very thing that makes everyone else hate Todd Akin. I … [Read more...]

Evangelical Christian Marriage: Hawking the Product

by Sierra In evangelical Christian culture, marriage is a commodity. Marriage books are sold like gardening manuals or cheat sheets for the SATs. The sales pitch for marriage in Christian culture is more intense than any you’ll ever experience on a used car lot. Christians are made to believe that they’re God’s designated curators of Marriage, That Holy and Venerable Institution, and that falling down on the job can undermine the entire fabric of society. Just look at these book titles! Marriage is about way more than you and your partner: Save a Marriage, Save Our Nation Why Marriage Matters Marriage On Trial Marriage is also sold as the cure-all for emotional … [Read more...]


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