I just don’t like Above Rubies magazine

October 25, 2012 By 14 Comments
Above Rubies Magazine

By Vyckie Garrison My bulk subscription to Above Rubies recently arrived in the mail. Even though I left my Quiverfull beliefs and lifestyle over five years ago, I never bothered to remove myself from Nancy Campbell’s mailing list – so periodically, I still receive five copies of the magazine which claims to be “Strengthening Families Across [...]

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Millipede Part 32 How Did I Get Here? Part 3

October 21, 2012 By Leave a Comment
howdidIget here

by Millipede In my case, the path started when I became involved in various “patriot” groups. Ironically, I was at first very careful to weed out the chauvinists and the misogynists. How women were viewed and treated was a make or break issue with me. My husband at the time was like most “average” guys [...]

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Evangelical Christian Marriage: Hawking the Product

October 18, 2012 By 9 Comments

by Sierra In evangelical Christian culture, marriage is a commodity. Marriage books are sold like gardening manuals or cheat sheets for the SATs. The sales pitch for marriage in Christian culture is more intense than any you’ll ever experience on a used car lot. Christians are made to believe that they’re God’s designated curators of [...]

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Millipede Part 31 – How Did I Get Here Part 2

October 16, 2012 By 5 Comments
endoftheroad

by Millipede The path to Patriarchy is often a convoluted one. Embracing of Patriarchal beliefs is usually not the original intent, but is often the “byproduct” of one’s attempt to embrace a particular religion and/ or ideology. This is important to remember, few women are quick to jump on a bandwagon which promotes a society [...]

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Millipede Part 30 – How Did I Get Here Part 1

October 10, 2012 By 4 Comments

by Millipede How Did I get here? In the Talking Heads song “Once in a lifetime”, lead singer David Byrne echoes this very line. This lyric came to me many a time as I withdrew from Patriarchal fundamentalism. Like a Nautilus Shell rising to the ocean surface, my ascent was marked with the emptying of [...]

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