Quoting Quiverfull: Chastening Children

February 20, 2013 By 16 Comments

Quiverfull leader, Jonathan Lindvall’s “consistent chastening sequence” … guaranteed to make every instance of “biblical discipline” last an hour or more. ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Step #1: Immediately Send Them to Privacy Step #2: Require a Confession

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Corporal Punishment and The End of The Red Stick

February 19, 2013 By 9 Comments
sister

by Becoming Worldly This picture could be anybody’s little sister blindfolded and hitting a piñata at her Dad’s house for another sibling’s birthday. But it isn’t. It’s my little sister. She lives in a different world than I did. One with her own bedroom and court-ordered visitation and Christmas presents from a kind stepmother. She [...]

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Two Simple Statements

February 9, 2013 By 1 Comment
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by Samantha By the time I was a sophomore at an extremely conservative Christian college, I had gone through twelve years at an IFB church and been manipulated and bullied by quiverful and patriarchal teachings. My family had been excommunicated from the church, and friends I had

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Discovering Sex and Confronting “What Do Women Want?”

February 8, 2013 By 3 Comments
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 by Becoming Worldly I have heard the question of “what do women want?” posed as a philosophical consideration, as more of an existential crisis or emergency question, and as just a plain old whiny complaint. For years I was confused by it but today I have an answer, a real answer for anyone who is [...]

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A Clever Boy

February 4, 2013 By 7 Comments
Jeffrey

by Jeffrey Witthauer An atheist page asked those of us who were formerly religious to share our stories. This is what I wrote up. I was raised in a cult. I do not use that word lightly. The sign outside the church said “Baptist”, but we were not part of any Baptist convocation. We were [...]

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