Understanding How Dysfunctional Families Prime Children For the Experience of Shame (Leading To Victimization)

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by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much GraceOriginally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the “Roots of Victimization”There are many excellent Christian books concerning dysfunctional family dynamics -- that is besides the Book of Genesis which contains the best archetypal examples of how you should NOT relate to other family members! One of the most interesting families to draw out on a relationship diagram is that of Jacob, Esau and their parents, and some of the Christian self-help books in this genre look at many of the Old Testament patriarchs to explain how tri … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: What is Normal Exactly?

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by Shoshanna Pearl Easling from No Greater Joy - Yes! I Am Normal … [Read more...]

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Part 2 – Navigating the Justice System: When My Parents Went to Court

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemThis part of Navigating the Justice System deals with a time in my life when my parents went to court and I didn't, but I am including it in the middle of a three part series since it hinges them together. Here is what happened when my parents went to court: … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Dancing With the Devil – Part 2

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by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - When the Worst HappensThis is for seven to twelve year olds … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Too Sympathetic and Sensitive to Discipline?

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by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Child Training Marathon Revisited & UpdatedBe sure and read the entire piece at No Great Joy. There are so many stomach-turning stories in this Michael Pearl penned piece, ugly descriptions of the parents, he makes a horrible comparison of a 6 year old boy to a psychologist (which I think is Pearl coded language for manipulator)  and explains his idea of spanking in loving detail. … [Read more...]

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What is the Bravest Thing You’ve Ever Done?

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixThe bravest thing I have done so far in my life has been allowing myself to feel.I was able to make it as far as I did  in life appearing on the outside to be normal and functional because I buried the past. Completely. I didn't talk about it to anyone, and I didn't acknowledge it to myself.Being numb to it was the only way I could survive. I purposely hung around with people who didn't talk about feelings or emotional things. I buried who I was, even if it meant I also had to bury my intuition, my creativity, my feelings, my empathy, and any form of introspection. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Mary Pride Marginalized by Patriarchy?

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by Karen Campbell from her blog That MomMary Pride was one of the first leaders in the modern homeschooling movement. Her book The Way Home was a powerful rebuttal of the radical feminist agenda and she minced no words as she made an appeal for rejecting all sorts of sacred cows. Mary was outspoken and certainly no model of the perfect patriarch wife and ruffled lots of male feathers. One of my fondest memories of homeschooling in the early days (nearly 30 years ago now) is of a conference in the St. Louis area with Gregg Harris, Michael Farris, and Mary … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: How Can Accountability and Standards Be ‘Wrong’?

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by Karen Campbell at her blog That Mom - Patriarchy on Trial, part four A new, organized, and clearly focused group of former homeschool students, motivated, in part, by the bad fruits of patriocentric homeschooling, have taken up the banner for homeschooling reform, putting the very good ideals at the heart of homeschooling at risk. Their legitimate concerns over some instances of sexual, physical, emotional, and spiritual abuse of children have resulted in their misguided call for state-operated control over all homeschooling and have even extended to their advancement of “homosexual rights” for homeschooled children. Though I have had similar concerns about treatment of all children, home … [Read more...]

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News: Duggars Dealing With Bill Gothard Fallout

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Jezebel.Com has written a horribly funny but thought-provoking  piece on the changes through the years in the Duggar family along with how they are answering the criticisms for following Bill "Grabby Hands" Gothard - How are the Duggars dealing with the Gothard Sex Scandal?So, what follows may be the greatest Duggar based conspiracy theory that you've read this month. Ok, it's not that great but it's a theory. Now, it is well known among Gothard's that the kind of crunchy, curly home-permed hair favored by Michelle and the clan in the early season is based on preferences of Gothard, who loved long, wavy womanly hair and damn the woman who does not possess sacred this crown. Now it may … [Read more...]

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The Six Inch Rule: Thou Shalt Not Touch

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by Bruce Genercser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardImagine for a moment, that you are sitting in the pew of an Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church. You are 16 years old and sitting next to you is your 17-year-old girlfriend. Like normal teenagers, you are sitting as close as possible to your girlfriend and you are discreetly, cleverly holding handsThe pastor is getting ready to preach and he asks everyone to turn to 1 Corinthians 7:1,2. With a thunderous voice, the pastor says, THE BIBLE SAYS: … [Read more...]

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