Quoting Quiverfull: Anger is Always Wrong?

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One of the ongoing themes throughout the Duggar girls book is that anger is dangerous and to be avoided at all costs.  Keep in control even when starting to experience anger (which they seem to think no one has the right to actually be angry) is paramount. They talk about Michelle whispering when getting angry and how you should make sure any guy you're in courtship with doesn't get angry easy.Makes me wonder what they thought of Jesus throwing the money changers out of the temple. Did they think Jesus was politely tiptoeing around saying, 'Sorry, old chap, but you can't do that here. sorry I'm knocking your stuff around. Have a nice day!' … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The Four Points of Obedience For The Duggar Kids?

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From page 44 of the book "Growing Up Duggar" in a section on why children being obedient in all things to the parents is important. Obedience must be:Instant. We answer with an immediate, prompt, "Yes ma'am!" or "Yes, sir!" as we set out to obey. (This response is important to let the authority know you heard what he or she asked you to do and that you are going to get it done as soon as possible.) Delayed obedience is really disobedience. Cheerful.  No grumbling or complaining. Instead, we respond with a cheerful "I'd be happy to!" Thorough. We do our best, complete the task as explained, and leave nothing out. No lazy shortcuts! Unconditional. No excuses,. No, 'That's not my … [Read more...]

What is the Bravest Thing You’ve Ever Done?

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixThe bravest thing I have done so far in my life has been allowing myself to feel.I was able to make it as far as I did  in life appearing on the outside to be normal and functional because I buried the past. Completely. I didn't talk about it to anyone, and I didn't acknowledge it to myself.Being numb to it was the only way I could survive. I purposely hung around with people who didn't talk about feelings or emotional things. I buried who I was, even if it meant I also had to bury my intuition, my creativity, my feelings, my empathy, and any form of introspection. … [Read more...]

The 10 Best (AKA, Worst) Quotations From Mary Pride’s “The Child Abuse Industry”

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by R. A. Stollar cross posted from Homeschoolers AnonymousMost Christian homeschoolers know Mary Pride as “the queen of homeschooling,” one of the founders of the Quiverfull movement, the anti-feminism author of The Way Home, or the publisher of the wildly popular magazine “Practical Homeschooling.” But she also wrote a lesser known book in 1985 entitled The Child Abuse Industry: Outrageous Facts About Child Abuse & Everyday Rebellions Against a System that Threatens Every North American Family. It is a remarkable read that calls for a “Second North American Revolution” — namely, having babies, abolishing no-fault divorce, going to church, eliminating foster care, homeschooling, re-in … [Read more...]

1971-1972 Good Baptist Boys Don’t Dance

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by Bruce Gerenscer cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardNinth grade school picture, wearing the welfare glasses I got in 1971. It took me all of 4 weeks to earn enough money to get a pair wire rimmed glasses. I was so embarrassed to wear these glasses. Everyone knew our family was on welfare.It’s September of 1971 and I am fourteen and a ninth grade student at Central Junior High School in Findlay, Ohio. It’s time for gym class and today we are going to square dance. Except I won’t be square dancing because the church I attended, Trinity Baptist Church, considered dancing a sin. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: How Can Accountability and Standards Be ‘Wrong’?

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by Karen Campbell at her blog That Mom - Patriarchy on Trial, part four A new, organized, and clearly focused group of former homeschool students, motivated, in part, by the bad fruits of patriocentric homeschooling, have taken up the banner for homeschooling reform, putting the very good ideals at the heart of homeschooling at risk. Their legitimate concerns over some instances of sexual, physical, emotional, and spiritual abuse of children have resulted in their misguided call for state-operated control over all homeschooling and have even extended to their advancement of “homosexual rights” for homeschooled children. Though I have had similar concerns about treatment of all children, home … [Read more...]

News: Is ‘Sleeping Beauty’ a Tale of Female Submission?

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from Buzz Feed's Ariane Lange - How Maleficent Became The Mistress of all Evil in Just 600 Years But perhaps the explanation for Maleficent’s cruelty has been in the centuries of patriarchal history all along.In Disney’s 1959 version and its source material, Maleficent curses a baby princess to seek revenge for a real or perceived insult. Despite being harsh, this villain is, remarkably, the only female character who is consistently pursuing her own agenda in every version of these stories. … [Read more...]

News: Duggars Dealing With Bill Gothard Fallout

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Jezebel.Com has written a horribly funny but thought-provoking  piece on the changes through the years in the Duggar family along with how they are answering the criticisms for following Bill "Grabby Hands" Gothard - How are the Duggars dealing with the Gothard Sex Scandal?So, what follows may be the greatest Duggar based conspiracy theory that you've read this month. Ok, it's not that great but it's a theory. Now, it is well known among Gothard's that the kind of crunchy, curly home-permed hair favored by Michelle and the clan in the early season is based on preferences of Gothard, who loved long, wavy womanly hair and damn the woman who does not possess sacred this crown. Now it may … [Read more...]

The Six Inch Rule: Thou Shalt Not Touch

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by Bruce Genercser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardImagine for a moment, that you are sitting in the pew of an Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church. You are 16 years old and sitting next to you is your 17-year-old girlfriend. Like normal teenagers, you are sitting as close as possible to your girlfriend and you are discreetly, cleverly holding handsThe pastor is getting ready to preach and he asks everyone to turn to 1 Corinthians 7:1,2. With a thunderous voice, the pastor says, THE BIBLE SAYS: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Killer Babies?

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by Voddie Bauchaum from the sermon 'The Doctrine of Depravity' "One of the reasons that God makes human babies small is so they won't kill their parents in their sleep. They're evil. Yes, this is true of children. 'None is righteous; no, not one.'…Yes, that little, precious one—you better believe it. If you don't, you miss the big picture and you don't realize your desperate need to get the gospel to your child again and again and again and again." … [Read more...]


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