Quoting Quiverfull: The Four Points of Obedience For The Duggar Kids?

From page 44 of the book "Growing Up Duggar" in a section on why children being obedient in all things to the parents is important. Obedience must be:Instant. We answer with an immediate, prompt, "Yes ma'am!" or "Yes, sir!" as we set out to obey. (This response is important to let the authority know you heard what he or she asked you to do and that you are going to get it done as soon as possible.) Delayed obedience is really disobedience. Cheerful.  No grumbling or complaining. Instead, we respond with a cheerful "I'd be happy to!" Thorough. We do our best, complete the task as explained, and leave nothing out. No lazy shortcuts! Unconditional. No excuses,. No, 'That's not my … [Read more...]

What is the Bravest Thing You’ve Ever Done?

by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixThe bravest thing I have done so far in my life has been allowing myself to feel.I was able to make it as far as I did  in life appearing on the outside to be normal and functional because I buried the past. Completely. I didn't talk about it to anyone, and I didn't acknowledge it to myself.Being numb to it was the only way I could survive. I purposely hung around with people who didn't talk about feelings or emotional things. I buried who I was, even if it meant I also had to bury my intuition, my creativity, my feelings, my empathy, and any form of introspection. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Mary Pride Marginalized by Patriarchy?

by Karen Campbell from her blog That MomMary Pride was one of the first leaders in the modern homeschooling movement. Her book The Way Home was a powerful rebuttal of the radical feminist agenda and she minced no words as she made an appeal for rejecting all sorts of sacred cows. Mary was outspoken and certainly no model of the perfect patriarch wife and ruffled lots of male feathers. One of my fondest memories of homeschooling in the early days (nearly 30 years ago now) is of a conference in the St. Louis area with Gregg Harris, Michael Farris, and Mary … [Read more...]

News: Jack Schaap Trying To Squirm Out Of Sentence

Now Jack Schaap is claiming that he was improperly represented by his legal staff at his trial for violation of the Mann Act and sex with an underaged girl. Schaap is claiming his attorneys promised him a sentence of no more than ten years, yet the judge gave him twelve years. It was fully within the rights of the judge to decide the length of the sentence regardless of what prosecutors  or defense team members asked for as a sentence. … [Read more...]

1971-1972 Good Baptist Boys Don’t Dance

by Bruce Gerenscer cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardNinth grade school picture, wearing the welfare glasses I got in 1971. It took me all of 4 weeks to earn enough money to get a pair wire rimmed glasses. I was so embarrassed to wear these glasses. Everyone knew our family was on welfare.It’s September of 1971 and I am fourteen and a ninth grade student at Central Junior High School in Findlay, Ohio. It’s time for gym class and today we are going to square dance. Except I won’t be square dancing because the church I attended, Trinity Baptist Church, considered dancing a sin. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: How Can Accountability and Standards Be ‘Wrong’?

by Karen Campbell at her blog That Mom - Patriarchy on Trial, part four A new, organized, and clearly focused group of former homeschool students, motivated, in part, by the bad fruits of patriocentric homeschooling, have taken up the banner for homeschooling reform, putting the very good ideals at the heart of homeschooling at risk. Their legitimate concerns over some instances of sexual, physical, emotional, and spiritual abuse of children have resulted in their misguided call for state-operated control over all homeschooling and have even extended to their advancement of “homosexual rights” for homeschooled children. Though I have had similar concerns about treatment of all children, home … [Read more...]

News: Is ‘Sleeping Beauty’ a Tale of Female Submission?

from Buzz Feed's Ariane Lange - How Maleficent Became The Mistress of all Evil in Just 600 Years But perhaps the explanation for Maleficent’s cruelty has been in the centuries of patriarchal history all along.In Disney’s 1959 version and its source material, Maleficent curses a baby princess to seek revenge for a real or perceived insult. Despite being harsh, this villain is, remarkably, the only female character who is consistently pursuing her own agenda in every version of these stories. … [Read more...]

News: Utah Modesty Police Photoshop Yearbook Photos

from Michael Stone at his blog Progressive Secular Humanist - American Taliban: Utah Modesty Police Edit Girls' Yearbook PhotosEditorial note: This has been all over the media the last few days. Apparently  Good Christians/Mormons (tm) decided that tank tops and bra straps were the big No-No and decided to keep Utah boys pure of lustful thoughts by photoshopping (badly) sleeves onto shirts covering shoulders and bra straps. More slut-shaming in this modesty standard that wasn't even applied consistently.Modesty standards and slut shaming isn't just for Biblical Patriarches, Minthegap's Adam Gregorin and church busybodies any more. … [Read more...]

News: Duggars Dealing With Bill Gothard Fallout

Jezebel.Com has written a horribly funny but thought-provoking  piece on the changes through the years in the Duggar family along with how they are answering the criticisms for following Bill "Grabby Hands" Gothard - How are the Duggars dealing with the Gothard Sex Scandal?So, what follows may be the greatest Duggar based conspiracy theory that you've read this month. Ok, it's not that great but it's a theory. Now, it is well known among Gothard's that the kind of crunchy, curly home-permed hair favored by Michelle and the clan in the early season is based on preferences of Gothard, who loved long, wavy womanly hair and damn the woman who does not possess sacred this crown. Now it may … [Read more...]

The Six Inch Rule: Thou Shalt Not Touch

by Bruce Genercser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardImagine for a moment, that you are sitting in the pew of an Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church. You are 16 years old and sitting next to you is your 17-year-old girlfriend. Like normal teenagers, you are sitting as close as possible to your girlfriend and you are discreetly, cleverly holding handsThe pastor is getting ready to preach and he asks everyone to turn to 1 Corinthians 7:1,2. With a thunderous voice, the pastor says, THE BIBLE SAYS: … [Read more...]