Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Nip What in the Bud?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Nip It In The BudEditor's note: Another you're doing parenting wrong piece from the Pearls. In this one they condemn a man for beating his son. I cannot for the life of me figure out why the parent didn't diffuse the situation by taking an action like picking up the toddler after the first or second time he kicked the adult visitor, or by stopping to tell the child at that exact point to knock it off in a friendly manner. Why are all parenting interactions so extreme in Pearl world? I also question the validity of the story just from the physical difficulty of kicking and waving handfuls of rock in the air at the same time. That toddler must have had … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 Teach Your Children to Fear You or Have Them Harmed?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Organize and ManageEditor's note: Michael starts with what is obviously one of his faker, more made up stories, in order to blame and shame a father protrayed as trying to protect his young daughter. Do any stores have huge heavy automatic doors that swing like this as he describes them as a 'child-swatter'? What's so wrong about a father rescuing their child from a dangerous situation (even a fake one in a story like this) and dealing with the child later about not listening to what they were saying? Yes, folks, another treatise on beating fear into your child to make them mind. One note Michael. Keep in mind the child he is describing is an eleven … [Read more...]

Understanding How Dysfunctional Families Prime Children For the Experience of Shame (Leading To Victimization)

by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much GraceOriginally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the “Roots of Victimization”There are many excellent Christian books concerning dysfunctional family dynamics -- that is besides the Book of Genesis which contains the best archetypal examples of how you should NOT relate to other family members! One of the most interesting families to draw out on a relationship diagram is that of Jacob, Esau and their parents, and some of the Christian self-help books in this genre look at many of the Old Testament patriarchs to explain how tri … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Michael Pearl Thinks Political Correctness Is Killing Child Abuse Disguised As Dicipline?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine - Two-Front War on ChristiansEditor's note: Skipped large parts of this article because it's Michael Pearl attacking Hillary Clinton, the Supreme Court and marriage equality mixed with quoting all the self-professed Evangelical Republican presidential candidates to prove Pearl's points. Focusing on the part where Michael bemoans that people consider corporal punishment as a parenting tactic that has gone the way of the dinosaurs. Funny how he tries to link the falling out of favor of his book with a liberal agenda and the loss of Biblical standards nationwide. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Spanking Is One Of The First Resorts?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - Spank as a Last ResortEditor's note: So there was no August version of NGJ magazine, they went straight to Sept/Oct. The passage below has the explanations of the types of rebellious stubborn children and the provoking questions you should ask before wailing on them with a plumbing line. Wonder which interviewer Michael is throwing serious shade at by calling them a 'media agitator'?  There needs to be more 'media agitators' exposing the harmful child discipline ideas of the Pearls. Roaches hate it when the lights come on. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Michael Pearl’s Parenting Methods In Action?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Child Training Marathon Revisited and UpdatedEditor's note: The family ride from hell continues, with continued spanking of a toddler who's up late, tired, over-excited and out of control with his emotions. Why does it not occur to anyone in this family that stopping once to hold, comfort and meet the immediate needs of this toddler might be enough to turn off the tears and end the situation in a peaceful and loving manner? Why keep beating and keeping the child stirred up and in a state of high anxiety? … [Read more...]

Answer to my Critics: My Childhood Opened My Eyes

by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous Circumspection Editor's note: Some translations here. Billy Boy G is Bill Gothard, Swine Beads are Michael and Debi Pearl and Ezzo-kimos are followers of Gary Ezzo. Trigger warnings for descriptions of child abuse.Recently, I was accused of only speaking out against Billy Boy G. and his patriarchal ilk because I have a vendetta against my life as a child.  While I do not disagree that half of my childhood was pure torture, I vehemently disagree with that accusation.Here's a summing up of my childhood: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 20 – Homeschoolers Embracing The World?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Jumping Ship Part 4Editor's note: While the importance of play is well-established in almost all child development advice it's almost a shocker to see Pearl advocating it too considering some of the things he's said in his book "To Train Up A Child" More cognitive dissonance mixed with hypocrisy. The scary thing about this series is not only does he completely contradict many things he's said, it's that some of his advice is actually reasonable and could lure any newcomers to his parenting guides into thinking he always has good advice. Lured in until it's too late.Plus, it's not like he's really talking about providing entertainment to children, … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Discipline, Discipline, Discipline But Keep Your Daughters Unmarried?

by former Vision Forum friend Geoffrey Botkin hawking his newest CD/DVD/book on raising children on Ladies Against Feminism - How To Practice Biblical Discipline.Editor's note: The ladies of Ladies Against Feminism didn't even bother to try and write a review or put into their own words why they endorse this particular item by Botkin. They copied and pasted this right from his website. Odd that there's been no updates for over seven months at his single very adult daughters website Visionary Daughters, no online web tutorials about gilding your outside or what to do when there's no real role for you any longer. Most curious how silent they've been. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: A Child’s Questions Are Always Rebellion?

by Michael Pearl in 1995 from the first issue of No Greater Joy Magazine - Why? But Why?Editor's note: It's pretty sick that the mere question of a child is considered a deficit of character. Some kids are just going to ask why or ask about different things and it has nothing to do with anything remotely like rebellion. I remember that my youngest asked me lots of questions, many that I was forced to answer that I didn't know what the answer was, but I would find out. I always thought that her ability to always turn to me to ask questions was a healthy thing, not a rebellion. There's nothing evil in a child wanting to know things, it's a sign of a healthy lively growing intellect. Please … [Read more...]