“Biblical” Parenting: Introduction

by Latebloomer Every once in a while, I realize something shockingly obvious, something that confronts yet another false assumption that has managed to cling to my mind even as I've moved further and further away from my fundamentalist Christian roots. In the whole Bible, there is not a single verse that credits parents for having raised a good child.  Nothing from God, nothing from any adult sons or daughters in the Bible.  Not one word of thanks, not one word of credit. It would be easy to insert a few parental credit verses into the Bible.  Maybe we could add a little phrase here or there in the Old Testament, such as "King David, because of his godly parents," or … [Read more...]

In The Spotlights Glare – Are The Duggar Family & The Bates Family Media Whores?

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by Calulu Another television season is upon us again and that means one thing. More of the Duggars "19 Kids and Counting". The show starts anew on Tuesday, August 28th on TLC Channel at 9 pm est. This year their friends theBates have a show too - "The United Bates of America" There are preview videos for both series up now on the TLC website. Looking through both videos I have noticed one thing, both families have changed a great deal in the short time they've been in the spot light. Which is ironic considering how Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar have stated from the beginning that they are to be a light shining out to the world, a shining city on the hill. That's not quite what I'm … [Read more...]

News Links – August 24, 2012

Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Birth Control, Buddy System, Child Training, Complimentarianism, Dominionism / Christian Reconstruction, Doug Phillips, Fallen From Grace by Bruce Gerencser, Hot Topics, Hyles-Anderson College, Independent Fundamental Baptist Churches (IFB), Jack Hyles, Jack Schaap, Mega Churches, Mutuality, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Reviews, Pro-Life, Psalm 127 / Quiverfull: Be Fruitful & Multiply, Quiverfull Discernment, Quiverfull Discernment Websites, Quiverfull in the News, Quiverfull Leaders, Quiverfull Ministries, Quiverfull Topics, SASBN, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network, Vision … [Read more...]

NLQ FAQ Revisited: How can I help my “Quiverfull” friend?

by Vyckie   Q: How can I help my “Quiverfull” friend? I have a good friend who is really into the quiverfull/patriarchy lifestyle. She is always careful to appear cheerful and happy with her family life, but I have often suspected that things are not quite as rosy as she wants everyone to believe. After reading the stories here on NLQ, I am more concerned than ever, especially for her children who are very well-behaved and respectful but who seem to be sending out “distress signals” like Angel did in Vyckie’s story. My friend is slowly cutting out everyone who loves her and has offered to help. What can I do? There are two important factors to consider in this … [Read more...]

My mom is going back to school!

by Sierra (Editors note: Thank you NLQ readership for your part in making this happen! ) Some of you may remember this post, in which I described the frustration of discovering that a clerical error had cost my mom her chance to go back to school for her bachelor’s degree. Leaving for school and realizing that my mother would not be able to get her degree felt a lot like survivor’s guilt. I was the only one on a clear path out of poverty. She threw her support behind me, and I did the only thing I could do: studied hard to make it up to her. Now, years later, a stubborn daughter, a website, a loan and a very generous group of donors have changed the tide. My mother is going back … [Read more...]

Newslinks – August 16,2012

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Lots happening around the blogosphere so every Thursday I'll be posting links to the most interesting or intriguing news in the world concerning NLQ. Turns out that the sixteen year old girl Jack Schaap stands accused of abusing was also a student at Hyles-Anderson College. Looks like the majority of the First Baptist Church of Hammond, Indiana members  that aren't rushing around the internet defending Schaap is standing behind the church in support - From The Christian Post - First Baptist Church of Hammond 'More United Than Ever' This next one is actually from a blog for nannies E Nanny Source on discipline styles and it's an excellent resource for child discipline ideas and … [Read more...]

“Don’t Talk About It”

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by Kristen Rosser (Cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's Words) I was in college, living in an ex-fraternity house made over into a Christian boarding house for members of Maranatha Campus Ministries.  It was 1983 or 84. The leaders of Maranatha, Bob Weiner and Joe Smith, had come up with another new revelation that they said was from God.  They took their text from John 15:8: "By this is My Father glorified, that you bear much fruit, and so prove to be My disciples." Bob Weiner and Joe Smith said that by "bearing fruit," Jesus meant "making converts."  This meant, they said, that the more converts to Christ you made, the more you had "proved to be His disciple." … [Read more...]

NLQ FAQ Revisited: Are Jim Bob & Michelle Duggar “Quiverfull”?

by Hopewell Q: Are the Duggars Quiverfull? By their own admission, Jim-Bob and Michelle were so “grieved” after reading the information pamphlet in a birth control pill package that they turned their fertility over to God. (“About Us” para.1 See also, Dallas News).  That decision has been the reason for their incredible family size of 19 children. Recently the media has offered several profiles of just who are “Quiverfull” families. Increasingly, the presence of such large, ideologically driven families is being documented through the medium of the age: reality TV shows and lifestyle cable channel specials, all of which campily depict Quiverfull life as like … [Read more...]

Bad, Evil Psychology Helped Me

by Latebloomer Growing up, I heard a lot of scoffing at psychology in my family, homeschooling community, and fundamentalist church.  In those circles, the study and application of psychology represented a worthless human attempt to feel happier apart from God and become better without the guidance of the Bible.   The anti-psychology sentiment was so strong that even building kids' self-confidence and self-esteem was derided as a "worldly" goal.  There was too much "self" in the name.  Real True Christian children were to be obedient and humble instead. Looking back, I definitely had the obedience thing handled; in fact, I cannot remember ever purposefully disobeying my parents, … [Read more...]

The Marriage Benefits of Leaving Fundamentalism

by Latebloomer If I had stayed within the constraints of fundamentalism and Christian Patriarchy, my husband and I would absolutely not be happily married today. Our relationship from the very beginning consisted of many departures from the teachings I grew up with. Each of those departures furthered the development, health, and mutual happiness of our relationship. The first departure: As a single woman, I moved out of my parents' home to get a college education. What is a completely ordinary step for many North American women was a desperate and terrifying leap for me. My family's homeschooling church, led by Reb Bradley, promoted a very restrictive view of gender roles along with a … [Read more...]


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