The Emotional and Psychological Consequences of Authoritarian Religion

August 17, 2012 By 12 Comments

by Bruce Gerencser (Cross posted from Bruce’s blog The Way Forward) Over the past few years I have met countless people who have escaped authoritarian religions like the Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church movement or your every day garden variety Evangelical church. Authoritarian ecclesiastical structures and authoritarian pastors dominate the lives of those who come [...]

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Millipede Part 21

August 15, 2012 By 6 Comments
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by Millipede That summer was a mixture of hope, stress and worry. After the first post seizure drinking episodes, my husband admitted that he needed to watch what he drank. He downplayed the symptoms, but even he had to admit that he never used to nod off when he drank. Also the paramedics, the emergency [...]

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NLQ FAQ Revisited: Are Jim Bob & Michelle Duggar “Quiverfull”?

August 10, 2012 By 10 Comments

by Hopewell Q: Are the Duggars Quiverfull? By their own admission, Jim-Bob and Michelle were so “grieved” after reading the information pamphlet in a birth control pill package that they turned their fertility over to God. (“About Us” para.1 See also, Dallas News).  That decision has been the reason for their incredible family size of [...]

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Jack Schaap in His Own Words

August 9, 2012 By 13 Comments
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Found a photocopy from one of Jack Schaap’s books at a Baptist Church website. It’s one thing to hear people talking about his strangely sexualized beliefs and quite another to view them for yourself. From Faithful Word Baptist Church website. Comments open below                         [...]

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Millipede: Part 19

August 9, 2012 By 7 Comments
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by Millipede My story continued; The Final Straw. Spring came and with it came another problem. After having been married so long, I figured that I had seen all of the “issues” that my husband had. The disregard for his health, the laziness, the ability to let his faults put us in dire circumstances. I [...]

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