Daughter of the Patriarchy: The Sickness ~ Pt 1

by SierraAs an adolescent girl, growing up under William Branham’s Message of the Hour, I stood poised before a great fall. Sometimes I felt a cold breeze rising from the pit in front of me. I knew that against my will I was edging closer, and would someday have no choice but to jump in. But I looked frantically for an outlet or a bridge, digging in my heels against the edges of the pit. The name of the abyss was womanhood.I was taught that the Bible recognized three classes of people: men, women, and children. In God’s plan for the family, authority descended directly in that order. Men obeyed God, women obeyed men, and children obeyed all three. For those living within this scheme, God … [Read more...]

Time Heals All Wounds ~ Part 8: Somehow, I Lost My Entire Identity

All beautiful the march of days, as seasons come and go; The Hand that shaped the rose hath wrought the crystal of the snowby Shelly CruzThere was so much to read about this man; I didn't even know where to begin. I stumbled across a message board that had a whole bunch of people who grew up following his teachings. They were adults now. The thing that perplexed me the most, was that these folks were calling him a religious cult leader, and that did not seem right to me.Cecilia and her family were very strong, mature Christians. They would never get involved with something cultish, would they? The time I spent reading about this man, seemed so déjà vu to me. Everything I was reading f … [Read more...]

Above Rubies Magazine: When Bad Things Happen to Quiverfull Moms

by Ima WakenowWhen I received my latest issue of Above Rubies I was truly looking forward to it.  Everyone raved about this magazine that has been “Strengthening Families Across the World” for 32 years.  It is a much anticipated event due to the sporadic publishing of the magazine.  You see, AR only publishes when enough donations have come in to make a complete distribution of their full color 32 page periodical.  I never really had the opportunity to read AR consistently but I had picked up an issue here and there.  It was never an earth moving experience. Until now.The entire issue seems to have a common theme running through.  The pages are stuffed full of testimonials about various … [Read more...]

Quiverfull Daughters: The Making of a Helpmeet

TLC's 19 Kids & Counting: The Duggar Family on How To Prepare For Courtship & Marriageby Hopewell“Helpmeet” is such an odd-sounding word to modern ears! But it resonates well in the lingo of the King James Bible. Girls born to Quiverfull families begin their training for the life’s calling as a Helpmeet [aka wife and homemaker] almost at birth.Girls are born for one and only one reason: to serve a husband. In that capacity, as his helpmeet, she will bear and raise his children, feed as many children as God sends on whatever income he earns, may raise a garden and animals or run a home-based business [with his approval], may home birth and will certainly homeschool all of her ch … [Read more...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy: The Atheist

by SierraWilla was an atheist. A self-styled “unschooler,” she attended homeschool conventions and activities with her two children, Alexis (9) and Steven (5), and it was there that she met my mother. Willa’s husband worked in a field that I knew only abstractly as something involving computers and sales. He was a passive, taciturn man with whom I never exchanged a single word. Their children were boisterous, especially Alexis. Willa attached herself to my mother very quickly. Since Alexis was my age, we were an automatic source of play dates, which often really amounted to tea parties for our mothers. Common interests seemed to abound at first: homeschooling, books, and bargains. Both ador … [Read more...]

Christian Women Unite For Freedom From Evangelical Caste System

by Cindy KunsmanA movement among Christian men and women has begun in favor of functional equality and freedom from the evangelical caste system which subordinates many Christian women within their homes and churches. The freedom to live as autonomous human beings and to serve their Creator and Savior equally alongside Christian men is still being withheld from many Christian women.  The Seneca Falls 2 Evangelical Women’s Rights Convention seeks to address this growing problem within many sectors of Christianity.Seneca Falls 2 will commence in Orlando, Florida on Saturday July 24th, just a few days after the 162nd anniversary of the very first women's rights convention that was held in Se … [Read more...]

Time Heals All Wounds ~ Part 7: A Godly, God-Fearing Man

All beautiful the march of days, as seasons come and go; The Hand that shaped the rose hath wrought the crystal of the snowby Shelly CruzI was feeling inadequate as a wife and mother lately, but had no clue why. Maybe it was because Cecilia called her husband Sir, and was always hanging on his every word. This had been making me nervous for a while now.I remember asking her about it one day and she only shared, that Sarah called Abraham "Lord." It was a matter of respect.I took a moment, trying to imagine myself, calling my husband Lord, or even Sir. I could not help but chuckle each time I said it to myself. Is this something that a Godly wife was suppose to do? Should I be asking … [Read more...]

The Cult of Masculinity ~ Part 4: Family Values

This is part 4 of a review of the chapter titled, “The Cult of Masculinity” from Chris Hedges’ book, American Fascists: The Christian Right and the War on America. Click here for part 1, here for part 2, and here for part 3.by VyckieYikes ~ I've kind of been wearing myself out working on the website redesign and today I'm super tired ~ so not much energy for posting.  This segment of my review of chapter 4, "The Cult of Masculinity" from  American Fascists by Chris Hedges will be a quickie ~ but to me it's critical and very personally distressing considering that I spent over 16 years promoting "family values" through our family newspaper.  Throughout those years, I had the vague feeling … [Read more...]

The Cult of Masculinity ~ Part 3: Black & White Thinking

This is part 3 of a review of the chapter titled, "The Cult of Masculinity" from Chris Hedges' book, American Fascists: The Christian Right and the War on America. Click here for part 1, and here for part 2.by VyckieThere runs through the fundamentalist belief system a deep dread of ambiguity, disorder and chaos. ... It fosters a world of binary opposites: God and man, saved and unsaved, the church and the world, Christianity and secular humanism, male and female.  These tidy pairings keep life from slipping back into a complicated nightmare.  Reality, thus defined, is made predictable and understandable, something deeply comforting to believers who have had trouble coping with the me … [Read more...]

The Cult of Masculinity ~ Part 2: Emasculation

This is part 2 of a review of the chapter titled, "The Cult of Masculinity" from Chris Hedges' book, American Fascists: The Christian Right and the War on America. Click here for part 1.by Vyckie"The hypermasculinity of radical Christian conservativism, which crushes the independence and self-expression of women, is a way for men in the movement to compensate for the curtailing of their own independence, their abject obedience to church authorities and the calls for sexual restraint."Chris Hedges hit the nail on the head in this chapter when he explains the paradox of the "Cult of Masculinity" ~ on the one hand, fundamentalist believers are infantilized ~ taken back to the security … [Read more...]


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