Preparing a Visionary Daughter to Do Hard Things ~ Part 1: Big Girls Don't Feel

by Kiery I’m no stranger to hard things. In ways my life was built around doing hard things and part of that has made me who I am today. I’m no stranger to sacrifice, conflict, or rejection. For a while, these things seemed to follow me and my family wherever we went. In 19 years, my mom’s had 10 pregnancies and 8 children, most of them taking place over the last 11 years.  At 8, my life would become a cycle of doing my own thing, and then that being put on hold to take care of everyone and keep the house running until the newest baby arrived. This wasn’t always the case... We started homeschooling when I was in kindergarten, according to my parents, primarily because my … [Read more...]

I Am So Much More Than a Maiden of Virtue! Part 1 ~ I learned to keep my fear of hell to myself

by WanderingOne I grew up hearing about my grandparents' and great-grandparents' deep faith.  Religiosity was, for my family, an important family heritage that was carefully handed down to us children.  Christianity was the most important thing my parents and grandparents thought that they could pass down to us. On my dad's side, my great grandfather was a minister.  On my mom's side, my grandparents served on the mission field in Latin America for a few years after they got married.  There was no escaping religion—it was instilled in us from before we could grasp it. I can't really say much about how things got to be as “bad” as they did.  I know my family has always been … [Read more...]

NLQ FAQ: Are Jim Bob & Michelle Duggar "Quiverfull"?

by Hopewell Q: Are the Duggars Quiverfull? By their own admission, Jim-Bob and Michelle were so “grieved” after reading the information pamphlet in a birth control pill package that they turned their fertility over to God. (“About Us” para.1 See also, Dallas News).  That decision has been the reason for their incredible family size of 19 children. Recently the media has offered several profiles of just who are “Quiverfull” families. Increasingly, the presence of such large, ideologically driven families is being documented through the medium of the age: reality TV shows and lifestyle cable channel specials, all of which campily depict Quiverfull life as like regular … [Read more...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy: Two Snakes and a Virgin – The Serpent’s Seed

 by Sierra I was about nine years old when I started paying attention to some of the doctrines that were slowly infiltrating my life over the past two years. I’d stopped wearing pants or cutting my hair by the end of the first year, following my mother’s lead. The last pair of pants she wore were a lovely pair of wide-leg trousers with a sheer lace overlay; they could pass for a skirt until she took a step. She wore them to church, then threw them away – she felt “convicted” for wearing a man’s garment. She threw away her makeup, too, keeping only a sheer moisturizing lip gloss as a token of her past. I liked my new dresses, and I liked the long hair slowly descended across my … [Read more...]

The God Card: Thoughts from The Excellent Wife

Thoughts from The Excellent Wife The God Card ~ Thoughts on Patriarchal Teachings by Journey Someone in the church told me that I should have known it was abusive when my husband was controlling my life (the details of which are in the parts of my story that I have shared thus far here). It's like these people don't realize that the very books they recommend Christian wives to read are the very books that taught me that my husband was not abusive but was, rather, a godly man. For example, in the popular book, "The Excellent Wife," by Martha Peace (1999), a woman learns that, "Your husband is the one in charge. Being in charge does not mean he has to do everything. It does mean that he … [Read more...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy: “Hello, Miss Dog-Meat.”

by Sierra Every so often, a story circulated around Message churches. Our pastor related it with a twinkle of humour in his eye. The precociousness of little children was always a failsafe source of amusement in a world that afforded so many sinful entertainments. Children quoting scripture were even better. Out of the mouths of babes, it was oft repeated, the Word of God was made perfect. And so, it was with paroxysms of mirth that the following anecdote was passed around. One day, a minister’s wife was out doing the grocery shopping with her family. Her youngest boy, then only four or five, spied a worldly woman in the supermarket. With frank and immediate assurance, he called out, … [Read more...]

The God Card: Subordinate But Equal

Subordinate But Equal (Piper and other Complementarians on 'Biblical Womanhood') The God Card ~ Thoughts on Patriarchal Teachings by Journey  The patriarchy camp loves to say that, at the core, it believes men and women are equal.  A common phrase goes something like, "Men and women are equal, but simply have different roles to play."  The statement often works like a charm.  After all, hey, they just said men and women are fundamentally equal, right?   People playing different roles isn't necessarily bad.  In fact, it’s usually positive.  Images of actors on state are conjured up in our minds, putting on a costume to play one role or another---or different occupations people … [Read more...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy: A Jewel or a Trash Can

by Sierra William Branham with a woman in his prayer line. (He would lay on hands, pray, and they would walk away healed, allegedly.) If you asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I always had an answer. If you asked again in ten minutes, it would be a different one. I wanted to be a figure skater, detective, veterinarian, zoologist, writer, astronaut and archaeologist – and not just one at a time. When I went outdoors to play, I climbed rocks and saw them as mountains. When I jumped over streams, I bravely bridged rivers. With stuffed animals as my companions, I sailed pirate ships and submarines and narrowly escaped devastating wars through wit and determination. I harboured … [Read more...]

New NLQ Series: The God Card ~ Thoughts on Patriarchal Teachings, by Journey

A Good Man Will Make Sure Those Dishes Get Done (by Repenting For His Failure to Make Sure His Wife Does Them)   by Journey One of the most important things to do, in any arena of information, is to go directly to the source instead of relying on heresay. In posts to come, I intend to introduce direct statements from different leaders in the patriarchy movement, statements that will often include words I myself read, as I sought to obey God as a woman striving after His will, in a marriage that regularly left me confused, condemned and off-balance. The God Card ~ Thoughts on Patriarchal Teachings After reading and hearing stories like the ones featured on NLQ, one of the primary … [Read more...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy: Scooby Doo and the Angel

by Sierra By my eighth birthday, Anna’s church had become our own. My father attended sporadically, but my mother and I adopted a weekly ritual of driving forty minutes through the woods, to the highway, passing numerous small churches on our way to the secret annex of the YMCA. No one would have guessed there was a church there, unless they happened by as we all bustled in with our flowing skirts and dresses and exited under the mid-afternoon sun. My mother was enthralled, talking excitedly to Anna and her new friend Sheila every day. A frequent topic of conversation was her journal, in which she recorded her thoughts and prayers as well as verses from the Bible that seemed to answer … [Read more...]


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