Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Far is Too Far?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Godly Gertrude and the Harding University Dress Code

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserThis graphic perfectly illustrates the puritanical culture found in many Evangelical churches. Women are considered lust magnets, sure to attract weak, pathetic Christian men who have little control over their sexual desires. Starting with primary school age, females are taught to never, ever expose any of the sexual parts of their bodies–breasts, cleavage, bare shoulders, legs, and ass. In other words, girls and women are expected to dress similar to burka-wearing Muslims. The only difference is the head covering. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Working Women Hate Motherhood?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - There's a Big Difference!Editor's note: Nancy is busy making claims yet again that those that are educated and had or have careers before motherhood are hating motherhood, finding it frustrating and difficult. No studies or evidence of this beyond Nancy's claims of always stay home, never want anything beyond raising children. Same song with slightly different lyrics. Sorry, but motherhood isn't easy for anyone, Nancy, everyone experiences less than fun moments, frustrations and challenges, but it doesn't mean we're doing it wrong. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Does the ‘Proverbs 31’ Role of Women Mean Meek Mild Submission?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Do Not Report Child Sexual Abuse to Authorities?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater joy - Twelve Year Old MolesterEditor's note: A mother writes in about the molestation of her friend's child by another child and Michael says do not report this to law enforcement? He seems to be completely unaware that their pastor is a mandatory reporter under the law and that if the offender is doing this because she may have been molested in the past that by involving the law she might be able to receive treatment from a qualified childrens therapist to help her move past her problems. How is covering all this up helpful to anyone? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Should Have No Rights?

by Steven L. Anderson as quoted by Church and State - Conservative Pastor Preaches That Women Should Be Banned From Voting And Confined To Their HomesEditor's note: Just like Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles Steven Anderson wants women to be owned property, owned by their husbands without any say or rights over their own lives. Very complimentarian and fundamentalist, this type of thinking sets up an environment where spousal abuse flourishes. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Low Hanging Fruit and Delaying Marriage?

by Jeff Woodward from Let Them Marry - Girls Are Like ApplesEditor's note: Can you stand any more belabored apple puns? This is written by the guy at Vaughn Ohlman's site that created the whole girls are like apples meme in response to some other girls and apples meme floating around Facebook. While he makes some good points if you ignore the fact that he seems to think that girls are inanimate objects to use like apples, his main point is that too many apples languish unpicked and untasted on the tree, just like young people have stopped marrying so young. … [Read more...]

Christian Conservatives Push Child Marriage With Creepy Meme Comparing Girls to Apples

by Vyckie Garrison NLQ Founder at Raw Story “Girls are like apples on trees. Their fathers are the farmers, whose job is to care for them. He must protect his apples from pests and disease. He must guard them against thieves who may pick his apples prematurely. Neither those at the top nor those at the bottom can help their location. But, when each reaches peak ripeness, it is the farmer’s job to harvest that fruit and give it to whom he will, to those in need. So there is nothing wrong with the apples still on the tree and nothing wrong with the boys who seek them. But it is the farmer’s duty to provide for both, in due season.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 Teach Your Children to Fear You or Have Them Harmed?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Organize and ManageEditor's note: Michael starts with what is obviously one of his faker, more made up stories, in order to blame and shame a father protrayed as trying to protect his young daughter. Do any stores have huge heavy automatic doors that swing like this as he describes them as a 'child-swatter'? What's so wrong about a father rescuing their child from a dangerous situation (even a fake one in a story like this) and dealing with the child later about not listening to what they were saying? Yes, folks, another treatise on beating fear into your child to make them mind. One note Michael. Keep in mind the child he is describing is an eleven … [Read more...]

A Brief Visit to ‘The War Room’ – (Shut Up and Get in the Closet)

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace Does anyone remember old Doug Phillips' San Antonio Independent Christian Film Festival, back before the demise of Vision Forum? Well, Vision Forum may have dissolved but its acolytes didn't. It seems that they continue to produce sappy, schmaltzy films which seem wholesome and virtuous. Those of us who are familiar with the religion and the lifestyle quickly recognize that the films like Fireproof and Courageous aren't just sugar and schmaltz. … [Read more...]


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