Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Does An Immodest Culture Allow For Less Modesty?

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Early Marriage or You’re a Used Up Whore?

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by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - The Waiting GameEditor's note: Okay, okay, so perhaps Nancy didn't call older brides whores. But she did say that people who marry later are coming into the marriage 'violated', which is sort of her polite way of saying 'slut' or 'whore'. She's pushing the same idea that Von Ohlman and that disgusting Biblical Gender Roles guy promote, marry very young because if you wait you might commit the sin of lust. … [Read more...]

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Ex-Homeschooler Fashion

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by Latebloomer cross posted from her blog Past Tense, Present ProgressiveAs a former fundamentalist homeschooled kid, one of many aspects of life that I've had to do a lot of catch up in is fashion.  I grew up choosing clothing based solely on modesty, which in my circles meant that I was shopping in clothing sections meant for the elderly and basically wearing fabric sacks.  Often, I had to make things for myself when even the grandmotherly clothing options failed me.  Everything I wore was at least 4 sizes too big and several inches too short, and I had no idea about choosing colors that complemented my skin tone, no idea about hair, no idea about makeup, no idea about skin and nail ca … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Have Your Babies In Your Teens?

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by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - Women's Ovaries Don't Agree With FeminismEditor's note: Now he blames 'feminism' for the rise in older maternal age and the reason that 'selfish women' think that they are entitled to some personal happiness the goals such as careers and educations. Completely ignores the fact that pre-feminism and pre-birth control that women of all ages died in childbirth and that constant breeding does not produce 'healthy children.' … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Have Your Babies In Your Teens?

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by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - Women's Ovaries Don't Agree With FeminismEditor's note: There is simply so much that is awful and typical of the quiverfull tendency to allow daughters to marry early that we're going to be examining this in parts like we do sometimes with the worst of Michael Pearl's writings. Apparently Biblical Gender Roles, like other patriarch-promoting types like Von Ohlman, believe that you should marry off your girls at peak fertility, which means not too long after they start their monthly cycles. He starts off the original article claiming that girls as young as 14 have less problems with pregnancy and childbirth than women starting in … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Girls Wearing What They Want Are Sinning Against Jesus?

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by Reagan Ramm from his site Reagan Ramm.com - Modesty: A Guy's Opinion Part 2Editor's note: Several of the blogs we quote here for the Quoting Quiverfull feature have used Reagan Ramm's Part 1 on Modesty to justify all sorts of shaming. Here's the second part and it gets no better. Now he's claiming that if you wear something you want to wear and it causes someone to stumble you've lost the freedom to make clothing choices plus sinned against Jesus. Then he goes on in his blog to list what is and isn't modest. What gives him this right? … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Telling Someone Else To Cover Up?

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by Trish Ramos from Fish With Trish - "Uh Oh!"Editor's note: Several stories at Ramos site that explain how she and one of her readers confronted and shamed women dressed in what they considered an 'immodest' manner. I can't even... just horrified thinking of how badly the recipient of their tracts and unsolicited advice must have felt, ashamed, blamed and all sorts of negative things. Intolerance, hate disguised as love and a number of other things Jesus never said to inflict upon others. … [Read more...]

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Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – How Good Is Good Enough For A Potential Man?

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

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Dear Christian Woman: Is Your Facebook Profile Photo Causing Men to Lust?

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserFundamentalist Christians rarely miss an opportunity to point out ANOTHER behavior that is a sin or causes others to sin.Several years ago, Trisha Ramos  wrote: … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Only Make Yourself Attractive While Husband-Hunting?

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by Laurel  J. Davis from Whole Magazine - What a God-Fearing Man Really Wants From a WomanEditor's note: This starts off sort of okay with a church survey asking the men what they want in a wife but then takes a severe right-hand turn right into a word salad pile of modesty shaming/blaming liberally dressed in cognitive dissonance. Don't dress in anyway that calls attention to yourself but dress to catch the eye when you are husband hunting seems to be one of the major themes. Funny, the article does not say one thing about the men who were polled requesting that their women dress to these false modesty standards of the author. … [Read more...]

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