What are you Doing? – Chapter 1: Boys Just Wanna Have Fun

Today we dive right into our review of Let Them Marry Vaughn Ohlman's book on young marriage 'What are you Doing?' Warning, extreme levels of snark ahead. This book is so dreadful it's impossible to do a serious analysis of the material.Also, Von has updated his website and is now claiming he has been falsely accused of advocating pedophilia and child marriage. Was he ever accused of pedophilia? Not here. It was the selling of underage girls into common law marriages that most people are upset about. The possibility that he might be encouraging sex trafficking among his followers under the guise of it being somehow 'Godly' instead of what it actually would be - a crime. … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Touching Before Marriage?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Why Hand Holding in Courtship is a Slippery Slope to Sin?

by Anonymous from their blog Necessarily Anonymous - How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Arranged Marriages Part 2Editor's note: This is a newer quiverfull marry 'em off while they are young once daddy picks the spouse blogger I found through our old pal Vaughn Ohlman. I'm always dismayed to see Christians so hung up on every single small thing that they have to stop, study scripture and then extrapolate what they've read into ever more strict rules and don'ts. That type of legalism is a killer. It doesn't 'save' people from sin, it only makes them sneak around in a guilty fashion. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Let Your Friends and Family Pick Your Mate?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - How the Modern Practice of Christian Dating is Cruel to Men as always linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note - Larry finally comes out and spells out the only way in his mind for two people to decide to marry, by committee meeting. Followed by a quickie wedding so Mr. Bridegroom can control his brain and his gonads. Such weak silly men in Mr. Solomon's world! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The HPV Vaccine Gives Girls Permission to Have Sex?

by Steven L. Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - Physicians of No ValueEditor's note: Regardless of how you line up on the to vaccinate or not vaccinate debate it's a stretch at best to say that vaccinating a child against a possible future STD is giving them carte blanche to go out and start having piles of promiscuous sexual activity with anything or anyone. He misses the point that the reason Gardasil is given is to protect girls against an STD that leads to high rates of uterine cancer later. There is a long term goal benefit.Most of Anderson's sermon can also be distilled down to don't go to the doctor except as a last resort and the Bible holds all the medical wisdom … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Help! I Keep Getting Hit On!

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

How Abstinence Only Sex Education Led Me Down An Unexpected Path

by Amber Barnhill cross posted with permission from her blog Atheist By Accident.This was posted earlier in the week at Hemant Mehta's Patheos blog The Friendly AtheistWhen talking about my religious past, I often find myself referencing movies. How else are mainstream humans going to relate? Neo waking up in The Matrix. The barely-audible Asian chick in Pitch Perfect. And, in this case, Drew Barrymore‘s role in Never Been Kissed. If you’ve never seen the movie, the title really says it all.Imagine being an almost-24-year-old, intelligent, moderately-attractive-yet-socially-awkward female venturing into the real world for the first time, having never even held hands with a guy an … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Please Stop Kissing My Future Unknown Wife?

by an unknown author from To Save A Life - Please Stop Kissing My WifeEditor's note: More purity culture/rape culture garbage. Why is it this man is objecting to anyone possibly kissing his maybe future wife when it sounds like from his own descriptions of his dating life pre-Christ that he likely had a pile of booty calls. Why does the purity standard that calls women 'unwrapped licked candy bars' for normal expressions of romance like holding hands or kissing like they're some sort of Whore of Babylon and not treat the sexually experienced young men of the movement the same way? Male having had some sweet between the sheets mambo action that then confesses it to the Almighty is … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Holding Hands

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Dianna Anderson’s ‘Damaged Goods’ Book Review

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’ve been looking forward to Dianna Anderson’s Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity for well over a year now, so when it came in the mail a few weeks ago I was thrilled to pieces. I have so much respect for Dianna’s writing (today’s piece on Christianity and Empire is a must-read), and I was happy that someone like her would be tackling evangelical purity culture in a book. … [Read more...]


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