Anticipating Father’s Day

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission.Originally posted at Under Much Grace May 2014Purity BallsA few days ago, I happened to see some new photos of fathers and daughters at purity balls by photographer David Magnusson from his book on the subject that will be available later this year. The portraits were featured on several online sites, but despite the “colorful” language of vulgarity in the commentary, this site shows more of the pictures in an easy-to-view format. Some of th look like the dads are getting ready to lead their girls off to the slaughter, or perhaps they were on … [Read more...]

What are you Doing? – Chapter 1: Boys Just Wanna Have Fun

Today we dive right into our review of Let Them Marry Vaughn Ohlman's book on young marriage 'What are you Doing?' Warning, extreme levels of snark ahead. This book is so dreadful it's impossible to do a serious analysis of the material.Also, Von has updated his website and is now claiming he has been falsely accused of advocating pedophilia and child marriage. Was he ever accused of pedophilia? Not here. It was the selling of underage girls into common law marriages that most people are upset about. The possibility that he might be encouraging sex trafficking among his followers under the guise of it being somehow 'Godly' instead of what it actually would be - a crime. … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Touching Before Marriage?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

How Abstinence Only Sex Education Led Me Down An Unexpected Path

by Amber Barnhill cross posted with permission from her blog Atheist By Accident.This was posted earlier in the week at Hemant Mehta's Patheos blog The Friendly AtheistWhen talking about my religious past, I often find myself referencing movies. How else are mainstream humans going to relate? Neo waking up in The Matrix. The barely-audible Asian chick in Pitch Perfect. And, in this case, Drew Barrymore‘s role in Never Been Kissed. If you’ve never seen the movie, the title really says it all.Imagine being an almost-24-year-old, intelligent, moderately-attractive-yet-socially-awkward female venturing into the real world for the first time, having never even held hands with a guy an … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Please Stop Kissing My Future Unknown Wife?

by an unknown author from To Save A Life - Please Stop Kissing My WifeEditor's note: More purity culture/rape culture garbage. Why is it this man is objecting to anyone possibly kissing his maybe future wife when it sounds like from his own descriptions of his dating life pre-Christ that he likely had a pile of booty calls. Why does the purity standard that calls women 'unwrapped licked candy bars' for normal expressions of romance like holding hands or kissing like they're some sort of Whore of Babylon and not treat the sexually experienced young men of the movement the same way? Male having had some sweet between the sheets mambo action that then confesses it to the Almighty is … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Holding Hands

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Dianna Anderson’s ‘Damaged Goods’ Book Review

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’ve been looking forward to Dianna Anderson’s Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity for well over a year now, so when it came in the mail a few weeks ago I was thrilled to pieces. I have so much respect for Dianna’s writing (today’s piece on Christianity and Empire is a must-read), and I was happy that someone like her would be tackling evangelical purity culture in a book. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Purity Rings Reflect Your Respect of God?

by Kristen Clark from A Lovely Calling (formerly Young Keepers of the Home) - Should Christian Girls Wear Purity Rings?Editor's note: How you treat your purity is a display of your relationship with God? Sounds a little too too simplistic. Purity rings - What are your thoughts on those? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Avoiding An Abuser?

by Natalie from Visionary Womanhood - Deal Breakers: Advice to Unmarried Women (and Daughters) How To Avoid Marrying An Abuser … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Being Faithful For Your Future Husband?

by Bethany Baird from Girl Defined - Being Faithful to a Man You've Never MetEditor's note: One of the big things impressed upon girls in Quiverfull and the Christian Patriarch Movement is staying 'pure' in every way for some future husband supposedly out there waiting for you. I have noticed that similar pressure to conform is almost never placed upon the young males in this movement. Why is that? … [Read more...]