How Abstinence Only Sex Education Led Me Down An Unexpected Path

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by Amber Barnhill cross posted with permission from her blog Atheist By Accident.This was posted earlier in the week at Hemant Mehta's Patheos blog The Friendly AtheistWhen talking about my religious past, I often find myself referencing movies. How else are mainstream humans going to relate? Neo waking up in The Matrix. The barely-audible Asian chick in Pitch Perfect. And, in this case, Drew Barrymore‘s role in Never Been Kissed. If you’ve never seen the movie, the title really says it all.Imagine being an almost-24-year-old, intelligent, moderately-attractive-yet-socially-awkward female venturing into the real world for the first time, having never even held hands with a guy an … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Please Stop Kissing My Future Unknown Wife?

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by an unknown author from To Save A Life - Please Stop Kissing My WifeEditor's note: More purity culture/rape culture garbage. Why is it this man is objecting to anyone possibly kissing his maybe future wife when it sounds like from his own descriptions of his dating life pre-Christ that he likely had a pile of booty calls. Why does the purity standard that calls women 'unwrapped licked candy bars' for normal expressions of romance like holding hands or kissing like they're some sort of Whore of Babylon and not treat the sexually experienced young men of the movement the same way? Male having had some sweet between the sheets mambo action that then confesses it to the Almighty is … [Read more...]

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Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Holding Hands

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

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Dianna Anderson’s ‘Damaged Goods’ Book Review

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’ve been looking forward to Dianna Anderson’s Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity for well over a year now, so when it came in the mail a few weeks ago I was thrilled to pieces. I have so much respect for Dianna’s writing (today’s piece on Christianity and Empire is a must-read), and I was happy that someone like her would be tackling evangelical purity culture in a book. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Purity Rings Reflect Your Respect of God?

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by Kristen Clark from A Lovely Calling (formerly Young Keepers of the Home) - Should Christian Girls Wear Purity Rings?Editor's note: How you treat your purity is a display of your relationship with God? Sounds a little too too simplistic. Purity rings - What are your thoughts on those? … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Avoiding An Abuser?

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by Natalie from Visionary Womanhood - Deal Breakers: Advice to Unmarried Women (and Daughters) How To Avoid Marrying An Abuser … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Being Faithful For Your Future Husband?

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by Bethany Baird from Girl Defined - Being Faithful to a Man You've Never MetEditor's note: One of the big things impressed upon girls in Quiverfull and the Christian Patriarch Movement is staying 'pure' in every way for some future husband supposedly out there waiting for you. I have noticed that similar pressure to conform is almost never placed upon the young males in this movement. Why is that? … [Read more...]

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Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 6 Cinderella

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideWe are at the last section of the Leah/David courtship where Leah shares her post-marital advice. Post-marriage thoughts: No Regrets Do you know how nice it is when we look through family photo albums at Christmas to never see David with another girl? No. I assume Leah means with another girlfriend, but either way, seeing a photo of your husband with an ex shouldn't be traumatic. … [Read more...]

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Dear Unmarried Woman: Are You An Appetizer or Dessert?

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserJust when I think I’ve heard all there is to hear from Evangelicals about sex, purity, and the like, someone will write or say something that I have not heard before. In other words, not all the nuts have fallen from the tree.Recently, Bethany Jett, a thirty-something married Evangelical woman who writes on girly topics from a godly perspective, wrote a blog article about two reasons why a woman should save herself for marriage. Here’s what Jett had to say: … [Read more...]

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Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 3 – Cinderella

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI found this next part confusing. Leah is the author, but spends most of the time talking about David. I'm pretty sure Leah is an actual person - not a Debi character - because bits of the story seem plausible. David flew to Papua New Guinea for a two-month mission trip with orphans when he was 13 years old. Did David go to Papau New Guinea to work with orphans OR take a group of orphans on a two-month mission trip to Papau New Guinea? … [Read more...]

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